How to Give Yourself a Jump on Your Competition.

Last Update: July 30, 2019

Life is a competition. Business is a competition. Personal improvement is competition. Pretty much everything we do where "achievement" is involved, we are competing in one way or another...either with others, or with ourselves (or both).

But the way we approach competition can sway whether we out compete (win) in business, and whether we fall into an ongoing and predictable cycle of failure.

So what are the difference makers? What can YOU do to give yourself a competitive advantage in a world that "appears" to be full of stiff competition (in all reality there isn't much).

We are all looking for a way where can have an upper hand. I have spent some time thinking about what attributes will offer this competitive advantage, and I have come up with a few very clear and concise personal attributes.

I am not trying to simplify success, but the reality is these things are simple human characteristics and they are going to lead to much more success in business than any "secret" or knowledge that you have obtained. The reality is that we can all obtain new skills and knowledge, but it is impossible to succeed without these human characteristics (at least at a high level anyways.

The 4 Characteristics of the Successful.

Coming to these conclusions wasn't difficult. I actually took to social media to refine my ideas here, alongside direct conversations with several folks that are creating 6, 7 and 8 figure businesses within the online world. To learn about success, you need to understand the things that are consistent across the board with those that are creating a great deal of success.

I have narrowed these down to FOUR, and I believe these are the ONLY four that you need to focus on to establish and grow a fruitful business.

(1) Work ethic. You can't rise to the surface if you are not outworking those general masses. Try to work as though as you are working as hard as the 1% in the world.

Quitting is the absolutely easiest path, regardless of the situation...even mentally. It is the path MOST traveled by people though, we are serial quitters.

Thus if you can overcome this and refuse to quit, either through an external motivator or sheer will power, you are going to have a real competitive advantage in this world

(2) Not blaming your circumstance. People achieve extraordinary success from many different upbringings, life circumstances, and at different stages in their life. The minute I see someone sharing their life story, their health issue or a story about their family member passing away 5 years ago I fear they won't be able to make it.

They are passing blame on their circumstance as to why they aren't an achiever, that is likely going to continue to be the case in their next business adventure.

Don't play the blame game. It not only creates a perception of you where people are going to work with you in a different manner (as it feels you are already set up for failure), it is going to take you down a path of recurring failure in business and in life.

Own your situation and your circumstances. They are often times out of your control, but you are in full control of the decision you make moving forward and what you achieve.

(3) Being flexible to change. In particular the online world (but no limited to), things change. Stuff that works now, may not work tomorrow. It is hard work to change gears, but few are willing to do this when it happens...thus again, another way in which you can have a competitive advantage.

There are many changes within the online business environment that you can come to anticipate, expect and embrace. These could include, but are not limited to

  • Google algorithm changes/updates
  • Affiliate programs changes (Amazon, Networks, etc)
  • FTC Advertising/Policies change
  • PPC networks changing
  • New advertising/marketing opportunties
  • Technology evolution and changes
  • Audience behaviour changes

You simply have to be ready for these changes and have to be able to adapt to your environment. Remain flexibly and your business will always be in a position to grow.

(4) Focus. This is not as simple as it sounds. Being great at ONE thing has always been a more consistent path to success than trying to create success within many niches/industries.

All the successful companies that you see around you likely specialized with one thing when starting out. Look at Apple. Look at McDonalds. Look at Coca Cola. Look at Shell. They were all specialists and worked to become great at ONE thing. Once they were able to get the formula for success down at that, is when they were able to diversify.

Apple started with computers. Then shifted into Phones. Then they moved into Music. Then they moved into Wearables. Then they moved into services. Now they are potentially moving into autonomous vehicles. If they didn't become great at ONE thing and tried to do all of these things at once when they started out, then they wouldn't exist today (at least not on the same Trillion Dollar Company level).


Those are my 4 keys to success. If you can hone in your skills in all of these areas, you are going to have a true competitive advantage in business. The reason. Most people ARE going to suffer in one or more of these areas and will never achieve success as a result. In fact MOST people will.

