On Balancing Life, Work, & a Baby (Plus My Vegas 2018)

Last Update: February 14, 2018

I don't think I was ready to have a child.

Well, let me clarify.

I don't think ANYONE is ever ready to have a child.

You can read every book in existence, attend every baby class, read every mom blog, and study until your brain can hold no more and you still won't be ready.

Nothing really prepares you for what comes after the baby arrives.

Enter Vincent...

Today, he's a cool little 8-month old dude with an independent personality and a big cheesy smile with 4 little teeth.

For a while though, he was a total time suck.

I'm talking, if at the end of the day, Amanda, Vin and I were still alive, I counted that day as a total success.

Needless to say, my business took a little bit of a hit. One that I am still recovering from today.

The thing is, there is no guide out there on how to raise your child and run a business.

Vin didn't come with an instruction manual.

Every day we learned something new and every day a little less time was spent focusing on my business.

Sprinkle in a little seasonal depression with a dash of sleep deprivation and it became easy to completely set my business aside.

Luckily, I was able to see the downturn and make some changes before shit really hit the fan. Today, I am refocused and back to work. Any more distractions could mean losing my business and everything I've worked so hard to achieve over the past 11 years.

I'm not going to let that happen.

I want to continue to stay at home, be a good dad to Vin, a good husband to Amanda, and a successful entrepreneur.

And that's why it's 6PM on Valentine's Day and I'm in the office writing a Wealthy Affiliate blog post.

Don't worry, Amanda understands.

Wealthy Affiliate & Vegas 2018


My trip was a little different this year.

Usually Amanda accompanies me and we get to spend the week partying with every one.

This year, she was at home with Vin and I spent most of my free time facetiming the two of them.

I was going through my phone to pull up some pictures from the trip for this post, but I only took two the entire time I was out there.

The panorama above.

And this picture below.


(Sorry Vitaliy)

All in all it was a good time, like always.

Kyle & Carson have reinforced my beliefs that Wealthy Affiliate IS the best platform to build an affiliate marketing business.

The value, thought, and consideration those two put into WA and its members cannot possibly fit into a blog post (and video ain't my thing).

The super affiliates are given sneak peeks into some of the projects that are being developed and I think you all will be pleasantly surprised with some of the upcoming releases.

The fact that these guys continue to improve their service year, after year, after year, and don't charge any extra for it is why I'm happy to continue to recommend WA.

I look forward to seeing how the rest of this year plays out.

It's going to be a good one.

-Steve

PS. Yes, this blog post was a thinly veiled attempt to show off my kid.

He's adorable and I love him to pieces.



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Gazella61 Premium
Hi Steve, As you may have read in my profile that I'm a proud mother of 6. I know it seems difficult right now, but you'll look back on this time and think to yourselves, "boy we had it easy back then." There is always an element of surprise and joy in each and every stage. Enjoy every one of them! Congratulations and best wishes!
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3dandelions Premium
Hi Steve,

Congratulations on parenthood! I agree, no amount of pre-learning can completely prepare you. And hang on, it's a continual learning curve for years to come! But it is the best learning curve ever!

I've Tried That is how I found WA. I got started, took some time off to focus on my brick and mortar business and now am back at it and enjoying it! So grateful to have found WA.

You'll find that you will continually re-adapt your work-husband-dad roles in the years to come, but I have no doubt you succeed in all of them!

Cheers,
Emily
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supertimothy Premium
Hello Steve. It was very enjoyable reading what "real life" is like as a new parent. And I appreciate your honesty and candidness regarding the stresses it can put on a couple and everything your doing. It's all part of life as we are learning along the way on our personal journey.

Your little boy is really cute, and it's easy to see why you and Amanda are very proud. Enjoy the life, as he is a very integral part of both of you.

Unrelated...I am doing a little catch up here. For a couple of days my sign in was not working properly. I could not login even after I joined WA, but got it straightened out this morning.

I am grabbing everything I can from the beginning a couple days ago and am so excited to learn everything I can, and looking forward to the rest of the lessons!

Thanks for everything,
Timothy Green
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CJardin Premium
Thank you for sharing your parenting challenges and adorable Vin! He will feel your lives with joy and sometimes chaos, the kind you do not expect, as you said with your experiences.

