My Husband Is Feeling Neglected

Last Update: September 14, 2016

My husband is feeling neglected, since I've joined Wealthy Affiliate I have spent almost all of my spare time on my computer logged into Wealthy Affiliate working on my lessons, websites, and just trying to learn everything I can to succeed at my online business.

I have tried to explain to him that all my hard work and dedication is so that I can secure our future and allow us to retire without putting financial restrictions on our life style.

I know he is grateful for what I am trying to accomplish for our lives but, he is just so used to having my undivided attention this is a huge adjustment for him. I have agreed to doing a better job of balancing my time between him and working to get my new online business off the ground. I just don't want either to suffer I haven't been married over 30 years to not understand that there has to be some compromise in any relationship.

Am I in this alone or have others experienced similar circumstances in their relationships?

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NatNiches Premium
Hi! I relate to this, I think my husband found it a change at first but, I've been here over a year and he's seen how I've changed and the progress I made so, he understands. But I do have some nights off so that we can have "us time" :)
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yamaris28 Premium
OMG!!!! I have been going through the same thing with my husband and my seven year old boy! Its crazy, I feel the same way as you as I like to dedicate my "free time" which isn't much time as I still have a day job, I come home to cook, help my son with his homework, etc. By the time I have free time, its after 9pm and I'm exhausted, to wake up by 5:30, and do it all over again. If you figure out a good way to balance all of this, please share it with me. Its such a struggle for me everyday..... I wish you all the best and remember, sometimes we need to sacrifice to get the results we want!!!!!!! Good luck lady!!!! :)
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Rbane Premium
I'm not surprised to hear others are having the same issue and I agree with you sacrifice in some situations is crucial to achieve our goals. I have just decided to give him several hours of my free time in return he allows me to work on my websites and training the same amount of time. Good luck hope you found a balance that fits your husband and son.
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yamaris28 Premium
That's an awesome idea. I just spoke with my husband not too long ago, and we figured out a way to both get involved and work on the website together. We're gonna give it a shot and see if it works out for us! I would love for him to jump on the wagon with me and take the ride. Wishing you all the best!!!! If you ever need feedback or just to talk, feel free to keep in touch!!! Talk soon!!! :)
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HarveyBrown Premium
It is hard to find that balance. If it were easy there would be no need for so many books on the subject. One of the things I use is to involve my better half in what I am doing so they understand. The old say "Two heads are better than one," is really something to think about. The Internet is great but nothing beats good old brainstorming.
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Rbane Premium
Great advice I actually am building my new website around a niche that we both enjoy so I have included him in my research.
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Loes Premium
My husband is always saying, I am a lucky man, I always know where she is, other men wonder, what their wives are upto, I don't have to worry at all, she never is out shopping, she is making money instead of spending it, or out to some friend (I don't know) oehhh I am a lucky man!
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littlemama Premium
I totally understand where you're coming from. It's hard to not spend so much time in the beginning here cuz there's just so much to learn. Maybe tell him this is like going to college at night, if you had classes, you would be away from him, so this is the same thing. Time flies when you are on the computer researching and learning. Maybe you can schedule your work so you give him so many hours on certain days and give most of the time to him on weekends. I hope you can work it out. He needs to also believe in you and support what you want to do. :)
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Rbane Premium
That is what we have agreed to give and take of each other's time.
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littlemama Premium
That's great to hear! Hope it all works out. :)
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