So be great by having strong work ethic, not playing the blame game, remaining flexible, and keeping your focus on your own
Anything outside of these are going to be education. We all have pretty much the same access to education, and we can all learn the processes of building a business online. The difference maker will be thee 4 character sics and whether you are actively pursuing mastery of these.

Now I want to open the floor to you. Of these four, which ones do you feel you are really good at (and why), and which ones do you really need to start working on? Leave your comments below and I really look forward to hearing your feedback.

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cld111 Premium Featured Comment
This is perfect, Kyle!

Not blaming your circumstances is HUGE. I think I'm good at that. (I'm having a little scuffle with Google lately, but I don't blame them. I just want to find a solution.) You can't always control what's going on around you, but you can 100% control your thoughts about it.

Focus is definitely something that I could work to improve. I often want to know ALL the things, and I end up doing too many things at once. But I know that laser focus on one thing at a time is so, so important.

- Christina
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YejideS Premium
I can relate about controlling your thoughts

Thanks for sharing
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clergesheble Premium
Thanks Kyle, I can relate to two of the 4, #1 and #3, but I need to work on 2 and 4 I tend the blame my circumstance a lot for not being able to achieve great things, and I tend to lost focus on anything that's time consuming, and to run a business it required a lot of patient and dedication.
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WAA1 Premium
This woke me up instead of my usual coffee this morning. I am working daily on reducing my tendencies to focus outward instead of inward, it’s so important to self inquire and not play the blame game.

I’ve been here for almost 7 months and the most important lesson I have learned is that real work takes time. I had someone get frustrated at me for saying rome wasn’t built in a day, it showed me how I also can be so impatient and conclusive sometimes. Who cares if it’s Rome or a Pyramid, even with a website and business, it takes patience.

I will meditate on these things tonight, thank you for raising our awareness Kyle!

- Rowan
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RichBrennan Premium
I need to work on all 4 of these to some degree or other. We all have the same systems and support here to work with. Some will be able to commit more time than others, but that won't guarantee those with more time a greater level of success than those who have to fill in the nooks and crannies of their day when they can. It very often works the opposite way.
I haven't progressed any where near as quickly as I wanted to here, but the person responsible for that is the one sat in my chair typing this. Yes I've been hit with some pretty crappy life stuff since I joined Wealthy Affiliate, but I've read the stories of other people here who got hit far worse than I did who still did all their assignments.
Once we admit this to ourselves it can be very liberating!
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DinaMartin Premium
I tend to blame myself for my insufficiencies, a slow learner, slow to pick things up. That frustrates me. Sometimes I just don’t understand things even to the point where I don’t know what questions to ask. Eventually it all works out. Focus is tough because there are other niches is rather do but I want to stick to what I’ve started until I have a thorough understanding of how this online business works.
Great post Kyle. Thank you 😊
Dina:)
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MonyasPlace Premium
Sometimes I feel you're talking just at me. I do seem to blame others but... You don't want to know. I put up with a lot but I do want to be successful so no more blame game. If you hear nothing from me you'll know I'm not blaming anyone...but am trying to do what you tell me. I am focused. I am able to write many words. I just know nothing about images.SO ...education huh? ok...I'll give it a try.
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Igor13 Premium
Hi Kyle!

Thanks for the post!
Valuable advice as always.

I think knowing what you do is also an important factor as well as having a certain talent.

Still, if you work hard and consistently, the point of acquiring the knowledge and skills will definitely come.

The talent (a very broad term and meaning) can definitely make the difference as well.

Me personally don't have problems with any of four mentioned factors, moreover with my decision to do it. Sometimes I have too many things of interest that can distract my focus which I could define as probably the biggest problem. Besides, I am always open to new things and that is why I decided to start my Om niche instead my niches I am already good at it.

Still, I want to have fun with what I do and that is why I decided to start OM niche.