So cool to read about your Vegas 2018 experience, and will continue to work hard this year so I can meet ya'all next year!

As a single mother, I raised my only son (now 25) at a very young age of 19. He is now a recent college graduate, lives (somewhat) independent - still working on the Millennial affects - ha :) and can tell you it takes about half of yourself to effectively care and focus on the little one(s). He will grow and surprise you and may even succeed much quicker as this world continually turns into many amazing opportunities that allow for a more satisfied working class life style.

Keep up the great parenting work and the rewards will continuously flow in both your directions for a lifetime!

All the Best!

Carrie
generationxaffiliate.com (google indexed, still working on training, content etc.)
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tommo1968 Premium
Chuffed for you Steve, he's a smasher! I hear you on the work front having adopted two boys a couple of years ago my life work focus was turned upside down.

I would sit down at the keyboard thinking of knocking out a post when from upstairs, "Dad! my remote cars not working can you fix it?"

"OK, I'll be up in a bit"....tippy tappy on the KB,,,"Dad where are you?" ...."OK, OK I'm coming."

and so ends my chance to write while I play remote cars chasing each other around the landing.

Wouldn't swap it for the world. :)
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IveTriedThat Premium
It's only been 8 months but I already can't imagine my life without the little guy. I get to take a break from work when I want to go play with him. I'm extremely grateful for that :)
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nathaniell Premium
Vegas was a blast as usual. We should stay in touch more this year and see if we can figure out how to knock out those 3k sales with two minds together instead of one each!

Maybe if I just buy 2,999 memberships through your link and you do the same for me?
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IveTriedThat Premium
Only $57,000... I think I'd rather just rent the hotel room myself.
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Zarina Premium
Lol you guys made me giggle
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VitaliyG Premium
New age ponziness anyone?
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hagstf Premium
You didn't get the instruction manual?
Well, simply put your first name and favorite email addy into the form below and I will shoot you right off to the download page lol

Seriously though, thanks for sharing your family with us and I promise to not tell Vitaliy about the pic :)
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IveTriedThat Premium
I searched for one on Amazon, but came up short!
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BrittaneyS Premium
Aww he is so cute! And as a proud parent, you never need an excuse to show off your kid, just whip out those pictures loud and proud!

Also glad to hear that you're still working hard despite all you're trying to juggle at home. I can't even imagine how hard running a business and raising a newborn would be.

Hang in there and keep up the awesome work and adorable photos! :)
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IveTriedThat Premium
Thanks Brittaney! It's been a challenge, but one I can overcome.
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littlemama Premium
Your baby is super cute, I love that age. They are so aware but not able to moving around yet... just wait til he starts moving! LOL

Yeah I was wondering how this would impact your business. Every parent understands how you can never be ready for a baby no matter how prepared you are.

When's #2??!

He's gotta have a playmate.... it helps, trust me! :)
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IveTriedThat Premium
I need to forget a few more things before #2 comes along lol
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Kyle Premium
Vin is growing up and you are blessed to have such an amazing little dude (and wife) in your life.

There really isn't anything that you can "plan" for in advance when you throw kids in the business mix, you just have to take things head on as they happen and remain flexible to your situation, as everyone's situation is completely different.

I know the year ahead is going to be a brilliant one for your Steve and I look forward to seeing it unfold. In your corner, rooting for brilliance!
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IveTriedThat Premium
I'm pretty sure at one point I said "How hard could it be really?" Well, yeah. I quickly learned my lesson.
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SondraM Premium
You kid is soooo cute!!! I can see how it would be challenge to focus with such a cute little guy being a little guy.

I'm confident your business will continue to grow as you all develop and refine your routine.

