Should You Listen To Your Family & Friend's Advice?

Last Update: July 24, 2013

It all depends on the advice, the source and situation. When was the last time you used your microwave oven as a GPS device to find directions to a restaurant? Hopefully never. A microwave was built to cook food but damn sure wasn't built to lead you to it!

It Just Doesn't Add Up!

But yet, many of us will seek the advice from family members, friends and co-workers who've never been where we want to go! Now really let that marinate in your mind. Don't get offended by it. We all love our family and friends. (Well most of them.) However our family and friends will usually provide advice based on their own limited experiences, fears and doubts. But I'm here to tell you, that you're not like them.

Their experience or fears don't necessarily mean they will be your own. There is a reason that entrepreneurs are a minority. 99.9% of the population doesn't have the balls for it! (excuse my french!) We're an elite group here at WA. We've all made the decision that what's great for the rest of society isn't good enough for us or our families.

The World Is Flat...

Remember when people thought the world was flat? That's basically how most of your family and friends will view this venture and anything that requires growth. To them, you might as well say you're the tooth fairy or a damn unicorn. That's how unbelievable the life you're embarking on is to them. So how can you really ask them for their advice?

When I was coming up in this business, everyone thought I was smoking that "stuff"! They said I would never be able to work at home. Fortunately I'm the type of personality that if you tell me I can't do something I will work relentlessly to prove you wrong and make you eat your words.

It's very interesting to hear from family, friends and co-workers now. I hear a lot more of, "Oh I always knew you could do it!". "I was just scared for you". Blah, blah, blah, blah. LOL Don't get me wrong I know the intentions of my family and friends were rooted in good. However I also recognized that the advice I was getting were from people that never moved outside the blueprint set for them by society. So I held their opinion in lesser regard when it came to this industry.

Birds Of A Feather Flock Together

If you want advice about something, be sure you're asking people that have been successful at what you want to do. After all, they've proven that they have the recipe for success. Your job is to seek the advice of people that have the ingredients so you can bake your own success story.

With that said here's a great quote to help you with this concept.

So what do you guys think? Did you ask advice of family and friends about this business? What kind of great or poor advice did they give you? Did you listen to it? Chime in below. I'd love to hear your experiences.

Hopefully you enjoyed this article. If you did, please use the links at the top of the page to share the article to others. It might help them get through their own doubts and bad advice about pursuing your dreams.

Thanks.

Eddy

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coolcity Premium
Spot on. I have always had a similar opinion, that there is no point in asking the opinion of somebody who hasn't really got a clue what you are trying to do.

I have been self-employed in various guises for over 20 years and like most people in similar situations it has been a roller coaster ride, yet I have done better than many friends whose general opinion could be summarized as "You don't know what you're doing".

"I also recognized that the advice I was getting were from people that never moved outside the blueprint set for them by society" - that is exactly right. Those people may not think I will make it, but the only certainty is that they will definitely never get beyond their poorly paid 9-to-5, whereas I will always have a chance.
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EddySalomon Premium
Amen CoolCity! " but the only certainty is that they will definitely never get beyond their poorly paid 9-to-5, whereas I will always have a chance." That is a quote that everyone should print up and hold with them. Very powerful and true. Although some people get paid very well for their 9-5 but they're still at the whim and value of what someone else dictates.

Whereas this path allows us to eventually earn what we feel we deserve and have the freedom we want. I don't care what anyone says, no 9-5 offers you that. Thanks for chiming in! Great comment!
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kws123 Premium
The gospel according to Eddy- fantastic!
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EddySalomon Premium
LMAO! Glad you enjoyed it! =)
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EddySalomon Premium
And you spelled my name right! Love it! lol
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LUMOSE Premium
Great words. I know that nobody believes in me. Because of that I'm so determined to succeed in online marketing. I love that and I want to earn enough to quit my regular job and do only this.
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EddySalomon Premium
Thanks Lumose! Don't worry, there are a lot of successful people and millionaires that no one else believed in as well. So you're in great company! Eventually you will be able to achieve this goal. You're already on the right path since you're here surrounded by other like minded people! Thanks for chiming in!
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AnnieB Premium
Hi Eddy, again I enjoyed your blog.

One best friend is really excited for me and asks me how I'm doing. My other best friend never asks, but she'll talk to me about it if I bring it up. My mum is mixed. She knows I break out of the mold every now and then. So she's surprised by me from time time over different things I get up to. My best neighbour encourages me to do what I love. I've mentioned it to people at say, my son's school, and they are like "oh". It is probably the first time they've known anyone to actually be doing this type of work. They don't know what to say to me.

I never asked anybody about this, I just did it. Most people that do know me, already know that I love computers. That's me though, I don't say bbaaahh (as in follow the flock) so to most people I'm not the norm, and I/we here at WA are not. They're still doing what I used to do - working in management, or working with a government department, etc.

Isn't it great to dare to be different and give it a go? I love it :)
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EddySalomon Premium
Well said Annie! You sound very much like me so I can totally relate. It's very liberating not to care what others think about us when it comes to this venture and just in life. Like you said most of the people around are still doing what they used to do and getting the same results.

We're venturing out to get new and better results. We're just blessed to be in a community like WA. But judging by what you've said above, I suspect you would have still been trucking along because of your great mindset.

Thanks for sharing! Always good to hear from ya!
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egonsarv Premium
Actually very true, Eddy. Friends and family members worry for us because they care for us. They see all these scam schemes out there, they read about the failures and they don't want us to sink into it too.

Another problem is that if 95% online marketers fail and we start it then most probably we will also be in that 95% who fail. It is difficult to convince them that we will do better than all these 95% out there. And if we happen to fail then they too have to pay the price.

The quote is very good. It is always to listen the other party with respect. I read another quote lately: It is this: "Don’t get sidetracked by people who are not on track"
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EddySalomon Premium
All great points Egon! Thanks for chiming in and the great quote! I'll be using that in the future!
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