Forgive Yourself
I am who I am
I am not what you think I am
What you think of me is your issue
What I think of myself is my issue
The two may not always agree that is fine because you are not me.
If you are upset with what others say or think of you that is an issue you need to deal with.
It is not through hatred or anger towards them regardless if it is physical, emotional or mental that will only make you feel worse and build more resentment.
What good will that do for or to you?
The best way to deal with that is to forgive not others for the deeds or actions but to forgive yourself for thinking of the negative thoughts and feelings you brought within yourself.
They may have done a bad deed but it is you that brought on the emotion, thoughts and feeling within yourself.
Think hard about what I said
Forgive yourself for the thinking you gave regardless of what others have done.
Remember:
You are who you are.
You are not what others define you as
For some this may very well be confusing you may think yes but they did the wrong I didn’t do anything to deserve that.
Perhaps in this physical world but you are more that.
Of course if you are in physical danger leave but I am talking about what the emotions you are creating within yourself not the actions presented to you.
So once more forgive yourself for the thoughts you created to yourself as a result.
Think deep and hard about this.
The more you forgive yourself for the thoughts, and feelings you created within you about the issue, the quicker things will improve for and to you.
It may not be easy at first but you need to let go of the emotional baggage you gave yourself regardless of who started it you are holding on the feelings against yourself.
For many this may be hard to grasp but know that regardless what others have done you created the emotional thoughts and feelings within you.
So forgive yourself and know that you are who you are and nothing else matters.
You are the best Gift to yourself
Andre
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Great message Andre. I wish the world could grasp this knowledge and apply it, especially here in the U.S. with our polarized politics.
Fortunately this concept of forgiving is one I can embrace and have been doing so a lot. Thanks to God's love I don't let the negativity in.
It can be hard at times, but the end result always brings me more peace. I do not take sides. I look at things from both sides. United.
Forging one's self AND forgiving others, is always the first and second steps to healing. If God/Jesus can embrace both sides, then I can too.
Have a great day my friend.
Hey Robert so wonderful hearing from you. Hope all is going great and yes too much negativity gets in the way and creates an unnecessary burden within and for ourselves.
Thank you I am honoured to hear from you and have your comment from an awesome member and long time friend here in WA
Wishing you nothing but the best
Andre
I just LOVE it!!!!!The many angles of Wealthy Affiliate!!!!
This is where WA becomes really therapeutic to members!!!
WE can express our insights, that becomes therapeutic to others!
We give encouragement, and it motivates others!
We seek for support, and help comes !
And at some point we offend and get offended, thus brings out this thought-provoking post, "Forgive Yourself" !!! ~~ for the thoughts, and feelings you created within you!
This is profound Andre!!!!
Cheers,
Maria
Maria, you are so welcome and wonderful to read your words.
yes we forgive ourself first and foremost once done we then enjoy the food you are going to provide me getting hungry with all this forgiveness LOL
have an awesome day and week ahead
Blessing dear one
Andre
Hahaha 🤣!!!!!
I have just gone over discussing FOOD with Jeff Brown!!!!!!
I believe this is the season of FOOD discussion! It’s the Holidays after all!😋😋
We missed you at Eric’s class last week!!! We were all so thirsty! No one brought 🍺 🍺 🍺 for the class!!!
Every one was choking on my food!!!! 😂
Enjoy your day and week as well!!!
Stay safe and be well!!!
Keep your self out of trouble!!!
Cheers,
Maria
Yes sorry I missed his class had other things to do at the time.
But not sure why they would choke on your food as they would be salivating so much that the food would have gone down well.
I will make an attempt to be on the next one Maria and always keep out of trouble well try to anyway LOL
Happy cooking and yes will bring the drinks next time and an extra one just for you.
here is a head start but don't overdo it you still need to cook.
🍺🍸
Andre
Well, if you're bringing me a special drink, get me a Martini ! I prefer that over beer!!!
And 'STAYING OUT OF TROUBLE' ~~~ I definitely do!!!!!
They were choking from my food as they were gobbling up the food so fast!!!! Thus they need Andre's drinks, to push the food down!!!
Love my special drinks!!! I shall sip and savor my drinks while I cook! This makes my dishes savory !!!!
🧆🥗🥙
Maria
I am sure they loved the food and just so you know I have already sent some drinks ahead of time especially for you one while you cook and some more for later on to enjoy Eric's class and while eating food.
Andre
Yes! Got the special drinks that you sent!!!
Looking forward for some more drinks that you will be sending while we have Eric's class, while having my foods.
Then we shall call Eric's class "Webinar with delights" !!!!
Then we shall be learning more !!!!!!! 😁
Cool !😎
Maria 😊
Most definitely Maria will send some more as I know the drinks will wash done the added food.
Catch you then in the meantime have one on me 🍸
Andre
I am sure you will Andre !!!
Wow! I am getting so spoiled with the flow of Andre's special drinks!!!!
Now, I think I am getting woozy from the drinks 🥹🥹
I should slow down......😁 I still have to cook!
Thank you Marie if I am in trouble it's because of the food made me go crazy or perhaps the drinks LOL
Enjoy your day 😎😁😀🤣
Andre
It should be BOTH!!!!!
I won't just take the blame!
You provided the drinks!!!
My food is legally within the confines of the law of the United States of America!
