Should You Listen To Your Family & Friend's Advice?

Last Update: July 24, 2013

It all depends on the advice, the source and situation. When was the last time you used your microwave oven as a GPS device to find directions to a restaurant? Hopefully never. A microwave was built to cook food but damn sure wasn't built to lead you to it!

It Just Doesn't Add Up!

But yet, many of us will seek the advice from family members, friends and co-workers who've never been where we want to go! Now really let that marinate in your mind. Don't get offended by it. We all love our family and friends. (Well most of them.) However our family and friends will usually provide advice based on their own limited experiences, fears and doubts. But I'm here to tell you, that you're not like them.

Their experience or fears don't necessarily mean they will be your own. There is a reason that entrepreneurs are a minority. 99.9% of the population doesn't have the balls for it! (excuse my french!) We're an elite group here at WA. We've all made the decision that what's great for the rest of society isn't good enough for us or our families.

The World Is Flat...

Remember when people thought the world was flat? That's basically how most of your family and friends will view this venture and anything that requires growth. To them, you might as well say you're the tooth fairy or a damn unicorn. That's how unbelievable the life you're embarking on is to them. So how can you really ask them for their advice?

When I was coming up in this business, everyone thought I was smoking that "stuff"! They said I would never be able to work at home. Fortunately I'm the type of personality that if you tell me I can't do something I will work relentlessly to prove you wrong and make you eat your words.

It's very interesting to hear from family, friends and co-workers now. I hear a lot more of, "Oh I always knew you could do it!". "I was just scared for you". Blah, blah, blah, blah. LOL Don't get me wrong I know the intentions of my family and friends were rooted in good. However I also recognized that the advice I was getting were from people that never moved outside the blueprint set for them by society. So I held their opinion in lesser regard when it came to this industry.

Birds Of A Feather Flock Together

If you want advice about something, be sure you're asking people that have been successful at what you want to do. After all, they've proven that they have the recipe for success. Your job is to seek the advice of people that have the ingredients so you can bake your own success story.

With that said here's a great quote to help you with this concept.

So what do you guys think? Did you ask advice of family and friends about this business? What kind of great or poor advice did they give you? Did you listen to it? Chime in below. I'd love to hear your experiences.

Hopefully you enjoyed this article. If you did, please use the links at the top of the page to share the article to others. It might help them get through their own doubts and bad advice about pursuing your dreams.

Thanks.

Eddy

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Mike177 Premium
Hi, Eddy-
Thanks for your congratulations for sticking to it. I have tried so many things where they promised "mucho dinero" within days or weeks but it turned into months and little "dinero". In fact, I think that I passed on a chance to sign up with WA a few years back because it looked like too much work-especially compared to the quick buck ones.
I will finish feedback on your websites later today. I already did one last night before I went to sleep.
Thanks again for all of your help and encouragement.
Mike
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Mike. I'm glad you found your way back to WA. I definitely dabbled in things that promised the sun, moon and stars. But I quickly learned it was all hype. WA keeps it real and sets the expectations that you'll have to work and it's going to take a while to see results. And depending on where you are in your mindset and life, you'll appreciate this candor or not.
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TsigemariamG Premium
Your post just made smile all the way, interesting!!
Yes, I would ask the advice of my family and friends ONLY if I believe that they can give some positive advice. Or I wouldn't waste my time. I just find another way to get support and I seek for help from those who are like-minded.
Thank you Eddy!
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PhilipC1 Premium
Oh this is ringing huge bells with me regarding family and friends. The usual reaction when I first started was a vacant glare of disbelief, and those kinds of looks, would tear the heart out of any warrior soul.

Only makes me more determined and the success will be all the more sweeter when they see I do not fit inside their perception of me. And at that point I will be humble and fulfilled enormously.

Now its great to express a decent level of success but still they have doubts. Others are coming round.

Thanks Eddy, this was very applicable to me.
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EddySalomon Premium
I knew you would appreciate this article.
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PhilipC1 Premium
Shame peeps can't be more supportive LOL. Never mind we soldier on into new horizons and let humanity wake up when half of the worlds jobs are given to AI bots. Adapt to overcome is the only way - the other way is to be a slave for some one else's dream. Not good :-) .
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EddySalomon Premium
I don't blame people. We were all programed from day one to be employees not entrepreneurs. So when people aren't supportive it's not malicious. They are just sharing what reality has been fed to them. Fortunately entrepreneurs are inheritly stubborn so we push forward even when others say we can't or even when we fail.
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PhilipC1 Premium
Very true Eddy. Schooling years is all about working for others .However, there was never a clear cut set of actions to take when economies keep on crashing and work is only for 1 or 2 years or even less.

No, you are right, best not hold anything bad against anyone as best we can so we are freed up in our minds to pursue a higher goal.

Thanks for the clarity Eddy :-) .
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EddySalomon Premium
Indeed.
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N33 Premium
Thank you, Philip, it does good to my soul to know I am not alone.
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katmac Premium
This makes so much sense, again Eddy, thanks for being so upfront, real and right lol!. Although I haven't asked for anyone's advice, when it comes to the direction I want to take, others are consistently telling me to go in a different direction than where my own thoughts and ideas are telling me ie my blog. I know working on my own blog is different to friends ideas, they aren't doing this themselves, and they don't know how this works (so I'll send them a link when I get the chance). It makes total sense to follow those who are already are doing this themselves and follow my instincts.
Thanks for the support Eddy (with a y)!
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EddySalomon Premium
Don't worry about your friends. I just stop telling people initially. Because your friends and family may plant seeds of doubts. So just discuss your business with other members of WA who actually understand it.

