The answer is kindness and compassion

Last Update: May 18, 2018

It saddens me to learn of yet ANOTHER school shooting. Families are dealing with another tragedy in their homes and community and it's just another day in our world. Many of the shooters have mental health issues and others have been victime of school bullying or abuse in the home.

Is it because we have too many guns in our society?

Unfortunately, even if we banned all the guns, the perpetrator would find another way. Can we ban all the homemade bombs? No. Can we stop them from using a car? No. Can we stop someone if they are mentally ill? Probably not.

What can we do to stop the violence?

I wonder if the answer is that the students themselves can be the solution. How about stop bullying when you see it! Show kindness and compassion to the ones that are being bullied and stand up to those who are doing the bullying. Those trouble maker kids are usually acting out because they are troubled. Who knows what is going on at home or with others at school.

There are countless stories that the shooter was bullied throughout their school life and returned to the school out of vengence.

Would it make a difference if the teachers could redirect a troubled students acts of aagression by kindness and compassion instead of just punishment?

Students, do you have the power to change this?

Students, instead of rallying to ban guns, keep rallying for anti-bullying in your schools and do what YOU can to change the life of one of those trouble makers. We all bleed the same, let's stand together. Celebrate our differences and embrace those that need that smile or simple gesture of kindness.

These are just my thoughts and I realize that there are no easy answers. I welcome your comments. Each of US can do what we can to perhaps show kindness to the classmate of our children that show signs of neglect. We cannot change the world, but perhaps we can change the world for that one lonesome little girl or boy with just a little kindness and compassion.

Random acts of kindness

My prayers go out to all those touched by these acts of violence. Let US do random acts of kindness. We may never know if we instead perhaps changed the mind and intention of that troubled person and prevented another school shooting.

Sachi

(Please note, I am not advocating for or against banning guns. I just think that is not the real problem to this epidemic.)



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Sammy-B Premium
It seems that there is little room for kindness and compassion at schools and in parts of our society although this would clearly be the answer to all this aggression. But where does all this aggression come from. Is it caused by frustration, by lack of good examples, by the inability to bond with other people? There are too many qestions and too few answers. The only thing we can do is try to be a good example by being kind and compassionate. You are absolutely right, Pamela.
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SachiKashi Premium
Sammy - what about what the students listen to? What about the violent video games about killing. My grand-kids are into that too and I often tell them that this is not reality - kids shouldn't be excited about how many "kills" they had!
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Sammy-B Premium
Yes, Pamela, that's true, the kids have access to all these violent games and videos although they are supposed to be age-restricted. I think sometimes they even get those from their parents. I wish we had a magic wand and all this negativity could be turned into compassion and kindness.
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CarolMeador Premium
That would be SO wonderful, Sammy! Wave a magic wand, and the world is all bright and shiny with compassionate, kind people. No more wars or rumors of wars, no more fear or anxiety for our kids when they leave the nest to go to school. To quote Louis Armstrong, "What a wonderful world" that would be!
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MKearns Premium
If every student body created awareness campaigns that would be a great first step Pamela!
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SachiKashi Premium
This morning, students were at the State Capitol in California trying to ban guns so they can be safe in schools. What about all the violence in those video games and in their music - do we ban those too? No - these are choices that one makes on what you feed your spirit and mind. Students - there are things they can address and self-"police" if you will and choose against buying and listening to those games and videos.
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Irishlassie Premium
I'm with you..I hate this so much. My youngest grandson will be 17 on Sunday, and it terrifies me that anything like this could happen here.
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SachiKashi Premium
My heart just grieves for our society. People are so troubled in their own little bubbles, tied to their phone, watching all these "perfect" pictures on facebook or instagram. Life is not perfect. Let us help each other through life. Blessings to you
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SachiKashi Premium
It's such a shame that our children are exposed to this. I didn't mention what I thought about all these violent video games that many of these young kids play. I think some lose sense of reality and get desensitized about actually killing people in real life. So many social issues that contribute to this climate.
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Irishlassie Premium
I agree..I never did like those games. My grandson plays some of the wild ones and I disapprove completely..but he is one of the absolute sweetest young men I have been privileged to know. Not just because he's my youngest granddarlin..he really is a good guy. Too bad so many of the younger generation who play that junk do not seem to be able to keep it in context with real life.
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Irishlassie Premium
Thanks Darlin...same to you as well. You are a very special person.
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CarolMeador Premium
I know what you mean. My grandson will be 18 in August.

I think I heard there have been 5 school shootings so far this year. I think that shows that ours is a legitimate fear...it truly could happen anywhere at any time. That's what's so frightening!
But banning guns is not the answer in my opinion.

I think every school should be surrounded by a high fence with a gate that requires every person entering it to pass through a metal detector prior to entering, like we do in our court house. It wouldn't stop people from using plastic explosives if they were intent on bombing, but it would cut down on the knife and gun violence.

Carol
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zcfpbaby Premium
I so agree with you. I used to think gun control, but that is not the answer because if someone is bent on killing he will find a gun or some weapon.
Children should not have to go to school and not feel safe. They have enough to worry about. They should feel safe in school. It is so sad to know that this is not the case. I watched one of the girls talking about just this. It was so sad. She said just that---that she should not have to worry about being safe when she goes to school in the morning. It is just so sad.
My13 year old grand did befriend a child over the past year that was different and a loner. He sat alone and ate alone in the dining room every day. None of the other kids interacted with him. Mine took it upon himself to be a friend and ate with him and talked with him and last year for the first time in his life, the troubled child felt comfortable enough to invite him to his birthday party and since then he has been to our house once to play on the x-box together. I am so proud of my little one. He is such a kind and loving person and makes a difference in other's lives. We all need to learn from this and do the same.
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SachiKashi Premium
Kudos to your grandchild for seeing the lonesomeness in someone else. It is also awesome to know that he must have learned this compassion from his own home life! Let's share kindness, not hatred or bullying. Blessings to you and your family.
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zcfpbaby Premium
Thank You, and to you and your family.
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Bryan8 Premium
That would truly be an amazing start. Too many times we see that the shooter was bullied and friends with no one. While that isn't an excuse it is something that someone can change right in their own school, first thing in the morning on Monday.

The life that you save may be your own. How horrible that would be to be one of the people that bullied someone and then see them with a gun. So, they don't look or speak like you or they can't afford the best in stylish clothing. Make friends anyway. Everybody has something to contribute to society.

Be the difference that you seek!
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SachiKashi Premium
Well said, my friend. It just makes me so sad to know my grandchildren have active shooter drills at school. This is so wrong!
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Bryan8 Premium
In my youth it was bomb drills for the atom bomb, now shooter drills. It never gets any easier.
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CarolMeador Premium
Well said, Bryan.
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