Thanks again,
Best regards,
Igor
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TonyJS Premium
Great post, very insightful.
I definitely struggle with focus as I do want to branch out, gonna stick with one now until I master it.
Blaming circumstances is another that I must work on! I blame my full time job on not having enough time to work on my business. Just going to have to find time from somewhere!
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mmussehl Premium
Kyle,
I feel I am pretty good at all four. I do feel that the one that is most important to me though is the not blaming others for my circumstances. To me, every single person could use this as a cop out. We all have stuff in our lives that present challenges. It is how we handle and react to these stresses that will make or break us. If someone is going to complain that they are not where they want to be in life-then do something about it-don’t blame others-it’s your own fault. Thanks for this great post!
Michelle
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Helen123 Premium
Thanks Kyle... I am very focused, sometimes too much... Ive frequently missed the bedtime alarm because I have not finished what i want to achieve, but I also find that I can be very dissatisfied with what I do and can over do it. Im not as great with change, but Im getting better at that, with all the travelling i have been doing its sort of made me embrace it. I wont quit, Im too determined to quit and whilst I have been travelling and it has affected my ability to be on here its not stopped me writing. I dont hold myself up as being a difference maker. But I am competitive, and to be totally honest, cannot do anything unless I can do the absolute best I can. I think thats why my son has been so successful with becoming a professional tennis player, hes 16 and has the same characteristics, determination, focus, singlemindedness. He will play at Wimbledon.
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Shannonkamal Premium
First and foremost this was a Great read!

I would have to say my strong traits are work ethic and I don’t play the blame game

My ethic I attribute to my father he wasn’t a great teacher but he set the perfect example on getting the job done. On the days you don’t feel like working are the days you MUST work. Rain, sleet, snow, sick, or sad I very rarely saw my father at home.

He was gone before I got up for school and I would beat him home by 1.5 hrs

To this day my attitude is the same if you’re not working how will you eat?

I don’t play the blame game because my mom wouldn’t allow it! I was born with a benign blood disorder and stayed in the hospital.

In fact I practically grew up in a hospital! I’ve spent every major holiday and birthdays in the hospital since birth

She would always say “ you don’t have time to join the pity party you’re blessed beyond measure and must work twice as hard”

I remember having enough of hospitals and she told me “you cannot control whether you are here but you can control how you feel about being here. As long as you have limb activity and air in your lungs you are NEVER defeated “

From then on I have worked my tail off to get what I want to achieve and where I want to go!

My focus needs to be better I swear I can multitask but usually end up with a birds nest of nothing!

Excuse the long winded comment but this post really hit home.

Shannon kamal
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This is really inspirational. Thank you for this testimony. It adequately illustrates what Kyle is trying to teach us.
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Shannonkamal Premium
I was more than glad to share it! Thank you for reading.
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HotWombat Premium
Well said Shannon. Uplifting.

HotWombat aka Jim.
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herinnelson Premium
Hey, Kyle! I feel that all four have graced my presence! Keeping up with them all, however, is a constant challenge. It is posts like THIS that will keep me on the path to success! I love it here and the motivation that spreads throughout the community! Doing SAC has set my determination first and foremost toward the goal! Developing a "work ethic" without "blame" and staying "flexible" and "focused" are certainly the four attributes of climbing anywhere you want to go in life. Thank you for always keeping us on track with your educational posts! xo

Erin :)!
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Dougie-Smith Premium
I'm good at self motivation.
I've worked for myself in quite a few areas for the past 30 years. So I do need to get up every morning with the want and need to go out and earn for that day. Whilst I'm able to physically go out and work to earn money for myself however, I also make money for a lot of others to. The balance is somewhat definately not right.

I've stuck with w/a for almost a year now as a premium member, recognising this is the business I want to be involved with for my future. I haven't once had a thought of letting my subscription go. I know and truly believe this is where I belong.
I have juggled the thought of a focused niche long enough now to.

Its now time for me to really change. To make a strong decision on my chosen niche with a view to being able to add elements to it as it grows and I'm able to evolve with it. I'm certainly not afraid of change and I actually see the need to embrace it in order to grow.

Yet again another very helpful post that makes me stop on the spot and evaluate life today.
Thanks Kyle.
Dougie :)
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mcb247 Premium
Thanks for this great post, it's not till someone else tells you these things that you say to yourself, could I do better. The answer is always yes!

Although I could improve all the above areas mentioned, my focus has always been a factor that I am constantly improving.

Blaming circumstances does creep in from time to time without me noticing.

Thanks for the timely reminder so I can push forward once again.

