Yes or No - That is the question and answer

byDEversley

1.6K followers

8 years ago

Recently, I had to tell someone "No" and it felt good. Actually, much better than good; it felt...

***** s u p e r a w e s o m e*****

Does that make me a horrible person, yes or no? You see, if I had said yes to this, I would have been busy for this entire (long) weekend, unnecessarily. I prefer to relax and spend time with the family and catch up on WA activities :). Saying a thoughtful "no" can be invogorating and liberating.

As it turned out, there are others who are more qualified and available than I could be at present. Had I said yes, who do you think would have suffered most these next four days?

For many years, I was the person who mostly said 'yes' when asked for favors or plainly, for help with anything. This attitude allowed me to;

• solve a few challenges
• develop meaningful relationships
• learn a lot about some things in the process

Yes, I know... That seems positive doesn't it? So, what is this all about, you may be saying.

There are many advantages to helping out, but the other side of the coin is that this attitude also caused me a bit of panic and frustration at times. Some of those favors were huge and required a lot of time and effort and much to the disadvantage of my family, work, and personal rest time. They are others who are also willing and able. I am not Spider-Man ( My favorite superhero, not Super-Man as you may have expected me to put there).

To cut a potentially much longer story very short, I will simply say this. We must always be willing to help others and put them first when necessary (this is important at times). However, also weigh the "costs" of undertaking projects/challenges against what you can afford to sensibly "give away."

Now, depending on the situation, will you carefully consider what your next answer will be? Will it be Yes or no? That is the question...or is it the answer? Answer responsibly because your answer may have lasting effects on others close to you. Believe me, you will endure the consequences of your answer one way or another.

Have a productive day and remember, saying "no" is OK sometimes.

All the best and more.

David

P.S This is nothing to do with helping out where possible at Wealthy Affiliate...:)