Coming out - My Secret Life as an Affiliate Marketer

Last Update: June 19, 2018

After reading a couple of posts yesterday (or was it this morning?) I find it quite intriguing that many of those who commented have not told anyone about their "secret life" as an affiliate marketer.

If you missed the blogs you can check them out here:

https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/davidfrady/blog/skeptical-of...

https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/brettbrtsk/blog/do-you-share...

It seems we are either worried about the response, or can't be bothered to explain it and are content to stay in the closet so to speak.

I started to tell close friends about my new career path back in March, after I had checked out WA for a few weeks just to be sure I wasn't being scammed. Once I had decided I was committed to this course of action, to become a successful online entrepreneur, so I could eventually give up my day job, I was excited.

In my experience most peoples eyes just glazed over and they tutted things like "oh yeah sounds interesting", but I could tell by their tone they actually weren't interested (I'm astute like that!).

So I stopped telling anyone.

I had discussed it with my other half, and explained it was a long term course of action, and that I would be spending about $400 AUS to commit for a year to really give it my all and see what happens.

He could feel my enthusiasm and being the supportive fella that he is, said "ïf anyone can do it, it's you". Plus secretly I think he started trawling vintage car websites in anticipation of spending our new-found wealth.

So I find it quite disheartening to read from members that their husbands/wives are either not interested or worse downright negative about our choice to pursue an online career.

For any of you experiencing this I say good on you for persevering in the face of adversary.

YOU GUYS ROCK!

We don't need to come out of the closet, we just need to prove them wrong, and do it in the most spectacular fashion.

Let's show the world (and those closest to us) that we can be wildly successful and live the life of our dreams.

Here's too many more success stories created here at WA.

I look forward to reading yours and sharing mine.

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LeahHaar Premium
wow I find myself in this position. my hubby supports anything I do, he does not understand it and thats ok he trust me ( sometimes a scary thought) but as i could not make success in a MLM company I have doubted my self and was ridiculed by close family and friends :see I told you, you cant do that its all a scam, go get a real job" and yes it hits hard. It does make me more determined but yes I feel like I live a secret life behind the office door.
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HeidiY Premium
Put the MLM right behind you Leah, you will be successful here and thankfully it's not a scam.

I am so determined to make this work as a fulltime job, and give up my 9-5 I won't allow any other thought. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of WHEN :)
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LeahHaar Premium
Love it, absolute true words. Thanks for the reminder
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davehayes Premium
Leah, MLM is hard work, I have done it and consider myself a good networker, WA is a breeze by comparison.
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LeahHaar Premium
Thanks Dave, all of this is new to me 18months inMLM and did not get very far so I searched out other ways to earn money and a way i could resonate with. here is to WA and a bright future
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davehayes Premium
Great post, full of conviction!

Here at WA we are in charge of our lifestyle and have our own business, What we learn here and apply will make our posture greater and more authoritive, I know this as its happening in not just my life but others here who are committed to it

Remember, when starting a traditional B&M business, ANYWHERE, you have a 3-5 year plan, before you even make profit

With WA, there is a damn good chance, you will do that withing the first year, by applying the teaching and the yearly membership is no more than online 'business rates' just as they are in a traditional B&M business, but without the head aches that go with it
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HeidiY Premium
Thank you Dave. The more involved I get in this business the more I know it is for me.

I think it is the eternal optimist in me, every time I send a blog out to social media I think could this be the time I get a referral or will this be the blog that goes to #1 and gets some traffic flowing?
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davehayes Premium
That will happen, which blog are you sending out to social media, is it on your profile, so I can have a read of it please
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Vickic3 Premium
people who respond negatively are sometimes stuck in their mundane lives and are too scared to move forward.
I have had people say, I have no time for that kind of thing, however they have time to sit mindlessly surfing the net or watching TV r some other "going nowhere" things
Those people who are willing to see what great things life can bring will join and when you show the negative people you are successful, they will want a piece of the action for sure
As long as you are on track and your partner supports you then you are on your way - The sky is the linit
All the very best
Vicki
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HeidiY Premium
So very true Vicki, it's funny how people have no time and yet can sit for hours watching TV!