Martin :)
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Palatia Premium
I think I have a good work ethic. It would be easy to play the blame game since I still work outside of this full time. I haven't really blamed it yet. lol. Focus is tough because I have the ideas for new niches in the back of my mind. But I know I need to focus on the current one, for a while. How long, I'm not sure. But hopefully, I'll know when it's time to branch out. I do want to capitalize on something when it's hot though. Your feedback would be helpful on this thought. Thanks, Kyle for your invaluable insight. Paula
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CraigS3 Premium
Hey, it's me Craig Sutton again and I'm working through the program as much as I can I just wasn't very good at English literature you said to come across as you're speaking with a friend and I'm not a quitter I know the only way I can get better as continue to do it over and over but to hold it in do you have any ideas for me to something to read to get better at it so I can be Stellar I'm I'm just one of those things I don't like to do but I have to do it because it's my life thank you for your help I'm in there like swimwear
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skmorrow Premium
I am going to quit (#1), blame Google for my plummeting traffic (#2 & #3)...squirrel! (#4).

Okay, I just couldn't resist. Man, it's been a rough go of it lately and I needed a post just like this to boost my spirits and my attitude, maybe even my traffic LOL.

Affiliate marketing is hard, and you have to endure and overcome a lot of stuff. Some people seem to make it look so easy, but I know they have worked insanely hard to be successful.

After this July traffic drop fiasco, I have to get back on the horse and start riding again.

Time to do work!!
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CraigS3 Premium
Hey Kyle it's Craig setting again I thought you said I didn't need to be a good writer or good English just about every one of the training sessions is about perfect content and posting anyway I'm not a quitter I want to ask you a question I posted two items to post on my website and now you're asking me in the third session 2 write another post with keywords should it be about my products or about something in general is this just a practice thing or shouldn't I'll be more focused on writing something about my products I'm little bit dizzy from everything going around because it's all basically coming down to content content and more content it scares me a little bit but you said to do things I don't like to do or that I hate to do so I'm working on it
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Calvinator63 Premium
Hi Kyle,

Yes, those four are very important traits: I think number 3 might be the most important for affiliate marketers because the changes that technology brings to us almost on a daily basis. And the search engines every lasting effort to supply searchers with the best possible material for each of the searches they conduct.

I also feel that you might have left out another very important trait, one that took me years and a great mentor to overcome that is the ability to eliminate self-doubt.

Self-doubt has destroyed many great ideas before they ever hit the market place, I have found that passion greatly helps overcome self-doubt; when I can fill myself with passion for something self-doubt very seldom rears its ugly head or when it does I quickly snuff it because I let the passion run so strongly within. Steve Jobs was an outstanding example of how passion can overwhelm someone. He would often forget daily menial tasks when he became passionate about a product or app he was working on.

I guess if we really think about it we could grow this list to have a number of items and to shorten to just four to me is not such a simple task. Because we also have some great businessmen like Warren Buffet who is often quoted as thinking outside the box. He looked for honesty, overall skills, their energy to produce, and their love for the business (passion) in the leaders or businessmen that he felt would succeed and frequently tried to snag them up for his endeavors to help his bottom line.

I guess narrowing it down to the four most important traits for each individual might be a little different depending on what they have overcome to achieve their great success and where it was that they started out.

But you have offered many some traits to work on until they too can create their list of the top four!!

Calvin
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Lazyblogger Premium
1 2 & 3 have gotten me this far, but 4 is the killer. Will have control in bits and pieces, but never in long spells, and that is what I need to focus on. But I will continue to work on it until it becomes a lifestyle for me.

Thank you for this post, Kyle.

David.
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JennHavenn Premium
Heyy WA,

Great advice and info, Kyle! 4 key factors to always keep in mind!!