Your drinks ~ I am not sure !!!
🥸😎🤣😁
Maria
ha yea blame it on the drinks besides mine are universal and if one accepts the drinks that is their issue LOL
Enjoy the rest of your day Maria. 🤣😘😎
A great way to diffuse any situation, tell someone 'that's your issue!'
We take on way more than we need to, and when rhings start to unravel, our ego kicks in, and the blame finger gets pointed.
And yes....Forgive Yourself.
I know, its sounds funny, why would we forgive ourselves, right?
Forgive yourself because its not your fault.
Its not your fault that the actions you took did not change other people, places or things when you needed them to, wanted them to, or wished them to.
You did the best you could with the information you had at that time!
Great post, Andre!
Rudy
Thank you Rudy and so true with what you said.
Why would we forgive ourselves?
Especially when we feel we didn't start the issue but we did as we brought on those emotions, thoughts, and feelings within ourselves that will only hurt us in the long run.
The more we give the more hurt and anger we feel for ourselves.
Enjoy the rest of your week
Andre
-- Thanks, Andre.
Its so true, with all of the effort we give to change the direction of the inevitable, only to fail, we heap tons of guilt onto ourselves because we didn't get what we wanted.
Forgive yourself and live more freely....
Rudy
Hi Andre
Glad I took up the Black Friday offer to come back in (been away for a couple of years) to find your inspiring and thought provoking post. We all need a reality check to rid ourselves of self imposed baggage, and a reminder that it is in fact self imposed. I am feeling much lighter since having read this.
Thank you Katharina glad you took the offer too. Thank you for your words as well and happy your feel lighter as a result. I know personally for you this will help along the way.
Do have a great week ahead and always know you are important
Andre
You are very welcome Katharina and know that the more you put in the better it gets. Continue to believe in yourself and always enjoy what you do.
Andre :)
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Hi Andre, You have made a lot of sense in this post. I don't know why you wrote this post, but I feel that it was meant for me to learn a valuable lesson in my life.
I have been hurt so many times by others because they take my kindness for weakness. And the people we thought were good friends, they weren't and yes I was angry by it.
I have a lot of hurt, pain, anger pend up and it is tearing me apart in so many ways. I was like this before I became a Christian. When I became a Christian I changed my ways, and now I am becoming the person I was and I don't like it one bit.
I am trying to calm down with my anger but I haven't got very far. But that is why I said that I felt like you were directly talking to me through this post. This has really touched a nerve. I have to change to the way I was but even better and stronger.
Thank you Andre I appreciate you and this post. This is making me think about many things that need correction in my life.
Mary
You are very welcome Mary yes being brainwashed by some people you thought were friends takes its toll over a while.
This is the time to let go of the anger as I said it is their issue, not yours the more resentment you feel about the way you think about them the more it will affect you, and not in a positive way.
It will take time for many things and I am not saying it will be easy so whenever you feel angry, or frustrated, because of others, release it and let go.
Better to have one friend than many who are fake and only what more for themselves.
Also, when you notice negative thinking that leads to anger and so on, stop and take a long, slow, deep breath and say to yourself, " I am releasing these thoughts as they have no benefit for me and my life.
Do this each time it happens to let go and breathe out all that negative thinking and feelings and feel that release.
You know you have a true and loving group of family and friends here that is what counts.
Take care and our thoughts are with you.
Andre
Hi Andre, You are absolutely right, you have given me some great advice and I am going to listen because I have enough on my plate as it is.
My health is more important than anything else and I am not going to let it dictate to me anymore and you are right it is their lost not mine.
If they can't be honest and transparent then you are absolutely right it is their lost not mine. But what bothers me the most is they didn't even think they did anything wrong that is what gets me though.
I will do my best and leave all the anger behind for the New Year. We need a fresh beginning for the New Year. And I hope and pray that next year will be better than this year was.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year Andre
Mary
Glad to hear Mary and yes it can be hard to fathom when one feels they did nothing wrong which is right regarding the situation but it is the internal thoughts one brings upon themselves that creates the problems of various emotions one carries themselves not the other person.
Enjoy the rest of your week and keep believing in yourself
Andre
Hi Andre, Thank you for such kind words I appreciate this so much.
The people that have dealings with is that I am the one wrong and they are right when it is actually the other way around. I am the one that is right and they are wrong but they never can admit that they are wrong because they
It is okay because I have way more important things to do then to worry about these people who have lied to me. I am moving on with what is important and that is my husband, myself and our two service dogs.
Mary
Thank you Mary glad to see you have all in the right order yes don't worry about them as I said that is there issue to deal with. Just stay on your own positive path
Wishing you and your husband and the dogs a very Merry Christmas and enjoy your day together.
Andre
Hi Andre, I am so sorry for not responding before this. A lot has been going on from Christmas day until now. We had to change rooms because the sprinkler system pipe burst. It flooded the lobby and I room got soak and we had to throw some things away but it was mostly papers so I am not worried about that.
Then we have been to the doctors every day up to now and I haven't been able to do any training with WA or with CAP so now I have to play catch up with everything I am so far behind, I am going to do my best to catch up. Or at least try to anyway.
Mary
Thant's Ok Mary sorry to hear about the problems there. I wish you well and just go at your own pace don't rush take care of yourself too.
Andre