When you become successful, your friends will come around. Now all my friends and family all of sudden believe that this business is real. lol
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N33 Premium
I love that sentence : "Fortunately I'm the type of personality that if you tell me I can't do something I will work relentlessly to prove you wrong and make you eat your words."
And I will love to make it become true. You know what I mean Eddy
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EddySalomon Premium
I'm glad you have the same mentality and you will make it happen.
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I never seek family when trying to better myself in anything I do. Most are content and set in their ways. I've never wanted that, I'd rather pave my own path and leave a trail to follow.
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EddySalomon Premium
That's awesome Glenn.
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Sharlita Premium
I don't think I've ever really asked for much advice from my family because I'm the type of person that just ventures to the path less traveled by my friends and family and it makes them a little nervous lol. So I knew their advice would be to redirect my curiosity. But I do share with them what I'm interested in or participating in and let them voice their opinions. I've been who I am so long now and they know I'm unconventional so whenever they have a "crazy" idea or thought they come to me for support and advice. I love that because I love for people to know it's perfectly OK to explore outside of the box. I love that quote up there btw, absolutely hilarious lol
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EddySalomon Premium
It sounds like march the beat of your own drum Sharlita. So that's great.
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Vijay0204 Premium
Hi

When I decided to start my own Freelance Graphic Designer venture then I faced the similar situation and I proved them all wrong........... planning to do the same again.......LOL....

With you guys it seems very much possible .........but there is a lot to learn .........uuuuuuufffffff............

Can anybody tell......should I start by Promoting WA ...... or should I go for Amazon, Share a sale .....etc......advice needed ???????
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EddySalomon Premium
It's great that you were able to do that Vijay.
If you're trying to decide whether to promote WA or not, read this:
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Vijay0204 Premium
Thanks for the info......
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Vijay
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RogerHumbke Premium
Loved the article. I will not be asking my relatives for advice, but do plan on showing them the results of my patience and persistence.
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EddySalomon Premium
I'm glad it resonates with you.
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PeterVX Premium
Eddy, you hit the nail on the head! We should not seek advice from people who have never been there, no matter how much we love and respect them. Seek advice only from yourself and from those who have been there, done that and made a success of it.
Great post!
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Peter!

Glad you liked it!
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LadybugLove Premium
A HEARTY AMEN Peter!!
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MKearns Premium
A great idea Eddy. It's always well to test out advice under various circumstances to be sure of it!
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Michael
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lgobeille Premium
I'm very fortunate that nobody has tried to discourage me from giving this a try. I was mostly afraid of what my brother the MBA would say, but he is remarkably supportive! It helps that his son's friend did a YouTube video that got so many likes, he actually got a check! My husband is also cheering me on, having tried this sort of thing a number of years ago. He quit because he hated the writing! The truth is I'M my own worst critic, but this time...it just feels right to be doing this. Thanks for the post, Eddy!
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LadybugLove Premium
Hey Eddy!

I'm soo glad I stumbled on this blog post...Thank you sooo much!! This is such a validation!!

It really resonated with me. You see, I began building my following on my closed FB group, Barefoot Journaling Chronicles on April 21, 2015 with a charter membership of just 5 members!! I am now at 806!!!!!

My husband of 3+ years has been bugging me to get a REAL J-O-B and stop playing with this journaling/scrapbooking/short story writing thingy hobby (says if it's not making money, it's only a hobby). His step-mom is the same as he...had a bad experience with a former husband on 'get rich quick schemes' that never panned out. So she says to me that she just can't support my ideas.

Does this stop me??? NO WAY JOSE!! It gives me a lot more FIRE to press on and make them eat all the poison they are throwing at me!!! What a bitter pill it'll be to swallow!! I can tell you that!!

I know my value and my determination to see this empire building through! I know what I'm capable of and I know I have what it takes to be all I'm meant to be and more. I've been plagued by other ppls fears and objections for far too long and it's high time I take action and let them watch my exhaust as I blaze my trail right on past them.

Here's to new beginnings, courage, and a desire to have something wonderful that I know is waiting out there for me. I just have to reach out and take it!! And that's what I WILL DO!!

This was such an inspiration to me Eddy!!

I bow in humble gratitude...

~Evon :)
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FLedet Premium
That is funny...This is so me...if you think I cant do something I will Show You Up!!! I have some friends that thinks this is a bogus scam but actually for the most part I have a good support team from family but some are confused about what WA really is or they just look at you with a dumb founded look cause they are clueless to technology. But all in all...Stand Up and Let Ya Inner Man Shine and MAKE IT HAPPEN....GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL..Good article Eddy :)
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EddySalomon Premium
I guess we think alike Flo. Lol
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FLedet Premium
Most Def we do...Great minds think alike lol :)
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EddySalomon Premium
Lol
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aneeshmohgma Premium
great message eddy
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EddySalomon Premium
Glad you liked Aneesh
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AnnCatane Premium
HI Eddy, great article once again. You do hit the spot right on. But I do listen to family... fortunately they are all very supportive :) It wasn't always like that though and since i have proven then wrong a lot of times, i guess i have gained their respect. I was once told that I will never finish my nursing degree, that i will end up pregnant and unwed. 4 yrs later (BSN in the Philippines is 4 yrs) i presented that person with a diploma and a few months later, my license. I am like you Eddy, when people tell me something against my belief and capabilities, i prove them wrong. It might take me a bit longer but i do it and make sure that they're watching.
Thank you once again for giving me that nudge every now and then. Thanks for thinking about my welfare here at WA. You rock Eddy with a Y!
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EddySalomon Premium
I'm glad this resonated with you Ann. It sounds like we have a similar mindset.
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AffFranE82 Premium
Yes I agree with you Eddy. When seeking advice about your business ask the right person. Mostly you just have to trust yourself and listen to good advice and ignoring the rest. People always going to have something to say whether you ask or not. You just got to filter as needed. Once again thank you for your advice.
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EddySalomon Premium
Indeed Francesca. You're very welcome.
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eevang1122 Premium
Great article Eddy, like TheGreenBean I've only shared this endeavor with my wife and she's all for it. I'll wait for the rewards before I tell anyone else. Reason being is that like most of us here, I've been scammed by a few internet schemes.