I have a good sense of work ethic...its getting there that can be a challenge. Staying "focused" isn't the easiest..I guess I could blame it on my everyday life circumstances but that's not going to get me anywhere:)

Trying to retrain the brain by simply not thinking too much outside of the box aka worrying. Instead "focus" on one project at a time..if I start wondering then I take a deep breath and refresh myself back on target!
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Isaiah14 Premium
Thanks for the great post, Kyle! I'm working on the Focus right now, not only because of the other niche ideas that I keep thinking about, but just coming from a lifestyle of multitasking. I've had to "reprogram" myself to be singleminded and focus on the current task at hand when it comes to this training, my niche, blogging, and maintaining my current site. I must remain focused! :-)
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TherapyJet Premium
Change can be a pain in the butt, but without change we're stuck in the yesterday, in the who we were....to become great, we need that change...to make us who we want to be. (I know this, but this is the area I'm working on!)

The other keys to success are a walk in the park for me, but may be tricky for someone else. That's the beauty of WA - we are part of an amazing community that can help each other out whichever step of the way we may be struggling with.

Onwards and upwards one and all!

Jane
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Kyle Premium
Exactly, change is part of evolution and innovation. Without it that does not happen. :)
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sminman7 Premium
Great post and information!
I have always been a hard worker with a desire to accomplish something worthwhile. With a focus on the desired result. I have made several adjustments or changes along the way. And I have tried to make a noble to rise above my circumstances!
Thank you for sharing! Great points to think about!
Michael Inman
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LDaquiz1 Premium
Work ethic, that is something I am really good at, I literally worked three job right at this every moment, just to provide and support to my growing family.

I want to focus on one things at the time, but I'm finding it I bit tough to find the balance between raising three little ones and working towards my dreams. But it doesn't mean I'm not doing my part to be successful online entrepreneur.

I know I don't have to blame them or my self for not progressing fast enough in pursuit of my success and happiness. It's my choice to find the balance.

When that moment comes and I know it will, because I believe that for every individual that put there heart and soul and dedication of achieving there goals and pursuing there happiness what ever that might be and how long might it takes us to find it.

I know together that we will succeed and that the fact people's.

Thanks Kyle this really means lots..
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Kyle Premium
Well life and business are intertwined, so don't feel bad about life always been present.

The focus element I was more referring to focusing on being great with ONE business. I see far too often people are getting shiny object syndrome, jumping from opportunity to opportunity and never giving themselves adequate time to succeed at one thing.

That is a recipe for failure.
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167daisAl Premium
Thanks Kyle for sharing your experience. Of the four, I got sidetracked with "Focus". I'm in a challenging situation right now since my wife retired from her job after working with the same company for 40 years. I have to work on how to Focus on my work since she would like to travel and have reunion with her family especially in the Philippines. I just bought a new Lenova Laptop so that I can continue my online business wherever we are. Looking forward that this will help and thanks again for your encouraging advice.
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YejideS Premium
Thanks to my parents, My work ethics remains and on point!

They also taught us to make lemon juice from real lemons, so when life circumstances disrupts, that's is a good time to have cup to access the situation and use that energy to make changes, grow and move forward stronger.

Being flexible to change. Life is Change.
I know that if I don't stay abreast with new technology and etc, I will be stuck in 60's with a 60's mentally. I am also good in this departments as well

I am focus, nevertheless, I now know that I have been to stay focus on 1 thing at a time to intimate Mastery...

Again, Thank you Kyle for this Platform of elivation to movement!!!
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ColleenLVSJC Premium
Thanks for another great post, Kyle! I've been working on being more productive and managing my time better, which ties into focus. Some of this is related to current non-WA responsibilities. I was raised around entrepreneurs, so the work ethic, focus, flexibility, and the determination to succeed are firmly planted in my mind. My online success is only a matter of time.

I'm grateful to be in this great community. You guys are the best! :)
Colleen
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Linda103 Premium
I have come to realise that if things don’t change they stagnate, so change whether good or bad at that time is good in the long run as long as we keep adapting.
I feel I have a decent work ethic.
Circumstances can be trying but that’s life and I try not to blame what’s going on in my life. I chose to do this and will keep going regardless.
Focus is not always brilliant but it’s something to work on.
Thank you for another excellent post Kyle, makes me think and realise what I need to work on to reach the heady heights of success.
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james57 Premium
Yes. Of the four valuable keys to success you listed, to remain focus on one of your many goals will help you organize and direct all your limited resources, to reach your goal to succeed.

