Do You Blame Your Circumstances for Your Failure?

bySelenityjade

661 followers

5 years ago

Today, I thought I'd clarify something Kyle put in the blog he posted today. If you haven't seen it, check it out: https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/kyle/blog/how-to-give-yourself-a-jump-on-your-competition

A couple people took exception to something he said, even though he was absolutely spot on. Do you use your circumstances to place blame? In other words.... do you use your struggles as an excuse and blame outside factors for your failures or setbacks?

Do You Blame Your Circumstances for Your Failures?

Do you:

1. Blame WA for being too expensive because you can't afford it on top of everything else you pay for?
2. Blame your back or anxiety for not working on your website?
3. Blame FB for blocking you or not allowing your ad, etc?
4. Blame your dog passing away for why you aren't working on your website?
5. Blame WA because you forgot to cancel the premium membership?
6. Blame WA because you did something that broke your website and that set you back so you gave up for six months?
7. Blame Amazon because you don't read terms of service and broke their policies and got your Associates account closed for putting prices on your website?
8. Blame WA because you failed to make money in six months?

See where I'm going?

OR do you:

1. Budget and cut back on hair appointments or Starbucks or McDonalds to afford your WA premium membership when you can't afford it?
2. Realize affiliate marketing is the EASIEST job in the work if you have health issues. Just move to your bedroom, take your laptop, and prop up the pillows to ease your back or whatever issues you have.
3. Look through the rules about WHY FB gave you a warning or disapproved your ad to find out what YOU did wrong so you can fix it?
4. Use your dog passing as a reason to take a day off but come back tomorrow writing an excellent article in tribute to your beloved canine companion?
5. Slap yourself on the forehead for being stupid and forgetting to cancel your membership correctly.
6. Slap yourself on the forehead for not creating a backup of your website before you broke it and just went about to be sure to create backups and do all that work over again?
7. Reread Amazon's policies and realize you made a mistake and you correct it and email them to please reconsider, you corrected the problem and show them proof.
8. Blame yourself because you only worked on your site for 1 hour a day for six months and that didn't lead you results, so what can you do better?

Hmm, see the difference here?

Do you automatically seek to excuse or blame something other than yourself?

Example

My grandmother was in the hospital and I went through Hurricane Barry. Now, Hurricane Barry would actually have been a legitimate excuse if I had everything destroyed to put my business on hold. But it didn't. I used it as a lazy day, talked to family, didn't get as much work done. My internet was extremely slow, so I simply typed online or used my phone to promote stuff on Social Media while it was slow.

I took my circumstances and I worked around it. Taking the day off is fine when a tragedy happens. Taking a month off is fine, but you should have had blog posts scheduled for when you're away, or something, something to make it so you know you want to make it with your website.

I'm broke, you're broke, we're ALL broke when we first start out. But we don't say we can't pay and expect the rules to different for us, just because we can't afford it. We make it so we CAN afford it.

I have health issues, but I don't use it as a reason for not being on the computer. I simply set myself up in bed, move my laptop over there and continue writing! Part of the reason I'm going the affiliate marketing way and being serious about it this time, IS my health issues. It makes it harder to be physical at my job and I need a job I can be excited about and work from anywhere, EVEN bed with a heating pad on my back.

Don't use adversity as a reason to blame our failures on it. Our failures are our own. There's nothing wrong with taking time off for tragedy. But don't use it as something to blame when you fail. Own up that your time off due to the tragedy means you set yourself back. Own up to your failures. You failed, you obviously weren't driven to succeed if you didn't at least put some effort in during that time.

Don't blame FB or Amazon for banning you as if you were somehow important enough to offend them for no real reason. Understand that they have rules in place for a very valid reason and when you break them, that's your fault, not theirs.

Don't blame WA for your failures. They give us ALL the tools we need to succeed. It's OUR choices that enable our success or cause our failures. Failure happens to successful people too. Successful people just don't give up after failures. They learn from what they did wrong and keep plugging away at it.

Do you use your adversity to your advantage? Or do you blame others for your setbacks?

Do you automatically assume everyone else is wrong and you're just being persecuted? You have to try better than that! Take a look inside yourself and figure out where your mistakes and own up to them. Use your mistakes as a learning experience and a way to keep motivated. Use your lack of money to work that much harder at this, not as an excuse not to do it!

Go forth, fellow affiliates! Succeed AND fail, but own it! Don't use your health, your upbringing, your finances to blame your failures on. Use it to motivate yourself to do more! You fail, find out WHY you failed to learn from it.