Done asking for help

Last Update: May 17, 2018

I’m all done with asking for help

By Paul F. Murray

After reading the blog earlier today with the subhead “I exist to assist” and, more importantly, reading the multitude of comments in support of the basic premise of the article, I am all done with asking for help or advice from anyone in the Wealthy Affiliate community other than Kyle or Carson or one of their assistants at the Help Desk. I will no longer post questions for the community to answer. Nor will I be participating in chat any further.

Why am I saying this? Simply because by reading many of the comments (not all, but most)underneath that blog, I got the clear impression, and the clear message, that there are many, many members of the Wealthy Affiliate community (not everyone, but many, many) who consider it a severe imposition on their time to have to answer the questions that other (perhaps less experienced) WA members ask.

Find information on my own through online searches? I’ve done that in the past, and the results have sometimes been good, and at other times not good at all, just a lot of frustration.

I remember when I had to set up some sort of Google mechanism in order to provide Site Comments. It took me four days—FOUR DAYS—to figure out how to do something that would have taken me no than probably a few minutes if I had had someone to help me. If I have to stop and take several days to figure out something on my own that I don’t understand, it’s going to take me 10 years to complete this training. But then, so be it.

Then there was Google Analytics. I tried to figure how to set up a Google Analytics account on my own from the information Google provided, but I was NEVER able to figure it out—it was simply too complicated for me to understand what to do. I still don’t have a Google Analytics account because I don’t know how to do it. Having a Google Analytics account is pretty damn important for anyone having a website, but I am having to get by without one because I was unable to figure out how to set up a Google Analytics account. So I do need help at times. I hope that I can get it from the Help Desk. I don’t need another day like

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TedP Premium
Hey Paul, I totally understand your frustrations. However, remember there are over a million people in the WA community. For every person that replied to that post with a tone of resentment, there are 10 others that will gladly help.

I know I don't have the time to post blogs and answer questions all day,. Heck it takes what seems like forever just to read the new blogs and questions that post each day by every one else. So, I just do what i can. If i have some insight or feel i can respond with something beneficial i will, and will do so gladly.

Never be afraid to ask a question to the community, that is what Kyle and Carson developed this system for...it is a community that is here to help and support when and if they can.

To those that feel resentful because they feel they "have to" help some one, maybe they shouldn't try to help. Questions are not asked with the intent to make someone resent having to help or answer.

Are there those that will take advantage of people, and trying to just get by doing as little as possible...yes, absolutely, and without a doubt. However, there is always a price for taking shortcuts, and taking advantage of others.

There is a difference between asking question or seeking help and taking advantage of someone. I know when I am asking a question if there is a resource out there to utilize, that is all I'm needing. I don't want to not do the work, that is how you learn. The key is not having to sort though countless post or articles searching for an answer. You want to simple be pointed in the right direction.

Don't give up on the WA community....we are here to help...that what the community is for...just ask Kyle and Carson
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asmithxu Premium
That is such a shame. I have noticed that some people do treat answering questions like it is some sort of burden even though they do it of their own volition.

People really should be more understanding. There is a lot of information out there but oftentimes it really is conflicting and confusing. Even worst, there is a lot of outdated information because of the constant change in technology.

There are some very helpful people- you will notice them helping out in the comments a lot. Honestly, for me, my biggest help has been the person who brought me to WA. His advice is very solid and I can talk to him in private messages rather than blasting my issues everywhere. However, you do not seem to have someone like that (I did not see such a person in your feed- usually they will be one of the first to welcome you).

If I were to give you any advice (completely unsolicited advice at that!) I would say that you should look around and find out who is successful. Look for people who have good and established websites. Then see if they are helpful in the community. Really judge them because not everyone out there is good.

If you find someone that seems good, approach them and ask if they will help with your questions in the private messages.

There are people out there who are willing to help. I am sure that you can find them!!!
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MarionBlack Premium
There are lots of ways you can find stuff at Wealthy Affiliate The issue Mel raised is not about needing help understanding some of the lessons. I think it's just that people are a little tired of new members expecting to have the work done for them.
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Desiverion Premium
Work is one thing. Every member has to do their own work. If they dont success doesnt come.Answering questions is a whole other ball of wax. Thats what we're here for. To help each other. I get to the point myself where im geez dude just do some damn research... I figured it out! At the same time we have to temper that judgement with a mindset....None of us know everything and a lot of us are geared different and grasp certain concepts faster. I encourage everyone to take the time to help the next person. #HCILYT Follow me on Twitter @BeyondBoxReality.com How Can I Love you Today?
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MarionBlack Premium
If I can't help someone from my own experience I try to point them in the right direction.
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Desiverion Premium
You are awesome and on point! Thank you so much. You rock! Keep helping people here. Seems we've lost a little bit of that community experience and it takes people like you to keep it on track. Helping the next man we ALL succeed. If anyone sees this and is interested @BeyondBoxReality on twitter. Leave your own handle and we will follow or hit us up on Twitter! We love you all!
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CarolMeador Premium
You are always so wonderful about responding to my questions and pointing me where to go when I get lost. Thanks so much for all your help, Marion.
Carol
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RitaAnn Premium
Same here. At times I'm not sure how to answer so I try to point the right way also.
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Desiverion Premium
Hey brother! I havent been on in a while but my wife set ours up and Ima talk to her tom and see if she remembers.. I know its frustrating at times. Keep plugging. Keep learning. Even the setbacks are learning experiences... So in essence you cant lose as long as you dont quit. We have several sites making us revenue now and it wasnt easy. It took a lot of time and effort. DONT QUIT and dont stop asking questions. The ones who dont answer screw them. Ask anyway till you get the answer. Lesson? Persistence.
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Nadja3 Premium
Great Comment. It is getting tough sometimes... but we have to make a plan to resolve the issues occurring and move forward
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RitaAnn Premium
That's a great way to encourage, and yes, you're absolutely right, ever give up.

RitaAnn~
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1VibrantLife Premium
I'm sorry that you are frustrated. Jay's webinars have always been very helpful and there is one on Google Analytics. If this helps you then great.
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