Whatever it costs, whatever challenges and changes around you, to focus is like having a magnet to attract everything and filter these and use all helpful knowledge and experiences to reach your goal.

Persistence, hard work, patience, passion, and dedication are positive contributors to reach your target. Focus on calling and passion for doing in life

Thanks, Kyle, for helping us to succeed. Your heart and mind prove that you are a leader. Keep up the excellent work.
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wammark Premium
Thanks for this writeup Kyle.

I'm good at not blaming my circumstances but not very flexible to change. I need to quit the "If it ain't broken, don't fix it" club. It's clear that the pace of technology is constantly upending business as usual. Business unusual is the mainstay now!

We are Blessed.
Mark
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GomMagtibay Premium
One of the circumstances that hindered me from unleashing my full potential was, I was deep in debt and it seems nobody wanted to help me even my rich sisters. The creditors and loan collectors were so nasty that I got so distracted building my businesses online and offline. I was in the blaming game until recently when something favorable happened to me. I think I'm now ready for success.

#2 relates well with me, but it is not only the issue that I can connect with but all of those in the list. And thanks Kyle for this motivating post.
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shmooel18 Premium
Very helpful Kyle. I have a strong work ethic and I have a laser focus on completing one thing at a time successfully. However, I have a problem with taking responsibility for my own shortcomings which, as you pointed out, is a certain path to failure. This is something I have to watch out for and stop myself from doing. Thank you for pointing that out.
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Dale123 Premium
"The minute I see someone sharing their life story, their health issue or a story about their family member passing away 5 years ago I fear they won't be able to make it."

Man, my feelings exactly. It is what you make of it... Rather than blaming circumstances, they should be used as a driving force.
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Asesterheim Premium
Hello Kyle
thank you for the insight.
As regards my focus, I think I manage the first three but not the 4th one - at the moment I cannot focus on one thing, i.e. WA, because I still have a full time job. But I think it will just take a little bit longer, I will not give up.
Just had finished another blog of 2,500 words and I will shortly finish the training.
All the best
Angelika
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Dkirk1 Premium
I have great work ethics taught to me by my father. He was always a hard worker and self employed the majority of his life. I don't ever quit i look at odstacles as a challenge. Life is full of change and decisions. Just take one day at a time and accomplish as much as possible. Be persistent in all that you do. Personally i also pray for guidance and to make the right decision.
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AlenkaV Premium
Thank you for this great article!
Couldn't agree more with your four points.
My biggest challenge was (this is from my beginning in my other career as a musician) not to blame the circumstances for whatever happened or didn't happen.

Then, one day, I just decided to stop the blame game. Just like that. No process, no overthinking it, no reading fancy books. Just did not allow myself to do it ever again. And, guess what, things started to happen as of that moment.

In the past few years, my life has been turned completely upside down in ways I could have never even imagined. I have tried (and mostly succeeded) to use every single circumstance to get even more determined and work my way through it in a positive manner no matter how awful, dispiriting or downright dangerous it was at the time. And, now, that I'm building my new career and business here, couldn't be happier I took that path.

Have a great day,
Alenka :)
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TDomena Premium
I love your story Alenka!
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Dave07 Premium
A very interesting read and I think the second point about blame is the key one.
The reality is that most people who start a business will fail and will look for things to blame for their failure. Many look to identify these reasons early on so that when they give up they can say “well it wasn’t my fault”.
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FrancineThe1 Premium
I agree with the idea of not allowing circumstances or our life stories to be an excuse for being stuck. I have always found it very empowering to take 100% responsibility for my situation. In that way I take initiative to imrprove my lot instead of waiting for external sources to come to my rescue.

On the other hand I am weak on sustained focus. Ever reading one book after another, trying this and that and never becoming expert at anything. Things have to change, and they are. I am going to work hard and focus on my training here at WA.
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KennyLee Premium
Brilliant sharing as always Kyle. I think I'm ok at the work ethic part. I work to the points of burnout sometimes.

As for the blaming part. Sure, I sometimes hate Google. But life goes on and it doesn't stop me from moving forward.

I probably need to be more flexible. Trying out new strategies and stuff.

Focus.. argh.. there's so much going on in my brain. Yeah. I need a little bit more focus.

