CHOOSE an ATTITUDE
Stuff happens – all the time, if not to me, then it’s to you, or you and you. Sometimes it’s great stuff, other times not so great. What we are never taught (well, not in my day anyway), is that the way we respond to ‘stuff’ is a matter of choice. What? You didn’t know that?
Seriously, yes, the way we respond to the events in our lives, especially those of the ‘not-so-good’ variety, is a matter of choice. However, we are so caught up in our habitual modes of thinking, translating, ascribing meaning, and then responding - all of which happens in a Nano-second - that we do not even realize that there is a choice. We have been programmed from birth by our parents, teachers, peers, culture, race, religion, social status - together with a goodly dollop of our own programming, according to how this input was received, interpreted and stored. Our responses, which are often immediate and automatic, have been formulated according to our beliefs and attitudes which are fed by our programs.
For example, we can be offended if someone judges us, but were we to realize that their judgement defines them more than it does us, that it is their problem, not ours, we can happily choose to be not offended at all.
The anger or disappointment we may have with someone, may stem from an expectation we have about how they should behave. Were you to realize that expecting others to behave in a way that suits you is unreasonable, you might choose to respond in another way.
Unless a catastrophe happens, happiness is also a matter of choice activated by our focusing on the positives in our lives instead of constantly complaining about the negatives. Focusing on the positives is a signal to the Universe to deliver more of the same. On the other hand, focusing on negatives will also produce more of the same – so, whatever you want delivered into your life is definitely a matter of your choice. So, what’ll it be?
A last cheering, positive, thought for next time when you are feeling unhappy ..... Just remember, that you’re the sperm that won the race!