Why We Need To Upgrade Our Operating System From Time To Time
Not Your Computer's OS - Your Own!
In the struggle to lead an abundant life you can sometimes reach crisis point. In a worst case scenario, this can lead to breakdown and becoming what Society sees as another mental health statistic. Talking pills and receiving counseling are typically the 'help' that is on offer from 'The System', but at the heart of it all is the need to gain an understanding of how your mind works.
Living In The Void
You and I, like 95 % people, live or have lived in that place I call the Void. You're neither poor nor rich. You are surviving but not thriving. 'Too much month at the end of the money' and all that. The dreams of childhood and the idealism of youth have given way to 'conformity' to societal stereotypes. Study hard, get a job, work hard, get paid, retire.
You Were Born To Do More Than Simply Work, Pay The Bills And Die!
Or were you? We are all supposed to be in charge of our own destiny. And indeed we are, but have you given that control over to someone else without even realizing it?
It can also be said that from the moment you were born, your life and destiny were already mapped out in front of you.
The reason for this is that your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND is always listing to what is going on around you and it is being programmed by our environment without you even knowing it, by the 'Flock' - parents, teachers, friends, all those people who taught to conform to the 'rules' just as they learned to do so from their environment.
The Conscious vs The Sub-Conscious Mind
When you were young, you used to dream. The little boy straddling the broomstick was gallantly riding a stallion into battle, the little girl dressing her dolls was rehearsing her wedding to the handsome Prince. Yes, very 'gender stereotypical' in this day and age, I know, but I'm fifty-something! This was your sub-conscious mind at work. Dreaming, creating.
Then as we got older and 'wiser' there was no more time for dreaming. Our conscious mind took over as we were told we needed to 'fit-in' and survive by doing following the path that society and 'the system' expect of us.
Nobody wants to be rejected, and so you 'fit in'. Happiness is then simply a bonus.
It is when your environment changes that the problems can start. You start to write new 'programmes' as you transition into adulthood and your logical (conscious) mind starts to take over from your creative (sub-conscious) mind. You start to 'feel' less and 'think' more.
If you think of your brain as a computer, up to the age of 9 or 10 years, you are building your OS with the basic programmes you need for day to day survival - walking, talking, eating, drinking, developing your inter-actional skills, etc.
Moving forward into adulthood, the changes you go through place you into a new environment. If it's not where you want to be, or if the changes are too extreme, the fact that your conscious and sub-conscious minds are now so removed from each other can create conflict within you and cause problems such as lack of self-worth, anger, depression, etc.
You are now trying to install the latest software on an outdated OS and when this is done on a computer, it starts to slow down and eventually stops. So an upgrade is then needed.
When people are experiencing not 'feeling' enough, they become anxious, confused and depressed. All these things are driven by feelings, not logic! They reside in that OS which is the sub-conscious mind and they conflict with the programmes which are running in the logical conscious mind. The programmes have become incompatible with the OS.
We only live at most 5% in our logical conscious minds. The other 95% of the time, we live in our subconscious minds, and when operating with a bad OS, will logic or emotion win?
It's a sad fact that the help available within the 'System' is more geared around fixing the programmes that are running, rather than the Operating System itself.
I battled with depression and anger issues for over 30 years. They started in my late childhood and early teens. As I was pushed down a certain route in life by those I looked up to, I felt like a fish out of water in my environment for years, which only made the problem worse.
The same sort of thing may have happened to you.
If you aren't where you want to be, give some serious thought to some change. Decide what you want to be, do and have, and find the courage to make that change even if it means some short-term upheaval.
A Little Self-help Gem I Found
I've blogged before about a couple of amazing personal-development books called 'The Language Of Letting Go' and 'More Language Of Letting Go' by Meldody Beattie.
You can read the blog post here.
I'm currently reading another excellent book called 'Creative Visualization' by Shakti Gawain.
These books have helped me enormously to come to terms with my past, clarify what I want in my future, but most importantly of all, to accept my present for what it is and be thankful for the all too easy to overlook joys in my life now.
When you learn to do this, it won't transform you to that magical place straight away, but it will help you feel better in the present and enjoy the journey you have already embarked upon by joining Wealthy Affiliate.
Have a great WA day folk. Onwards and upwards!