My Husband Is Feeling Neglected
My husband is feeling neglected, since I've joined Wealthy Affiliate I have spent almost all of my spare time on my computer logged into Wealthy Affiliate working on my lessons, websites, and just trying to learn everything I can to succeed at my online business.
I have tried to explain to him that all my hard work and dedication is so that I can secure our future and allow us to retire without putting financial restrictions on our life style.
I know he is grateful for what I am trying to accomplish for our lives but, he is just so used to having my undivided attention this is a huge adjustment for him. I have agreed to doing a better job of balancing my time between him and working to get my new online business off the ground. I just don't want either to suffer I haven't been married over 30 years to not understand that there has to be some compromise in any relationship.
Am I in this alone or have others experienced similar circumstances in their relationships?
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HI Rbane, Well I can't say that my husband feels neglected, although what I will attest to is that WA is addictive!! I find myself coming on here, first even when i meant to go somewhere else lol.
Interesting blog, thanks for sharing and I wish you all the best.
Nike, thank you for reading I'm the same way I found myself in the beginning spending so much time on WA that he was being neglected but, we have found a compromise that works well for us and life is better at the Bane residents.
Rosie
Thanks for sharing your experience with balancing your relationship and your passion to build an online income.
My fiancee is very supportive of my passion to build an online empire that will finance our future on the beaches of tropical islands. She can see how excited I get when I talk about our future plans to exit the "Rat Race".
I hope all works out for you Rosie and you will have success in both your personal relationship and your online business :)
Rick,
Thank you! my husband and I have found that happy medium and now he is very excited about what I am targeting for our future. Thank you for the moral support.
My wife feels neglected since it seems Iam always working on my computer working on my website. It is time-consuming. I try to do it while she is at work but doesn't always work out that way. She feels Iam just wasting my time even though several years ago I make money online for almost a year so Iam hoping to do it again for long term with the help of WA and everyone here. Best to you and thank you for sharing
Kenneth
That sucks that she feels you are wasting your time. My husband feels the same way about me neglecting him sometimes, but he's also very supportive and we actually just figured out a way so we can both get involved and work on the sites together. Maybe you can get her more involved! Good luck to you! :)
Kenneth,
My husband and I have figured out how to balance our time together and still allow me time to work on my websites so everything worked out in the end. I know if will for you as well.
Rosie
Hi Rosemary, the WA way can be very time consuming the best way forward is to work on creating that balance, the problems start when we are too involved. I am sure some folks are camped out in the foyer, honestly, some must be here 24/7.
I think it is important to take the folks around us on the journey with us because it is so intense it is easy for disconnects to form. Thinking that communication works really well, it is as though we have to manage the folks around us until we start seeing results. this is especially the case if we are trying to fit WA into already busy lives. The thing to remember is that it is not a race we run it at our own pace. It is about creating that balance and it is different for all of us.
Hi! I relate to this, I think my husband found it a change at first but, I've been here over a year and he's seen how I've changed and the progress I made so, he understands. But I do have some nights off so that we can have "us time" :)
OMG!!!! I have been going through the same thing with my husband and my seven year old boy! Its crazy, I feel the same way as you as I like to dedicate my "free time" which isn't much time as I still have a day job, I come home to cook, help my son with his homework, etc. By the time I have free time, its after 9pm and I'm exhausted, to wake up by 5:30, and do it all over again. If you figure out a good way to balance all of this, please share it with me. Its such a struggle for me everyday..... I wish you all the best and remember, sometimes we need to sacrifice to get the results we want!!!!!!! Good luck lady!!!! :)
I'm not surprised to hear others are having the same issue and I agree with you sacrifice in some situations is crucial to achieve our goals. I have just decided to give him several hours of my free time in return he allows me to work on my websites and training the same amount of time. Good luck hope you found a balance that fits your husband and son.
That's an awesome idea. I just spoke with my husband not too long ago, and we figured out a way to both get involved and work on the website together. We're gonna give it a shot and see if it works out for us! I would love for him to jump on the wagon with me and take the ride. Wishing you all the best!!!! If you ever need feedback or just to talk, feel free to keep in touch!!! Talk soon!!! :)
It is hard to find that balance. If it were easy there would be no need for so many books on the subject. One of the things I use is to involve my better half in what I am doing so they understand. The old say "Two heads are better than one," is really something to think about. The Internet is great but nothing beats good old brainstorming.
Great advice I actually am building my new website around a niche that we both enjoy so I have included him in my research.
My husband is always saying, I am a lucky man, I always know where she is, other men wonder, what their wives are upto, I don't have to worry at all, she never is out shopping, she is making money instead of spending it, or out to some friend (I don't know) oehhh I am a lucky man!
I totally understand where you're coming from. It's hard to not spend so much time in the beginning here cuz there's just so much to learn. Maybe tell him this is like going to college at night, if you had classes, you would be away from him, so this is the same thing. Time flies when you are on the computer researching and learning. Maybe you can schedule your work so you give him so many hours on certain days and give most of the time to him on weekends. I hope you can work it out. He needs to also believe in you and support what you want to do. :)
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Haha, this is so true - I try to be on WA after my husband goes to sleep at night. That's when I focus on my website and social media too. He doesn't really know what I'm doing so I think he's wondering why I'm coming to bed so late especially since I also work a full-time job! LOL