Really like your sites by the way, I hope to someday be able to write and blog as well as you.

Best wishes,
Eric
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EddySalomon Premium
I figured you would appreciate it Eric. It's great your wife supports you. It does make the ups and downs of this business a lot easier to deal with.

Thanks for the compliment about my site. I'm sure in time you'll be writing better than me! :)
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eevang1122 Premium
You write and blog like a seasoned pro so I doubt it lol, but thanks for the encouragement.

Eric
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EddySalomon Premium
Hers my secret. I just write as if I'm having a conversation. ;)
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TheGreenBean Premium
Yeah, that's a great article Eddy!

I've already circled around this particular block a couple times now though, so I know better then to seek advice in that neighborhood. Really, the only family that I've shared this project with is my wife, and she's in full support, as for the rest, I will wait for the rewards before I share with them.
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EddySalomon Premium
Hey Chris,

I'm glad you like the article and are already putting it in practice.
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StubearBlack Premium
Most of the time I get the "oh that's just a pipe dream" from family, friends and co-workers. It really gets my blood boiling because I know it's not true.
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EddySalomon Premium
Welcome to the club. It's great motivation to shut them up later. ;)
It's very satisfying when you finally succeed and all the naysayers change their tune.
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zora2 Premium
Hey Eddie. Thanks for the encouragement. Actually my friends and family have been very encouraging to me also. They check out my site and give me ideas or critiques. But my husband sometimes says :"Have you been on that computer all day? You have computer eyes" lol
He knows I am working toward something so he is proud.
Thanks again Eddie for checking in. Blessings
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EddySalomon Premium
Well that's a blessing Rosalyn! It makes this journey that much easier.

By the way it's Eddy with a y not ie. ;)
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zora2 Premium
Oops! Sorry Eddy I keep forgetting. Blessings
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EddySalomon Premium
No worries. Blessings right back at ya! Who couldn't use more of it?
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gquinlan Premium
Bad advice is all around us Eddy. I told my wife what I was doing at WA and, with the best of intentions I'm sure, she put all sorts of imagined obstacles in my way. It eventually turned out she's never EVER clicked on a web ad!

Her reason? She's scared of being bombarded with nasty things! You can imagine the rest of the conversation. Now she's a very intelligent woman with a highly paid professional career (and I love her to bits in case you're wondering!) but - in this day and age - really? How long has the Internet been going?

A classic example of fear of the unknown. This is what holds lots of people back from success if they're on the receiving end of bad (i.e. misinformed) advice. If other WAers are reading this, don't let it hold you back too.
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EddySalomon Premium
Well said Graham! Fortunately we have a great community like WA where we don't allow our fears and misinformation to stop us from moving forward. Gotta love our family and friends but we don't necessarily have to listen to them when it comes to this business or pursuing our dreams.

I try to take advice from people that are already where I want to be!
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Opheliah Premium
I know exactly where you're coming from. I've tried telling friends about WA and the response was far from positive. I have to admit it kinda got to me, so I'm really glad I found this article. I consoled myself with the fact, just as you wrote, Eddy, that they don't really know what they're talking about. They haven't been to the WA website, watched the videos, read the articles, talked in live chat.

I would have liked them to be more supportive, probably mostly because I'm the kind of person who benefits from dialog and "social brainstorming" (Not sure what else to call it). But in truth it will probably be much better to find some like-minded people in here to brainstorm with.

Thank you for the reminder, Eddy! =)
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Opheliah! Most of the time when you tell people you're going to do something outside the norm, folks will try to dissuade you. It's a built in defense mechanism we all have.

But if we listened to it all the time, we would miss out in so much in our lives. As nice as it would be to have the support of our family, friends, etc. unfortunately when it comes to a business like this chances are we won't.

But that's why WA was built as a community and not just a course so we can get the proper motivation from like minded folks. So if you ever feel alone, all you have to do is log in here and start talking to folks to get you back on track!

Thanks for chiming in!
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Ayorifred13 Premium
Hello Eddy, I very much agree with you. A friend of mine and even myself has been a victim of online scam and you know his decision? " I will never waste a single penny on any online business again". Secondly at home my spouse has ever told that, "there are more serious family issues to attend to than to waste money on the internet". I took my own decision to subscribe to WA. So hear but do not go by the advice of someone who has never succeeded nor knows what your are trying to pursue.Then someone who has a different priority like my wife, you only need to get to inform her when you have succeeded. Thanks for y our advice....
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Ayorifred13! I love when people say they won't try something again because of a bad experience. That's like saying you'll never try to walk again because you fell once or twice. Or you won't use your cell phone again because it dropped a call. It's such a misguided argument. Lol. I was scammed a couple of times online too. I could only imagine everything I would have missed out on if I jumped into such a conclusion. Fortunately you didn't make that bad decision and you're here on WA discovering you can make money online and not everyone is out here to scam you.