I have to say I am a huge MasterChef fan and so business does get put on hold for an hour each night while I watch that one show :)
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Vickic3 Premium
Same
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davehayes Premium
Ooooh I like that reply.
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tobocrs Premium
YOu know, I'm among those who haven't bragged to friends and relations very much. Not sure why, certainly not due to embarrassment. I'm even aware that, like dieting or any other difficult, long-term project, announcing it to the world creates a level of commitment and of taking responsibility that "hiding' doesn't.
As I think on it, I think it has to do mostly with wanting to get further in the training, get my website better situation, especially learn more about using Social Media to know the best way to leverage my contact lists.
I'm now thinking that's kinda lame, excusey, and not worthy of my commitment! Resolved: I'll post on Facebook and Instagram tomorrow, after I finish the post that I'm writing now....
Thanks, Heidi for getting me thinking along these lines! Another example of how 'You Guys Rock'!
Tim
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HeidiY Premium
Good on you Tim, get out there!

When I posted on my personal FB page about it, I just said people had asked me where and how I started to create my website and then explained about WA.

I don't think it needs to be a hard sell, I'm not the hard sell kinda person. We all know the platform is fantastic and I believe our enthusiasm for it will shine through.
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davehayes Premium
You can train and train as much as you need to, but when its applied the results come. As for facebook, I seriously don't go anywhere near it.
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tobocrs Premium
I realized after I wrote this that I was just continuing a life-long pattern to keep myself from doing new, different things: "wait 'til it's better/complete", and "I'll be able to do that once I get properly trained". Both are excuses to stay comfortably inert, and I've battled them whenever I figure out that's what I'm doing. Now that I have, I'll be jumping out there as an online marketer within the week (some family obligations filling the next 4 days)!
Thanks, Dave & Heidi, too!
Tim
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davehayes Premium
Tim, glad it helped, nothing in life is ever perfect and we learn as we go, which gives us value to others, who may be in the same boat... Til one of them tries something new everything stays teh same. But good on you and I look forward to seeing the results
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MessyJess Premium
Awesome post, Heidi! I've been needing this.

You know how we ask friends and family how their day at work was and all that? Well, my family is doing that with me. It's not a bad thing but the way they can phrase it makes me feel extremely self-conscious.

"Did you make any money today?"

"Well no, and I probably won't for a while, because that's not how this works."

Suddenly they're even more confused, and possibly even worried (although to their credit, they do try to encourage me but I can't help but notice their hesitant to do so).

Each time I'm suddenly bombarded with my inner critic and negativity. Even though I have no plans of giving up, my brain seems to ping-pong between thoughts of determination and doubt.

Thanks for posting this. It couldn't come at a better time :)
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HeidiY Premium
I like Heyday's comment below, we can always liken it to further education and just say we are in training and it takes time to learn. Which of course it does.

I also have the determination and doubt ping-pong happening. It will get easier once a few sales come round and we can see that what we are doing is going to work.

It's great to read everyone else's success stories and they keep me going, but gosh I am looking forward to having that first legit sale all of my own.

Keep up the good work, we can do it!
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MessyJess Premium
Yes, we can! Getting anxious for those first sales X)

Looking forward to reading your success story, Heidi :)
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HeidiY Premium
And yours Jess
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Vickic3 Premium
Totally natural feelings for you to have
Being successful can change you life in so many ways and for those around you, they may inadvertently want you to remain who you were and since joining WA, I imagine inside you have changed quite a lot, becoming more confident as you go on this wonderful journey.
Never let anyone get into your head. Share small and do BIG
You can do it
All the best
Vicki
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MessyJess Premium
Thanks, Vicki!

This was really encouraging :)
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Vickic3 Premium
You are really welcome :)
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RAFStuart Premium
This is very interesting, as I tend to tell people that are not family, just been telling the lass, who acts as our secretary at the Legion about it. Happy to shout to others, but keep it close to my chest when it comes to family. Except my eldest grandson, who does understand what I am trying to do.
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HeidiY Premium
Glad you have support from your grandson, family can be a tricky thing. I spend so much time on my laptop at home these days I couldn't not tell the other half lol.

After dinner each night I say "well I'm off to work" and retire to the office (our spare room) for hours on end.
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davehayes Premium
I am actually very proud to be an affiliate marketer, given the way the world is and economy, its actually the one industry that guarantees work, especially in the hosting and business education arena, which we are in

Without WA, there would be no websites, sure there are other hosts out there who provide WP hosting... but none with the additional benefits or great support available here
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HeidiY Premium
Here in Australia, our largest Telco, Telstra are putting off another 8,000 people. I will be glad when I am not reliant on a boss for my income and am making it myself.

You just never know when you are next on the chopping block!