P.s. I"m glad you had a great time in Vegas.
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IveTriedThat Premium
The hardest part is having to set aside time to work when it is much easier to sit around and play with Vin.
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NatNiches Premium
Ah I remember those baby days and still look back with longing sometimes, although I remember how challenging it was too! Mine are 8 and 11 and I absolutely love having older kids too, so just treasure every moment... really, every year brings something new and it's an adventure. I hope you get your business back on track, I understand seasonal depression too, it really sucks! All the best Steve!!! Your little boy is adorable!!! Nat :)
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IveTriedThat Premium
Thank you Nat! It's hard wanting him to grow up and out of phases, but wanting him to stay tiny forever as well. Time definitely move faster now.
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NatNiches Premium
Yes it’s a bit of a catch 22 lol. It does go so fast!
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rileyroman Premium
What a great post !!! You have a beautiful family. I wish you the best on your parental journey, and I can tell you from experience, " it never ends " :)
But the love you have for the children you have is so special. I treasure my two children, they are 45 & 49,
I still can't believe that they are grown, however, they are not Gone :) Pics of them on my profile :)

stay humble & kind,
riley
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IveTriedThat Premium
It is crazy how quickly time does speed up after you have children. Vin just passed 8 months yesterday and I honestly have no idea where that time went.
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accad Premium
I know you expected your baby and you prepared for it and always included as your inspiration in your business.

You said you have had a little challenge in your business but it's still having you sufficient income.

As if I am seeing that in the very stage of my site development, instead of growing in traffic the more it is going down or it's static.

Could you please share one hint that you have seen the number one traffic booster.
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Stella2 Premium
Thanks for this Steve.

You sound like such an awesome dad, and your little guy is a real cutie.
I don't blame you for wanting to show him off!

I was just chatting with my 21 year old "baby" who was proud of a chicken dish he cooked. He'll always be your baby. :-) Enjoy every precious minute.

And, yes, the Vegas trip sounds great. You guys are an inspiration.
Congrats on your successful business!
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IveTriedThat Premium
Thank you Stella :)
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I-Pedro-I Premium
Hey Steve,

Believe me, I know what you mean... no one is ever ready for a kid...

I had my first daughter in 2012 but since she was such a bad sleeper we delayed the 2nd way too much .... we just didn't have the courage to face it all over again...

Now Sara is 9 months old and she's an angel during the day... but during the night she is a lil devil.. keeps waking up more than 10 times per night totally wears one off ......

lack of sleep is a productivity and creativity natural killer...

Glad to have you back on track... you are a plus to this community

cheers m8 and hang on

they are totally worth it ;)
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IveTriedThat Premium
Vin is finally getting on a regular sleep schedule and getting a 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep has been a God send. I forgot how it felt to wake up well rested.
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lmridge Premium
Steve -

Vincent is really cute! You must have already had earned the Vegas trip before he distracted you from your business. :)

Congratulations on your Vegas trip, and to you and your wife on your first child.

You're right about them not coming with manuals, but they help you learn quickly.

I have decided to follow you, and it is my goal to make it to Vegas next year.

Lydia
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IveTriedThat Premium
He's certainly taught us quite a few things. A manual would have definitely been handy.
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HowardJaros Premium
Congrats Steve! Yes, Vin is so cute!

You are an inspiration to many here in WA as you are one of the pioneers who has been here for quite a while.

Yes, I am in my RV office too, have been all day working on my new website and things inside the WA system. We all have to do what we have to, but love to do.

If we are passionate about what we are doing it is never called work!

Press on Sir! I look forward to meeting you in Vegas at an upcoming event!
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IveTriedThat Premium
I look forward to that as well Howard! Thank you :)
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TonyHamilton Premium
Awesome Steve!

Vincent is adorable, congratulations on surviving the first 8 months of being a Dad.

It must have been great to have FaceTime available to see them while you were gone.

Years ago when I traveled across the Country for work, we didn't have FaceTime so I would talk with my Son Vance and the phone.

I stopped the traveling cross Country when he was 4 years old as it was too hard on both him and I. (I cried more than he did when I had to leave)

Thank you for sharing the wonderful pictures and also for sharing that WA is still an amazing place that keeps getting better.

In my 31 months here, I agree and look forward to witnessing the upcoming improvements and also to meeting many WA Friends in Las Vegas next year at the Super Affiliate Conference.

Tony
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IveTriedThat Premium
I'm incredibly grateful that technology has advanced so far by the time we had Vin. Staying away from him for a whole week with no pictures or videos would have been torture.
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