Don't worry about your friend, wife or anyone else that hasn't achieved what you want. You're eventual success will make them see the light. Thanks for chiming in.
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jwgman Premium
Perfect and right on target, Eddy. Good job, my friend.
Jim
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Jim! Glad you like it.
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BBUJOL05 Premium
LOve ittttt...this was right on time for me. I was JUST thinking about how I don't want to tell anyone what I'm doing until it's done because of their limited paradigms....yea. This was on point.
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EddySalomon Premium
Glad you liked it! Yeah you don't need to share what you're doing with folks that won't support you or understand what you're doing. Otherwise they will pass off those limited paradigms to you and plant seeds of doubt. We don't need any more seeds like that, we have enough of an internal supply we're all trying to shed. lol

Thanks for chiming in.
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wtbee2013 Premium
Boy oh boy do I know that...all was well until last night while sharing some of the things that has been happening on my site and my articles my husband pretty much unloaded every negative type of seed on me....That hurts, my kids have been supportive. I don't know what else to say I am just bummed. ;O(
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EddySalomon Premium
Hey WTBee I'm sorry to hear that. It really does hurt when the person we love the most isn't supportive of our effort. I was very fortunate that my wife was just the opposite. When I was ready to give up, she pushed me forward.

Just know your husband is working with a different paradigm and mindset than you are now in.It's not malicious, it's just a different perspective based on a different awareness of the world. He's a fish in a pond. He can't fathom or understand a world outside that. You've developed into a frog that has decided to jump out of that pond and explore the land around the pond and now you're trying to jump in a bigger pond.

So that's how you to view the situation. Eventually your husband will realize the error of his ways when you become successful. But you need to be strong enough to reach that point. Fortunately you have us here and your kids. Keep your head up! You're on the right path!
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wtbee2013 Premium
Thank you Eddy. Brooke just came over to give her love and support. I am so glad you have your wife's support. If my kids weren't there and all of you I would just quit....

Brooke, I feel for you. I don't tell anyone but my family either. Like Eddy said we don't need any more negative seeds.

I will be here for all of you too. Thanks again ; O)
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome WTBee2013, Isn't great to have folks like us that can relate to your experience. Imagine the poor people that aren't in WA trying to maneuver these type of emotions and obstacles on their own!
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betcha Premium
Oh, I feel you all...same boat ride here. So rough it may seem but it's ok. Let's not let our feelings get us down but rather it should make us stronger to go against all odds. I am really glad we are all here for each other.
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EddySalomon Premium
Amen Betcha!
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wtbee2013 Premium
: O) : o) ;-} Oxox
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betcha Premium
HI Kymee. Way to go here @ WA. Let's rise up and shine that the whole world will see including our husbands. LoL, read my response down here. Cheers, my friend!
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wtbee2013 Premium
Thank you betcha I did see it and you are great. I will love the day when I get to show my husband that is will work and help him with the incoming bills. ; O)

Thanks again for your support, if there is anything I can do please let me know....
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rebeccas Premium
Hope I'm chiming in on the messages to wtbee2013 because I feel your pain. What a challenge it is to have a vision that those closest to you cannot see. Your heart is to bring your family and friends to a level of success that they have yet to experience.

But for some who live in the practical paradigm of "I'll believe it when I see it" it is difficult to maintain the dedication you know you need to persist through the opposition. It's like the scripture that reads, " Do not become weary in well doing.You will reap if you do not faint."

I have to be blunt here. The bottom line for so many comes down to "show me the money." Family members, mine included often ask, "How much money are you making with this intangible pursuit of yours? Why not quit and get a REAL JOB?"

Let me tell you something. Never let money determine your worth and never let money determine the course of your pursuit of purpose and passion. Your gift will make room for you. Learn, adjust and move on.

You are a CHAMPION...you achieved something far beyond the naysayers in your life.

Blessings,
Rebecca
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EddySalomon Premium
Rebecca, your comment is it's own blog post filled with wisdom! I wish there was a favorite button here on WA because your comment would be on my favorite list. LOL

Great job! How blessed are we to have each other for support and words of wisdom!
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rebeccas Premium
Thank you Eddy. You are a precious friend. I am honored to know that you and I are connected by our choice to value the contributions we bring to each other in support of our WA family.

Blessings to you friend.
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EddySalomon Premium
The feeling is mutual Rebecca!
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wtbee2013 Premium
Thank you Rebecca and Amen to you Eddy! That was as only Rebecca can do awesome. She can say so many neat things with her words I always feel my words are not enough. I think that is why I like the smiley face because I hope it helps to make my words more.....if that makes sense. Anyway here's to us...
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ShaunFern Premium
Wow this is gold Eddy,

thank you for this
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Shaun! Glad you like it. Be sure to check out my other blog post here on WA. You might enjoy those as well. =)
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dembler Premium
Great job and well said!!!
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Dembler!
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Freedomseekr Premium
Love this post! Yes, I must admit, when I first started here, I tried explaining what I'd be doing on the internet such as building a website/affiliate marketing to family members and I heard the "Well, what about your thing you were doing? Aren't you going to get a job doing that?"
I realized I don't want a job working for someone else, I want to work for myself. I also heard the "you won't be able to do it" a few times, but that makes me try all the harder. Sure, I haven't been able to quit my regular day job yet, but that day will eventually come.
Thanks for sharing this post, Eddy...it made me chuckle reading about how everyone reacts now when you've made a success of it. :)
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Freedomseekr!