Well, the question is always about whether should i be focusing on what's work, or explore new strategies/niches that may take me further.
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DaliborT Premium
Focus is something I have to master. I am easily distracted by researching new things so my attention is divided most of the times. This is something I need to learn how to stay focused on things I am currently doing.

My strong side is work ethic. When I want to do something, I will do it, no matter how long it will take or which road I have to take.
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I think I am actually good at all the four...But as a mother of four it's getting a bit difficult for me to take out time ... but I still want to keep myself occupied with the work if I find one and also try and be good at it ...
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emilyonline Premium
I feel like i'm good at not blaming my circumstance, but it's taken me a while to get here. I have two small children and in my mind it's hard to find time for anything else outside of them, but that's just in my mind! Once I was able to identify I just needed to adjust my attitude to my available time (when they are asleep), things have gotten easier. I try to maximise the time i DO have to work on my business, and I have some other business mums whose brands I love to follow, and if I ever start feeling sorry for myself I just take a look at what they're achieving to re-inspire me.

focus is something i struggle with. when I started here back in 2015 I had 4 websites. I don't work on any of those now, and just have one that i'm sticking to. and two traffic channels to work on for now. I find it hard not to get distracted by shiny objects, new niche ideas, etc etc! I tend to step away and watch one of Jay's webinars when I start feeling distracted, I always learn something new that helps me focus back onto my site. I get so nervous for people when I see they're working on multiple sites when they're just starting out, because I've been there and it's not smart to me. Its enough work just doing the one site, and I need to remind myself of that all the time.
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AlexEvans Premium
A great recipe to create a fulfilled life, definitely a work in progress, as we travel through life, following your strand will bring about some good outcomes.

If I was thinking of anything to add it would be the drive to beat ourselves, at the end of the day it is us that sets things in motion or not.

Thanks for sharing kyle, food for thought.
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Bald Eagle Premium
A very timely and, as usual, excellent post Kyle.

My work ethic is shocking.

I feel this is as a result of blaming my circumstances and not being flexible enough to adjust in the early stages of my time here at WA. The google slap on PPC - a lifelong ban that took the wind out of my sails (and sales).

But I am trying real hard to take control and push on.
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Stacy14 Premium
I am using the situation I blamed for a long time to help me with my journey. I came to the conclusion thats if I can't change the situation, I have to change my response to it.
I have now used my life situation to achieve something I never thought possible and the best part is, I get to help others who find they're stuck. 😁
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Elegracia Premium
What you said about the blaming game really got me thinking. I seldom blame the circumstances, but I often take on so much upon myself that I do a lot of self-blaming.

I think the point is really, blaming game - be it towards life circumstances or anyone including ourselves, isn’t healthy.

Move on and focus on what to be done and not what have been done. Whether we dwell in the past or take on the lesson and move forward that is up to us.
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MichalB Premium
I must admit I have had the tendency of playing the blame game...
I started to realize that few years ago.

Now I do appreciate to see it written black on white and I feel like the 2nd point is intended for me.

Playing the blame game is truly poisonous.
Some people play this game that long that they are able to develop it into a stage that it starts to have a negative effect on their health.
I know it first hand - my very close relative has done that.


It is great to know that we can own our situation.
Many thanks for these 4 keys.
Mike :)
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McWord Premium
My work ethic, without a doubt, is my strongest asset. That has always been my strongest asset in everything I've done.

I'm trying my best not to blame my circumstances, but the truth is now, my time is extremely limited, I must choose carefully how I proceed in my business.

I have four web sites and choosing the one that shows the best profit potential has been a stumbling block.

In the meantime, I've been trying my best to be welcoming and helpful wherever I can.

Any thoughts on my situation would be most helpful.

In appreciation,

mitch
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edwin369 Premium
Great blog! My best value is flexibility and my least strength is focus. I'm very flexible to changes because of my wide range of skills and experience.

Focus is my weakness that I'm working on, because I have poor time management skills and I have many things going on at the same time.

I'm really good at multi-tasking but I need to improve my planning, time management and blue print skills.

Also, I'm always struggling to keep the balance between over thinking and keeping it simple.
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