How Should We Deal With Requests to Mentor?
I am sure this is a common issue but it is becoming so frequent that I thought I should write a post about it here. I am getting many requests to "mentor" brand new members. I am sure this request is common for Ambassadors and higher ranked members. Perhaps other members can share their experience with this issue and suggestions of how to handle it? Maybe we can come up with a good answer together. I wish I could help everyone but I simply don't have enough time and they need to learn to follow the steps themselves to be successful.
I am honored that people are asking me to be their mentor but I simply don't have time to do so. I am getting many such requests lately from brand new members. I don't know if they all read something somewhere telling them to get a mentor or if they just think it is good place to start when they are new and feeling overwhelmed.
It certainly makes sense to ask someone to help you with something new. I get it. It also feels like a bit of a shortcut however. They may not want to do the work themselves so instead of doing the training they ask someone they think is successful to help them. That is an honor as I stated above but I cannot spend all my time mentoring new members. I barely manage to keep the job I have and struggle to work on my own websites.
I am never sure if I should nicely point them toward the training (which I usually do) or suggest they contact their referrer or offer to answer specific questions. In the most recent case I got yet another email from a new member I have never seen before asking me to mentor them. On his profile I see where he already had an exchange with his referrer. Therefore, it is not a situation where he does not know who his referrer is. She told him to follow the training however and I am guessing he wants a shortcut. They just pop up out of the blue. Random emails requesting my help but not asking any specific questions.
That is the crux of the whole problem. They are not asking specific questions. Every time someone has asked me a specific question I have answered it. If you just want to ask for general mentoring without doing anything yourself however, you probably won't succeed here. I am always happy to help out where I can but people need to do the basics and get started themselves. If they have already interacted with their referrer and the referrer has told them to get started with the training then they might just be looking for an easy boost in my opinion.
So have you received requests to mentor someone new? Do you get many of these requests? How do you respond? How do you think we should respond? I hate to sound rude or uncaring.
Thanks for your input.