Obviously I can relate with your experience. In time you will quit your full time job. You already know it will and that's half the battle. You'll be chuckling soon enough when your family changes their tune too. lol

Thanks for chiming in!
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rebeccas Premium
Another excellent post, Eddy. Sometimes we fall into a familiar comfort among our family and friends; and if we are not careful, that comfort can lull us to sleep.

I kept this quote from Alan Alda because it reminds me that we all need courage to step away from others and follow the voice inside us...

“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover will be yourself.”

-Rebecca
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Rebecca! That was a great quote and I'll definitely keep it in mind!
Always good to hear from you!
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rebeccas Premium
You too my friend.
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choppydo Premium
I`m going through a tough time right now because of some things my friend said. He`s a very on the ball kind of guy so it worries me when he told me that my niche is not only very hard to break into, I don`t have the right kind of content for my target audience. I`d love a second opinion on this if possible.
howsixpackabsaremade.com
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EddySalomon Premium
Does your friend have a successful site online or in your niche? Is he living the life you want? If not, then keep it moving. Yes your niche is incredibly hard but you've be trained here on how to go about breaking into a niche, finding sub niches, keyword research, etc.

All you need to do is continue to apply what you're being taught here and you'll find some success. Feel free to private message me your site and I'll give you some feedback on the site.

But so far, I see a good start. I like the theme you picked and the color scheme. But we can discuss further later. Thanks for chiming in.
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choppydo Premium
No he is not online but runs several successful offline businesses along with being incredibly perceptive and is almost never wrong about his observations. If it was anyone else I wouldn`t be so troubled over it.
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steveo5770 Premium
That's what people told Jeff Bezos when he got got started. Perhaps you have heard of his company. Amazon.com
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josephthl Premium
Fitness can in general be a tough industry to get into, but if you keep your niche focused (e.g. abs) it gets easier. Plus if you kind of edge your way in by picking some easier keywords, you will find building up traffic and getting your site ranked much easier.

In terms of your site, your primary audience will want to see current results of people who have super ripped abs. As such, I think you should replace the statue photo with a photo of a great photo of a six pack. You need to use lots of imagery of "fit people" to get people's attention in this niche. Also, you should get a bit more intense with your content and speak more simply to your audience. Use grade 9 level English at most (get rid of bigger words/phrases such as "sought after, elusive achievements, etc.").

I hate to say it, but in most of your content online, you should speak simply and directly, without using big words - especially in this niche. Unless you get into writing articles about ab muscles and the science behind it. In that case you can start introducing some more technical jargon related to your niche.

Anyways, just thought I'd give you my two cents, as I've built up sites in the fitness niche with some success, so I thought I'd pass on a bit of what I've learned and experienced.
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choppydo Premium
Great advice josepthl! Actually I just finished my very own bout of muscle building(I`m not pulling my content out of my ass) and when I finish my cut I can use myself for imagery. It`s been a plan of mind to do the rounds making unique images for every post. Honestly, most of the images i could find either at free or paid sites either have faces(to which I have no name) or are borderline erotic!
I`m really all about the sculpture because I see this from the perspective of an artist. I try to pass that along through my content. You`re probably right, though. I don`t think my audience is dumb, moreso that they have a short attention span.My friend also said this in criticizing my content.
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EddySalomon Premium
He has no experience with the online business world so the above point still applies Choppy. And more importantly why are you letting someone dictate your own online business? There are a lot of people I respect but a lot of them have provided the worst advice ever. The same people told me it was impossible to work at home and they were all wrong. But I made that my reality by ignoring their advice regardless of how successful they were in their own world.

Sounds like you're letting his feedback an excuse not to succeed or push forward. If you're not passionate about your particular niche, that's fine. But because someone gave you advice that has never succeed in what you want to do, just doesn't add up to me.

Just saying..
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EddySalomon Premium
So true about the founder of Amazon and Henry Ford, Thomas Edision, etc. We could write a whole post on successful millionaire and billionaires that were given the same poor advice.
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choppydo Premium
Ok, I`ll keep pushing!
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EddySalomon Premium
Sounds good choppy! Next time you doubt yourself, come back to this article to get a refresher! =)
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ericrk7 Premium
What's Up, Eddy!
I really like your article. Hmm, as for my family, well, my wife thinks it's great, she doesn't have a problem with it, I even signed her up to do the paidviewpoint idea. My kids would love to spend more time with me, in stead of seeing me going to my (JOB=Just Over Broke!!) And I know, and believe wholeheartedly that in time I will be successful in this field, so I just have to apply what I have learned here, and with other great affiliators to help me grow to what I want to be.

Eric
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EddySalomon Premium
Hey Eric! Glad you like the article! Sounds like you have a good woman like myself that encourages you with this. That helps a lot. Keep at it my friend! It will happen!
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Edward1901 Premium
Thanks for this post, I really needed to read that. Its taking a lot longer than I thought to set up my website, but I want things to be in a decent shape before I promote it. I work 70 hrs a week at my day job as a concrete driver, go home to my family, and then squeeze time in for WA. I know its going to be worth it, because I have so much fun working on it, dreaming of the day that I can fire my boss. A lot of blood, sweat and tears go into making a dream.
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EddySalomon Premium
You're welcome Ed! I knew someone needed to hear this. My friend you're literally trucking along with this business! (Pun intended. lol) And I promise you eventually it pays off. It's a lot harder to juggle because of your schedule but every little bit you're squeezing in means you're a day closer to that dream.

