Achieving our dreams
Unfortunately we live in a world where we get told from a young age what we can and can't do. We grow up limited in our understanding, in our belief of what we can achieve.
My wife was born in China, she grew up as a second child and a female in a culture which idolises first born boys. From a young age she was told that she would never amount to anything.
Even after she came to Australia 10 years ago, she was still being told by her family that she would never amount to anything. That the best she could ever hope for was to work as a waitress and possibly find a good husband.
The were right about the second point if I do say so myself.
One of my projects, my mission since first meeting my wife, Bella, was to build up her confidence so she could achieve her goals. So that she had the self-belief to follow her dreams and succeed in life.
Today one of those dreams came true
When I first met Bella she said that one of her dreams was to work with children. She achieved that dream 18 months ago when she got her first job as a childcare educator.
She then set herself a goal of getting her Diploma, something that no-one in her family had previously achieved. She received that qualification today.
To achieve our dreams we have to set ourselves goals which will take us there.
Often we fail to achieve our dreams because we listen to the nay sayers instead of following through on our goals.However if we set our goals and surround us with supportive people who will provide us with the guidance and the help needed, we can achieve our goals, and the ones we set after them.
I have been a member of WA for almost 3 months now and in that time I have found this one of the most supportive communities I have ever had the pleasure to be involved with. Here we are provided with the training and support to achieve our goals.
I am proud of my wife's achievements, and I know I will achieve my goals here because I have the support of support of you the WA community.
Thank you and have a wonderful day :)
Brendan
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It's known as Games People Play coined by Eric Berne in the 60's in Transactional Analysis---profiling someone into a role and then they replay those tapes in their heads because they believe in them and it's learning to reprogram your thinking with affirmations to build self-esteem.
Sometimes it takes a lot of support from the people around you to build self-confidence in yourself
Hi, Brendan thank you so much for sharing your story that is so good just really like it. Amazing what we can achieve by taking positive action, all the best to you and Bella as she embarks on her career and you make inroads into the online world exciting times.
My country Philippines have been greatly influenced by Chinese culture and our blood in the indigenous group is an acculturation of both Chinese and Spaniards which has the patriarchal characteristic.
In fact, in the 1960s there's still belief that strongly support the story of your wife when it comes to education. So most males are sent to High School and College than females.
Jimmy, that does not surprise me at all. My wife is from a rural village as well, so as city China is slowly becoming more westernised, where she is from is probably a couple of decades behind.
Thank you for reading and commenting :)
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The sentence that sums up you blog post is this:
"To achieve our dreams we have to set ourselves goals which will take us there."
Congrats to your wife and thank you for sharing that great story!
Keep on keeping on!!!!
Thanks Denis, I appreciate you reading and commenting.