Why Don't You Do Something To Make Yourself Feel Better (Not What You Think)

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It is a question, that's a definite. At one juncture I thought that maybe it was a statement, then I read it again and realised that, although a question, it you changed the emphasis, then the onus changed. Why don't you do something to make your self feel better said without pause does seem more like a statement but is still a question. Then if you put more into the 'don't' then it really does become a question in its own right and yet the meaning has moved slightly.

Sentence construction can be an art form. Not just the order of words but the choice and then the delivery. Something may look the same on paper, same punctuation, same spelling but depending on how you say it, it will conjure up a whole other meaning. Clues as to how to perceive the message may be in the context of the work, or it maybe how you see the person who is speaking. I think along those lines when I look at a sheet of music, though my understanding is far less, I think of it as a guide. Let's be honest, some of the older classical pieces have no period soundtrack to go with them. You can't go and find a recording of Mozart jamming in his kitchen just to check you're playing it as the maestro intended. There may well be subtle differences, nuances, that he could have played that were never transposed onto the sheet music.

Update: I was going to change the title to "Who's On First Base ?" which is a sketch by Abbott and Costello but I would have had to change the whole first paragraph, not happening. Anyway, worth a watch, just for a chance to see true comedic genius at work.

Oh boy, I have gone so far off track. This was meant to be about spending time working on your sites, no wonder I never get anything done. I'm not sure I can bring this one back. Might as well see it through to the end.


There is a brilliant sketch on YouTube. It was filmed at the Royal Shakespeare Theatre in Stratford-upon-Avon, England. One actor (Paapa Essiedu) stands in the middle of the stage, reciting the immortal words from Hamlet. "To be or not to be, that is the question". No sooner has he finished them, Tim Minchin comes on and gives his thoughts on where the emphasis should be. For him it is on the 'or'. Then we have Benedict Cumberbatch getting in on the act, pun intended, who thinks it is better to add weight to the 'not'. There ensues a litany of differing opinions on how the line should be delivered. All, it has to be said, valid.

There are a few here at WA, who know a thing or two about writing the right way. Mmm. Writing a writ in the right way would make the writ well written. Sorry, couldn't help it. One of the pieces of advice they have given is to have someone else read through your work.

This is a great way of seeing how someone else actually 'reads' what you have written. The problem we have and I am so very guilty of this, is that when we read through our work, we do so in the way we had it in our heads. We automatically read it as we thought it. That may be very different to how someone else interprets it. All the little pauses and stresses are there in our mind but might not come through in the words.

It's different when we make a 'faux pas' in a conversation. Dropping in an accidental 'double entendre', might be embarrassing but you have the chance to correct yourself immediately and apologise, if needs be. That might not be the case when you have already published your post. Someone might read something completely different to what you intended. Once it's out there, it's out there.

I did it once (probably more than once, but got called out on this one) here. I used a word that

was innocuous in the context I gave it, only to find out the true meaning was something completely different. Luckily, one member, graciously pointed it out and that gave me the opportunity to change it. I also apologised for any offence it may have caused. It was a beauty though.

Easily done. So, in closing. It is worth reading through your work, just to make sure there are no glaring indiscrepancies. Spell-checkers and grammar correction tools will only do so much. If you have someone who is willing to have a read through your post, then I'd go with that.

Better to take the critique from a friend than a disgruntled reader.

Have a monumental Monday.



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Great points Twack! I often find that I must step away from an article for awhile, shifting my focus elsewhere, before proofreading. If I don't, I'll miss the errors because it's too fresh in my mind.

You've given me some things to consider when writing though, especially around emphasis.

Have a great day!

Michael

Thank you Michael. That method does seem to be popular and well founded. I could do with doing it more often than I do.

SO good Twack - I probably read my stuff over a dozen times before publishing but there’s no substitute for the buddy system for proof reading and reality-checking on what message it’s actually conveying! Although I also believe we’re generally quite a forgiving crowd here so the occasional slip is fine.... as long as its yours - not mine !!! Kidding of course 🖖 I believe that emoji means “live long and prosper”! Best wishes my friend!
- John

Thank you John. I quite often have to go in again on comments. When I'm reading replies I can see glaring typos in my previous comments and have to edit. A very forgiving crown indeed.

Love it, you've taken it to the next level with this one Twack great post!

I use my 12yr old as my "4-eyes" checker for my published website posts and often I've had to re-write as it doesn't make sense....he has a wonderful grasp of the English language and devours books so I've every confidence in him, plus hopefully he absorbs a lot of the positive messages I convey in my writing.

Not so much on here with my WA blogs but I'm guessing you guys are a lot more forgiving if I make a blunder!

Hats off to you English Grammar Guru 🙏

No blunders that I've noticed, just thoughful, insightful, funny and engaging posts.
Children do have a tendency to see things we do not, it's not an age thing either, I'm still being ridiculed.
Thank you for the 'title' I think that makes me an EGG.

I shall take that compliment kind sir, graciously received!

I'm lucky that my children don't 'yet' ridicule me - I'm still a fountain of all knowledge until there comes a day when "I won't know about anything" so for now I'll enjoy the pedestal before I'm wiped off.

Eggcellent acronym there Twack, if the shell fits 😄

I do tend to 'listen' more than speak these days, it's safer that way.

Twack, you're posts always enrich my English vocabulary and make my brain work harder :) I like your philosophical and creative thinking, so refreshing!

Thank you Lenka, you're very kind. I am also learning through others, yourself included, everyday.

That's what life is all about, isn't it? :)

Yes, exactly Lenka.

I know a great squirrel proof reading service 😉

Is that a reading service that is 'squirrel proof' or a 'proof reading squirrel' ?

Ahh, good to know.

I do indeed.

Lol Twack. Yes indeed another example of how the same words can be read in different ways with different meanings.

It’s definitely good to know a great squirrel 🐿😀

I couldn’t agree more. 😀

Absolutely. It does open the door for so much fun though.

True words spoken.

Oh Twack, I wish I had a dollar for every faux pax I have made! Wrong word, not necessarily a bad word, but wrong use can cause a lot of problems! Great post as usual.
Joe
Have a great day.

Thank you Joe. Forever and a day I always thought a punnet was called a 'pullet'. My dearly beloved has never let me forget. I am happy to eat humble pie when it is on the menu.

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Twack, your conclusion reminds me of giving a speech in Toastmasters and receiving feedback from friendly listeners.

Positive feedback and constructive criticism given with respect can go a long way to help a person accelerate their learning curve.

Thanks for bringing up the important point of giving the right emphasis.

Cheers.

Edwin

Thank you Edwin, always a pleasure when you come by. I love that you added 'respect'. This can make all the difference, though it has to be said that not all are open to it.

Thanks for an important message Twack. Have a great week.

You're welcome Florentino, likewise for yours.

I agree. When I've finished a post I read it through correcting any spelling errors, then I put it aside for an hour or so and read through it again. I used to have the same method when painting or drawing. Giving a break helps you look at it with fresh eyes.

I remember reading that somwhere, leaving it and coming back later. I might have to try that. Nice reminder Kathy, thank you.

Wait till you get to my age Twack. I have to read my blogs at least five times to be sure I haven't come across as a complete goose. It's not just using a word that doesn't really suit the scenario, it also includes typing errors because my big fingers hit two buttons at once. The other issue is auto correct, just because it doesn't understand the word I've typed it replaces that word with one that has absolutely nothing remotely to do with my blog. Life can be difficult at times. Jim

I quite enjoy the auto correct, just to see the suggestions and how they make the sentence more bizarre. Texting is my issue with the double finger tap, it's no wonder everyone abbreviates.

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