Trust me it's the best feeling in the world to sit your boss down and let them know you won't be needing their services anymore. LOL Actually it's hard when you like and respected your boss like I did in the past. But I definitely didn't like some of the other management. LOL

Don't worry Ed you'll be there when the time is right! I'm telling you this as one Ed to another. lol
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Lee Gamelin Premium
I really enjoyed this post, Eddy. Anyone else reading this post may enjoy and benefit greatly from reading Steven Pressfield's book, DO THE WORK!

In it he discusses enemies and allies, and lists Our Enemies as the forces arrayed against us as artists and entrepreneurs:

1. Resistance (i.e., fear, self-doubt, procrastination, addiction, distraction, timidity, ego and narcissism, self-loathing, perfectionism, etc.)

2. Rational thought

3. Friends and family

Certainly worth the read! And very nice job with this post!

Best regards,

Lee
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Lee! Glad you liked it! Thanks for the book recommendation. I'm always about self growth so I'll need to check it out! That's a great list and so true!
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sasukhram Premium
Hey Eddy, where are you from in the Caribbean? :-)
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EddySalomon Premium
I was actually born here in the U.S. But I'm Haitian!
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steveo5770 Premium
That picture of Beavis gets me everytime....lol
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EddySalomon Premium
"Fire, Fire....Uh...Fire,Fire".. I need TP for my bung... Lol
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stadium Premium
Great wisdom , Eddy
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Beavis.... I mean Stadium. LOL

Sorry I was a big Beavis and Butthead fan!
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Labman Premium
I have several siblings that think they know everything. Not very supportive of my efforts. I may have a convert in one brother but he's got a black hat attitude. Since his background is in Computer Science and security he knows a lot but is always looking for the end-around.
I'm trying to bring him back to earth and direct his efforts into stuff that could really pay off big if he would just change his mindset a bit.

As for the parents, they are totally clueless as to what the internet is all about. They try to be supportive but get glassy-eyed when I talk about it.
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EddySalomon Premium
Hey Labman, who doesn't have a family member that thinks they know it all. LOL
Gotta love them but definitely don't have to listen to them as you clearly illustrated. Your computer science brother would be great for this industry. And it's good that you try to guide him away from the black hat stuff.

With black hat stuff, you can definitely make lots of money quickly and a lot of it. But it's not sustainable. And you risk losing commissions with certain networks if they see that you're doing something shady. He just apply his skill to doing things the right way. He would have long term results which would actually pay off more in the long run.

Keep working on his mindset. You should ask him to join here. It might help your efforts with him.

Either way, thanks for chiming in!
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WriterLynn Premium
I stopped discussing or even mentioning my "website/blog stuff" a long time ago because they would look at me oddly and their eyes would glaze over. You have to believe in yourself and what you are trying to accomplish online, even though our family and friends may not understand it.
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EddySalomon Premium
Agreed Lynn! I think some folks want to share their excitement but you soon realize that most people outside of WA won't because they haven't lived this life or know folks that have. Fortunately we have a great community here!

Thanks for chiming in and sharing your experience.
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Rick Jantz Premium
Great words. I think that family and friends live on the edge of rumors, hearing only of the spammers and scammers. They often don't know that there is also value when building a website, nay, an online business, when you take the time to learn and follow reputable training, such as is found at Wealthy Affiliate.

I don't speak much of my online business but they do see that I'm serious about it but more importantly they see I'm being patient. This helps them know I'm not into those dreadful get-rich-quick schemes that they believe are the only things on the Internet. Until, of course, they go surfing. Then I like to ask, "What ya searching? Oh, legitimate sites? Good, good." And walk away smiling, because one day they will find mine. :)
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EddySalomon Premium
Well said Rick! I think you've hit it on the head. Afterall who hasn't heard of a story of a person being scammed online. I've made a great living helping people avoid it. So their skepticism is not coming out of thin air.

But I liken it to watching the news. If you only watched the news you would think that the world is just horrible placed filled with killers and bad people. That's pretty much what most news shows and websites focus on. But we all know that's not the reality. Unfortunately people don't hear enough about the success stories online.

But your family and friends will when you reach your goals!

So thanks for chiming in! You've made some great points!
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Rick Jantz Premium
Hey Eddy, the news is a really good analogy. We need to watch more positive news and find more positive work from home sites. I doubt most people start off with searching "I want to get rich quick"; probably start with "legitimate home based business" or something. And then get sidetracked, sign up, and get the "bad news" that they've thrown their money away. Lets give them something worthwhile.

I feel like starting a cheer: "hip hip hooray for WA" or something corny like that. But y'all get the point :)
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betcha Premium
Oh, how we love our family and friends. No doubt about it. But I don't get myself stuck to everything they say. For the last five years, I have been busy researching about online business because this is what I want to do so that I can enjoy my golden years. And it is the exact opposite of what my family thinks. They keep telling me that there's nothing I can get out of it. Just last week, my husband told me stop soaking myself in the internet because I am just wasting my time. He knows I love creating things with technology.

