Some people just want to see the world burn
Ok, it's not often I have a rant. Well, not online, anyway.
Usually, things don't get to me. People, I mean, don't normally get to me.
Today, for some reason, a huge amount of negativity has entered my world. From obnoxious comments on my site for daring to 'sell' to my readers (and if you've seen my sites, you'll know that there's no hard sell at all), to some of my friends online basically slagging off anyone that wants to better themselves through personal development....I'm getting exhausted by it!
I know that the world is not an ideal place.
Normally, it just goes in one ear and out the other. But why is it that miserable people want to make other people miserable, too?
Because here's the thing: none of this negativity ever comes from successful people. It's always from those whose life is not going how they want it to.
My life is far from perfect, but at least I'm happy and moving forwards. The exhausting part is trying to escape those that want to drag me back down.
Does anyone else experience these issues- and how do you deal with them?
Thanks, and happy Friday!
Chloe
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Hi Chloe,
People want company. Even if that means miserable company. Those who are miserable need to know they are not alone. So they use negativity to get as many as possible around them to enjoy.
In the MLM world this is what is called "The Birds". In MLM you lose people because "The Birds" take them away by thorough all the why nots and it won'ts at them. So people who are bombarded by that constantly start to believe what they are being told.
That is one of the great things about this community. You are constantly being reinforced with the Why you Can. How it works. Ask when you need help. This all typically leads to positive reinforcement.
Do what you are doing. Ignore them. Negative and miserable people can typically only keep it up when there is a response. In the case of close friends, you need to ask them to respect your decisions or they really are not your friend. Friends support friends.
We in the community are your friend. Use us for your positives to offset the negatives!
Best wishes!
Ron
Yes, I agree with this. They feed off continual response. If they don't go away after an initial polite, cheerful, positive approach ( read above) then it is time to mute them or put them in spam or not answer the phone.
Hi Ron,
Ah, I've never heard of it referred to as 'The Birds' before, but that makes a lot of sense. I'll remember that next time someone starts making negative comments.
So do you have a background in MLM? The reason I ask is that I grew up with network marketing, and although it's not really my thing, I learned loads from it, and loved the support networks. Like you say, it's very similar to Wealthy Affiliate, which is probably why I love it here.
Thanks for the help and support, I know it's not just me that will benefit from it.
And of course, good luck with your business.
Chloe
I am not sure but I know what you are talking about.YOU JUST HAVE TO KEEP MOVING FORWARD. That want I try to do it, been that way all my life.One step forward and two steps back.But just keep moving forward you will do great. Carl
Thanks Carl, you're right....that's definitely the case! But as long as we do move forwards, it's all good.
I am pretty much a loner, have only few quality friends, so you can say I am not impressed with people in general. I realized at one point that they can sometimes be just waste of time. Remember: it's not about what they are saying to you, it's about who is saying! Keep up the good work and best of luck!
Hi Anita, I think you're right- for the good of our own mental health, I think we should choose our friends wisely. Thanks for sharing.
Chloe
When you are low on cash, things aren't going your way and it seems you just can't catch a break, you tend to overreact. It seems like every opportunity you look at ends up having a catch. Those people might be the ones dissing you for selling. As far as friends go, bringing you down is their way of not being left behind. The down trodden are not losers for being poor or homeless or hungry or jobless as long as they are still trying. The real losers are the ones who have quit, and prefer to complain about the system or think they are looking down their noses at successful people when they fail to notice their nose is pointing up. They have found comfort in their misery and must be left behind, yet not necessarily forgotten, should they have a change of heart later. You cannot let their disease infect your dreams and priorities. You can give them a hand up down the road if you decide they deserve it, but until then-Bye Bye.
Hi Broderick,
You make some great points here, many of which hadn't even occurred to me. Yes, it's always a lot easier, I think, to try to tear someone down, than it is to better yourself. I promise I won't quit!
Thanks for the advice, it's definitely appreciated.
Take care,
Chloe
Hi Chloe, I would only about comments you are receiving. Your text is public and you can expect any sort of comments. I myself write negative comments sometimes, and receive such as well. This is reality, no need to be disturbed about it.
Hi Jovo, you're absolutely right.
I've been receiving comments on my sites for quite a while now, and yes, sometimes they're negative.
I understand that it's all a learning experience, and I try to take the positives from them- sometimes, like today, it's just a bit harder to do that! But I'm working on it.
Thanks for the comment, I appreciate your help.
Chloe
Hi Chloe, Otherwise known as Gremlins...if real people or the voice in our own heads, negativity is always around and some days it's hard to ignore. Good for you to acknowledge it, and then the question of how to shake it off? Sometimes for me I just need to take a "time out"...unplug and get out in nature, or go for a coffee with a friend, treat yourself to something...whatever is your groove to change the mindset. I feel the same way that you do where normally I can shake things off, but sometimes a little darkness creeps in. Hang around with like minded positive people, plan your next trip, and never lose faith in yourself that you are on an amazing journey here in life. Let's keep talking on this great trip, and I wish you a most excellent day with weekend coming up :)
...didn't answer your question before about Belize, we travelled throughout the country and it was all amazing!
Talk to you soon, E xo
Hi again Elisa, and thanks for the great comment.
You're absolutely right, it is like having a Gremlin! And about planning the next trip- that's pretty high on my agenda right now...so yes, I'll go do that, and should feel better afterwards.
Oh wow, that sounds incredible. Belize is just such a stunning country, and the people there are so friendly, I'm glad you had a great time :)
Hi Chloe! The best way to deal with such miserable individuals or even groups is not to deal at all. Just ignore - they always search for confirmation and audience and if there is none - they leave, like cowards usually do. Just follow your goals, lucky stars..whatever! And share your positive energy with us here!
Thank you- you're absolutely right, I do need to ignore them, and to spend more time is the right environment...like here :)
Wow, you just made me realise how much I appreciate being part of Wealthy Affiliate!
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Hello Chloe,
I do not ignore them, I think of creative ways to answer their negativity and show them they are not going to get me down and make me play into their game.
Instead, I show them what a positive attitude is all about and ask for their suggestions to improve my site and sincerely thank them for any input they can give me to improve myself.
IN OTHER WORDS, TELL THEM TO PUT UP OR SHUT UP!
San
I like your approach. If anything drives a negative, sour grapes person nuts, it's a positive, can-do attitude! That usually drives them away.
Hi San,
I love your approach, and it sounds like it works for you, so I'll definitely have to give it a shot next time.
Thanks for sharing!
Chloe
It works like crazy and I have even gotten a few good ideas from some of them. Most of them just go away and I never hear from them again.
You are always welcome,
San