If I Could Turn Back Time
How far back would I like to go?
I would really like to go back to February 1999 and be able to change one big thing that changed my life and that was being told that one of our twins (Gavin) has cerebral palsy. It was a big thing to take in at the time however, when I see how he has turned out now at the age of 19 I wouldn't change him for nothing.
It is unfortunate that he is unable to walk but he has always attended mainstream school (both primary and secondary), and he is now going into 3rd year at Uni and is studying PR and Media. He got 3 As and 3 Bs for his marks last year and is doing great.
I would also like to turn the clock back to 17th September 2001. This is a day I won't forget as I went to work as usual and was in the office at 8.50 am and I was back in the house by 10.30 am after having been made redundant. The reason I got was that they had decided to upgrade my job and as I didn't drive then there was no point of me reapplying for it. I only wished they had at least told me on the Friday as it was a Monday holiday and would have saved me having to get someone to look after the family.
It was a great shock to lose a job that I loved and I have my own ideas as to what happened but it will never be proven. I was quite lucky in that I was only out of work for one month before I got the job I am in now. It was supposed to be just a stop gap until I got another secretarial job but I can honestly say that after 15 years it has been a very long stop gap. Had I not lost my job, I more than likely would not have been looking for something else to do and therefore would not have found Wealthy Affiliate or met any of the great friends I have made here.
I have one last time I would like to turn the clock back to and it would have to be the beginning of July this year. A few things have happened over the last 5/6 weeks. My husband and I both had our holidays from work on the first two weeks of July and we had planned to just go a day here and there as we had not booked to go away.
We did manage to get one day out together and had a lovely day but then my Father-in-law fell and broke his hip so the rest of the holiday was spent with my husband running his mum into hospital. He was then diagnosed with a heart murmur and an irregular heartbeat which they reckon caused him to collapse which was how he broke the hip. He has since had a pacemaker fitted and is doing better so hopefully he wont be long till he is able to get home.
Is there a time out there that you would like to turn the clock back too and be able to change or do things again?
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They are lots of times I wish I can turn back the hands of time. If I did I'll definitely do things differently.
Probably if you could have turned back time and had done things differently you would not have been here now. I was the same Roger, if I hadn't lost my job in 2001 I wouldn't have been here either.
When I was out for lunch yesterday with friends, we did all agree that our lives are mapped out for us from when we are born till we die. xx
I'm going back to 90s because I wish I've done my plan instead of doing other things. The first business I got involved in was Amway. I wish I never had the fear to do it. That's why I wish I can turn back time.
That would certainly have been nice to do and I wish you could turn back time and do what you really wanted to do. I would love to go back to the 80's but mainly for the music as I loved the music then. xx
I love the movie also. I can't stand today's music. The 90s is the decade I wish I can go back to. Maybe I could have had a car.
I'm the same, the music just now is rubbish. The music in the early 90's was ok but then it got rubbish as we got into the late 90's.
I take it that you didn't have a car in the 90's then, any particular reason for it? xx
I was being stupid with my money. I did things with my money for my family. I was adopted and I found my mother back in 1987. Then, I started living with them in 1989. They did not do much for me in my childhood. I did things for them in the 90s, but not now.
Hindsight is a funny thing. We look back and analyse our decisions and we would do things differently. What we don't always realize is of course we would, the event and decision has changed us and our thinking.
The making of choices and the lessons that come after whether good bad or indifferent is where WISDOM comes from.
I also think that after overcoming much tribulation we have a tendency to seek just survival of the NEXT problem and not really living abundantly.
My motto is "Thrive not just Survive"
Thank you JIm and you are so right, hindsight is a funny thing and if we were able to go back and change things then it would probably alter how our lives would pan out and then somethings that we have done would have been missed from our lives. xx
You are most welcome. The greatest thing about experience and wisdom is being able to provide some comfort to those who are feeling down.
The "WHAT IF" game is only useful for retrospection and not useful for regret.
For me, if I had not taken too many years in college and finished in 4, I wouldn't have met my wife.
Graduating college would have made my life much easier but I don't regret it I work through it.
I am now supporting both of my kids through college so they don't end up with the student loans that I did. They will both have a much better start in life than minimum wage.
"WHAT IF" goes both ways...
I enjoyed reading this post. Yes, so many times lately I have felt like I could go back in time. There are definitely things I would like to change, but mainly, there are things I know I took for granted that are not lost and gone forever. I have been to more funerals this year than ever, and many of them close friends and relatives that I used to love spending time with but drifted apart from as time went by. I would love to go back to the times I had with them and not not take it so much for granted.
Thank you Linda and it is so easy to let friendships drift apart as we get older and it's not till the person is not there that you wish you had done things differently.
I have done the same a few times and we take things for granted so easily. xx
How we handle life challenges tests our character. It seems to me that you have passed the tests. If I could go back, I would hold my tongue and watch my words more carefully. I'm learning that in many situations, silence is golden.
Enjoy your Sunday,
Debbie
I don't know about that Debbie that I passed the tests lol. I cannot imagine you being the type of person who would have to hold her tongue. I will agree though that silence is golden.
You enjoy your Sunday too. xx
Yes, we all get wistful and we all have regrets Cheryl. But as you say, without that change you would not have been brought to WA.
So we need to focus on the good things we have done, and the good blessings we have received. Then we can make an even better future for ourselves.
You are right Kaju we can all have regrets and wish we can turn back time and make things differently but if we had done things differently it most certainly would have changed the way our paths in life would have gone and we don't know if it would have made things better or worse.
We do now need to just focus on all the good things that we have achieved and also the blessings so we can make our future better for us and our families. Thank you xxx
Shoo Cheryl, this was post was poignant and touching.
Thank you for sharing your heart with us.
I wish I could turn back time to the day I decided to have an induction so that I could have the natural birth experience I had planned.
Oh sorry Lauren, it wasn't meant to be like that. I was just thinking that if I had the opportunity to turn back time and change something what would it have been and these 3 things are ones I would've changed. xx
Thank you, I had natural births with the three of mine. My first one, my waters broke at 6 am and with the twins, my waters broke at 6pm lol. xx
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I'm sure if I have the knowledge I have now I would definitely do a lot of things differently :)
I would agree with you there Carol but then again we obviously weren't meant to know then or we would not be where we are now. xx