Should I listen to them? Heck, NO! Just like what G.K. Chesterton said, I am doing exactly the opposite of what I am advised to do especially now that I found WA. Nobody knows what I am doing for now. I work in the wee hours of the night or when nobody is home. Sometimes, I just say I am working on my assignment. And I am enjoying what I am doing.

Thanks for pointing this out in your blog, Solomon. I know that there are some who are still skeptical about what they are here for. But here's a reminder that we have flocked together to become successful in what we are doing. This is the place to be.

Well, when I start to rake my $$$ I will just show them my bank account! No need to say more.

Way to go WAers! More blessings to y'all!
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EddySalomon Premium
Amen Betcha! I admire your strength because it's one thing when friends and family members you don't see all the time don't support your endeavor. But when it's your spouse, you really have to be strong to push past their opinions since we tend to value them in higher regards.

Trust me when I say it's a very sweet feeling when people are seeing how well you're doing. You don't even need to show them the bank account. They'll notice the change when you're at home smiling or traveling the world or paying off one of their bills or when someone no longer needs to work. I look forward to that moment for you!

Keep pushing along. Thank goodness we all have each other here at WA!

Thanks for chiming in!!
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betcha Premium
I can't wait for that day to come. I just have to be strong to be able to make it to the top, you know. And I will keep pushing no matter what! As a matter of fact I am so relaxed even without a job right now because I know someday, what I am doing here will pay off. Oh, yeah, a loud AMEN here!

We gotta get going!
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EddySalomon Premium
Betcha, Don't worry that day will be here sooner than you know and I'm looking forward to hearing about here on WA!
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betcha Premium
Oh, yes, I'm gonna shout it out loud here because everybody needs to know that this really works. I'm not a bit worried but so excited. That's I'm working hard on this great project!

I bet your article here will be one of the top 10 trending discussions next week. This is a great one!
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EddySalomon Premium
I agree! It's always great hearing folks success story and it doesn't even matter how little or big it is. It's just inspiring for everyone. Keep doing your thing.

Apparently this article was in the top 10 for today. =)
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betcha Premium
Wooooo....congratulations! More to come, I'm sure of that! You've got hands for writing.
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EddySalomon Premium
LOL, Thanks I try my best.
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steveo5770 Premium
Great discussion! I come from a tight family and spend a lot of time with them. Unfortunately most of family are of the "get a good job and live off your pension" mindset. In fact, they have told me NOT to be a dreamer. So they don't even know what I'm doing.
I love them to death but when it comes to creating the path to my definition of success, I don't ask advise from those who say it can't be done. I ask the one's who are doing it!
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EddySalomon Premium
Steve, I come from the same family. I don't know if it's a caribbean thing or what. lol
But I was raised the same way so I can totally relate.

The only thing we can do is show and prove. =)

Thanks for chiming in!
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steveo5770 Premium
lol Eddy. I think it's pretty much a global thing. In the U.S. something like 90% of people have little to no savings. I need to seek out the 10% if I want reliable advice.
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EddySalomon Premium
I live in the states and can totally attest to that stat. I'm trying to be part of the 1% that controls 96% of the income and not necessarily to hoard it for myself. But it's so I can enlighten the rest of the population that they can do it too on their own terms.
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skyhorse Premium
Birds of a feather flock together, Jonathon Livingston Seagull, I love that book. I haven't had really any "advice" on this venture just yet. My mom is very supportive and loves what I have been able to show her that I have created. She believes in me and tells me that I can do it and lifts me higher. (I love my mom, we are very close) However I did have someone try to think differently on real estate, here's the story.

A co-worker of mine invests in the stock market. I don't know how much he makes, but he doesn't really invest the way I would. I like the stock market and do want to invest it in, but at the beginning of my education I was learning about stock, but then I found real estate and diving into that. I then changed and focused on real estate for now. I told him I was going into real estate instead of stocks and he started telling me how there is no money in real estate to start with, how you had to have bunches of money to invest in it, how you wouldn't be able to make much after all the bills are paid and you have all the headaches.

Now I just listened, (he did have valid points) but as some of you might now know. I believe the statement, "If they can, so can I." And real estate investing has made more millionaires then any other type of investing. (I didn't tell him that, I just listened) And most of the millionaires on Forbes either hold their wealth in real estate or made their wealth with real estate. That's why I want to get into real estate lol.

Talking about that I thought of something else. I was going to a 3 day stock market training and I had to postpone it to go help family down in Oregon. I helped my Grandfather and his wife, (Who wasn't my grandmother) and we were talking about the stock market and investing and his wife, (who was trying to be helpful) started telling me how the stock market is to risky, and how lots of people have lost lots of money in the stock market and such. She didn't know what I knew at that point about all the strategies, lose prevention techniques, etc. So exactly what you are talking about.
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EddySalomon Premium
SkyHorse, thanks for chiming in! It's great to have someone like your mom supporting and believing in you. My wife is sort of that support system for me. The two times I was down and ready to give up, she reminded me that wasn't an option and I had to get back on the horse. So I can appreciate your mom and your relationship with her.

I like what you did with the advice given to you. But more importantly Iike how you think.
"If they can, so can I." That's always been my philosophy. Thanks for sharing!
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skyhorse Premium
Thank you!!! That thinking I would say really came from my dad. He was an iron worker his whole life and he knows how to do a lot. He has the mindset of, "Why pay someone to do that? They just know more then I do on this subject, so if I learn what they know, I don't have to go to someone else to do that." Now yes, that is a very self-employed type of thinking. But he knows how to do LOTS LOTS LOTS. Tons of stuff that I don't even know he knows.