I also am proud to be an affiliate marketer :)
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davehayes Premium
Telco... Wow I though they went butt ages ago, like years ago, because in past life for a while I used their discounted phone service over here in the UK and did quite well with it, but bottom line was there was no significant commission to be had and so i moved away from it

But, as you say, its much better when you control you income, as opposed to having it in someone elses hands
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Heyday Premium
I think the main problem Heidi, is when you decide to share or divulge your WA intentions to your nearest and dearest you irreversibly put yourself in a vulnerable position and you add pressure to yourself until you can prove your ability and success to them.
Ok, on the front of it, they may be supportive and imo the only way you can expect to maintain that support is to package or liken WA to a further education course, which of course,is perfectly acceptable due to the work involved
Best wishes
Heyday
P.s. I chose not to add the extra pressure, mainly because I already have enough bubbling away in other life aspects
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davehayes Premium
Thats a very valid point, but when you look around at other ways to earn income and how people do it, Affiliate Marketing is excellent and a bit like MLM. we all do it every day with the affiliations we choose, Football team, Household products, car

We just don't cal them affiliations!
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Heyday Premium
Totally agree Dave and WA is doing a great job of packaging affiliate marketing in a better and more glamorous way. You could dress me up in a nice designer shirt and a sharp suit, and even though I think that I look good, unfortunately I wouldn’t be able to carry it off as well as someone like David Beckham or George clooney!!
Best wishes
Heyday
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davehayes Premium
Get where your coming from which is why the Direct Response Marketing industry is the most exciting in the world because we can attract WHO we WANT to work with within the affiliate marketing world

I think it may even be the largest growth market online
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HeidiY Premium
I think that's why I am not getting any pushback from home, I keep saying how much I am learning and that it will take time for me to understand how it all works. Therefore there is no immediate expectation of making money, I need to understand and put it into practice first.

Funny how everyone seems to think any form of internet business makes money the second you launch your website, but wouldn't expect it from any other business.
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Vickic3 Premium
Well said
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MiaL Premium
I'm still in the closet too! I can't share on linked in or even on my personal FB page even because I'm connected to so many colleagues and it isn't a good look. Yet. So for now it's still a secret :)
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davehayes Premium
Be proud and come out!!!

Have you eve thought that one of your colleagues might be thinking about doing what you do and doesn't know how to start?

S/he could even be your golden key to new opportunities : )
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HeidiY Premium
I am a little careful about what my work colleagues can see, or I think they can see. Hopefully none of them are WA members, cause I keep talking about giving up my day job lol.

I am proud to be an affiliate marketer, but I agree it will be much easier to talk about when we are all successful millionaires.
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Vickic3 Premium
Come out Mia- It's dark in there. Shine a light and tell everyone and be proud of what you are doing. The naysayers will be around but who cares. We know here at WA it s the best
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HeidiY Premium
ROFL, yep I'm scared of the dark, come out :)
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Bald Eagle Premium
Been there done that - now single and still determined.
Best way to prove it is to be successful.
PS Buy that man a vintage car.
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HeidiY Premium
Sometimes we are better off without the negative in our lives, it can be awfully draining having to deal with it on a daily basis.

Ahh, maybe one day he will get his vintage car :)
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Mlindstrom51 Premium
Agree with you 100%,! Its satisfying to show people that you can and are doing well! Besides, there are to many negative minded people who, do not take charge of their own dreams. All the more reason to stay focused and succeed.
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HeidiY Premium
Yes indeed, staying the course will see us succeed, and achieve our dreams.
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Memorylaneuk Premium
Yes it is very sad that people in our lives are not that supportive. It’s not that mine are not supportive but the subject doesn’t really interest them other than my niece who is a blogger.
I just accept that if I were a dentist they would be bored if I talked about that too much too. If they went on and on about their jobs I too may be bored.
Our enthusiasm is not always shared by others.
With Grace and Gratitude
Karen
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HeidiY Premium
Absolutely Karen, I can see while my other half is very supportive, he really isn't interested in SEO, google rankings and external links lol, even when I tell him so enthusiastically.

I feel we are the lucky ones, even though I do get the "have you made any money yet" questions he is at least understanding that it takes a while.
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MKearns Premium
You ought to affiliate link your post Heidi!
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davehayes Premium
Absolutely, great reply Mike
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HeidiY Premium
And I just might do that Mike, my new MMO site is ticking along and I have linked back to one of mine and one another members blog already.

It's a great tool that affiliate link :) Now just need some people to click on one and sign up.
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davehayes Premium
Great advice from Mike, Nice!
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phakacha8 Premium
Awesome post Heidi,
Your secret bits of acts will overturn your neighbours' amazement one fine day.

To your SUCCESS.
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HeidiY Premium
And to your success phakacha, may we all achieve the levels of success we aim for.
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SachiKashi Premium
What a great observation! Great post!
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HeidiY Premium
Thanks for the comment Sachi, most aprpeciated
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