And I'll give you an example. My farrier, not the smartest guy on the planet. (Farriers really aren't, just talk to one. Oh, I know that was mean but I just had to say it, lol) What did he know that I didn't? How to trim a hoof, that's it. That is why he was here trimming and I wasn't. In March I bought a hoof trimming DVD series and trim my own now. The hooves look great now, and I don't need a farrier. (I wont be going into that profession though)

It's the same with this. What does so and so know that I don't? What are they doing to get those results because those are the results that I want? Start doing that and you will be successful.
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Eddie C Premium
It is true that some friends and family members care about your well being and telling you not to get scammed out there, especially if it has to do with "online". However, we can also argue the fact that the same friends and family members don't want you to succeed and are jealous of the fact that you work from home and they have to do the 9-5 and hence why they want you to stray away from doing what you are doing. They want to put this "doubt" in your mind. You can do two things, ignore them and keep doing what you are doing or convince them that they too can be working from home and join WA. Hey you never know, you might even profit from their "doubts" down the road!
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EddySalomon Premium
Hello there fellow Eddie (lol).
I agree there are some haters out there as well. We all have them within our family, co-workers and friends. So you're right, it's not all based on love! Either way, the message of ignoring folks who aren't doing what you want to do makes sense in reason.

And you're right you can convert the haters to your biggest fans or dollars as you suggested. lol Great comment! Thanks for chiming in!

Eddy
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wtbee2013 Premium
Outside this community I don't know if some of us wouldn't make it. It is because of you and great blogs like this that so many of us push our way through. There are the people that are up front urges us forward. I can vision a great many people. Like the wagon coming west and all the different personalities that God instilled playing the role that helped them make their goal.
Thank you Eddy
God bless
Kymee
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EddySalomon Premium
Hey Kymee, Thanks for the kind words. I have to agree with you! Being with like minded people really does help you push through the noise and self doubt we all experience.

Thanks for chiming in!
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coolcity Premium
Spot on. I have always had a similar opinion, that there is no point in asking the opinion of somebody who hasn't really got a clue what you are trying to do.

I have been self-employed in various guises for over 20 years and like most people in similar situations it has been a roller coaster ride, yet I have done better than many friends whose general opinion could be summarized as "You don't know what you're doing".

"I also recognized that the advice I was getting were from people that never moved outside the blueprint set for them by society" - that is exactly right. Those people may not think I will make it, but the only certainty is that they will definitely never get beyond their poorly paid 9-to-5, whereas I will always have a chance.
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EddySalomon Premium
Amen CoolCity! " but the only certainty is that they will definitely never get beyond their poorly paid 9-to-5, whereas I will always have a chance." That is a quote that everyone should print up and hold with them. Very powerful and true. Although some people get paid very well for their 9-5 but they're still at the whim and value of what someone else dictates.

Whereas this path allows us to eventually earn what we feel we deserve and have the freedom we want. I don't care what anyone says, no 9-5 offers you that. Thanks for chiming in! Great comment!
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kws123 Premium
The gospel according to Eddy- fantastic!
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EddySalomon Premium
LMAO! Glad you enjoyed it! =)
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EddySalomon Premium
And you spelled my name right! Love it! lol
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LUMOSE Premium
Great words. I know that nobody believes in me. Because of that I'm so determined to succeed in online marketing. I love that and I want to earn enough to quit my regular job and do only this.
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Lumose! Don't worry, there are a lot of successful people and millionaires that no one else believed in as well. So you're in great company! Eventually you will be able to achieve this goal. You're already on the right path since you're here surrounded by other like minded people! Thanks for chiming in!
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AnnieB Premium
Hi Eddy, again I enjoyed your blog.

One best friend is really excited for me and asks me how I'm doing. My other best friend never asks, but she'll talk to me about it if I bring it up. My mum is mixed. She knows I break out of the mold every now and then. So she's surprised by me from time time over different things I get up to. My best neighbour encourages me to do what I love. I've mentioned it to people at say, my son's school, and they are like "oh". It is probably the first time they've known anyone to actually be doing this type of work. They don't know what to say to me.

I never asked anybody about this, I just did it. Most people that do know me, already know that I love computers. That's me though, I don't say bbaaahh (as in follow the flock) so to most people I'm not the norm, and I/we here at WA are not. They're still doing what I used to do - working in management, or working with a government department, etc.

Isn't it great to dare to be different and give it a go? I love it :)
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EddySalomon Premium
Well said Annie! You sound very much like me so I can totally relate. It's very liberating not to care what others think about us when it comes to this venture and just in life. Like you said most of the people around are still doing what they used to do and getting the same results.

We're venturing out to get new and better results. We're just blessed to be in a community like WA. But judging by what you've said above, I suspect you would have still been trucking along because of your great mindset.

Thanks for sharing! Always good to hear from ya!
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egonsarv Premium
Actually very true, Eddy. Friends and family members worry for us because they care for us. They see all these scam schemes out there, they read about the failures and they don't want us to sink into it too.

Another problem is that if 95% online marketers fail and we start it then most probably we will also be in that 95% who fail. It is difficult to convince them that we will do better than all these 95% out there. And if we happen to fail then they too have to pay the price.

The quote is very good. It is always to listen the other party with respect. I read another quote lately: It is this: "Don’t get sidetracked by people who are not on track"
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EddySalomon Premium
All great points Egon! Thanks for chiming in and the great quote! I'll be using that in the future!
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