Remaining Positive in Communication
Hey WA Friends,
One of the more valuable buttons available on WA is the follow button. I have found in receiving notification of blogs written and following up, interesting insights of others' thoughts and process for achievement.
In this, a question came to mind about long term positive growth:
Are you likely to achieve more, motivated by criticism or encouragement?
Recently, I've experienced a negative response from a friend's perspective, to an event we collaborated on, in building our business model... his criticism, though skewed with some personal sentiment, inspired my reaction to figure out just how I saw the whole picture differently.
It was:
A motivating moment for me! And called into question the entire concept of the project,which led me to make some serious revision to the framework of what I'd envisioned...kindly, I thanked him for his perspective, and we moved on.
Response Two, would have been to walk away, and from any such collaboration in the future, as I do not enjoy negative behavior and find it mostly detrimental for progress.
However, in my case, it did illicit a correct response, as I appropriately both examined the issue and made revisions that satisfied his argument. So Win-Win or No?
Truth:
We cannot change another's response, and It is best to prepare your reactions to any such negative occurrence by #1) examining how you behave in such a climate #2) Developing the skill of keeping in perspective unproductive criticisms and rants, by recognizing the general communication skill of their author #3) Willingly dismiss your hurt or frustration from the situation...these my friend, you can control.
Encouragement, on the other hand,we know can motivate us to accomplish where there might seem little chance of success, and by it we conquer the demons within that might otherwise hold us to a meager outlook/existence.
I am a great believer in this virtue of our community and accept encouragement in all ways, from helpful comment to unwarranted praise. I am just happy you follow up.
Recent Comments
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Good Post David, it seems a little like:-
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Well done -Age-
Age,
I just reviewed my posts and found your comment. Thank you for this, a super meditation for dealing with many challenges in life
We could not hope to overcome difficulties without perspective patience, and persistence. I have found it necessary in business, dealing with others, or my own to personal understanding.
I've wondered about the two of you and will place a visit soon to your posts..thank you for stopping by
Kind regards David
Sometimes we have to bury our ego and accept constructive criticism rather than see it as negative. Looking forward to more of your blogs.Best wishes.
Great blog David, thanks for sharing, well done and to be continued.
To your success,
Desmond
Very insightful--I too have noticed many of the comments in the various message streams I enter when I hit the follow button!!
Jeff
Great insight. No victims only volunteers right!
Like the WA'er who openly said to me "it's idiots like you..." ;)
Idiot is a silly or foolish person. I am silly sometimes but at that moment I don't think I had acted either. Hmm, I want to read their posts someday! Have a great one!! :)
For me such carelessness in the way we treat others is a sign of foolishness...and indicates why the world can be in such a troubled state.
Generosity, kindness and forgiveness these are the hallmarks of a healthy state of mind. May you be blessed in abundance of these...and realizing them in others.
Good of you to comment, honestly. much respect, David
This is fantastic, David!!!. I wish I could have included this in my recent post on my site (on anger):)
I loved to be constructively criticized. It brings out the best in me and hence, allows my best to be presented.
Excellent perspective and life-lesson!
David
Yep...I truly think that. Where life's more difficult lessons lead us is up to our perspective and willingness to feel uncomfortable at times.
The truth is that we "can" learn from everything!
And thank you for your comment, today
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Thank you for sharing this great post David.
In life, I have learnt that sometimes it is important to agree to disagree in an amicable manner.
Accepting constructive criticisms or be willing to see another take on someone else's perspective is important for the sake of peace and for maintaining harmonious relationships.
You may be adamant that your way is the only way but to someone else, they may be thinking differently.
I think learning to be receptive to other's people's views and opinions can help avoid unnecessary tensions and disagreements.
If you are willing to hear out the argument of your colleague, friend or a family member, there will be more opportunities to convince the other party that your way is the best option especially if you feel strongly about it.
Once the nerves have calmed down, you will find that it's often very easy to reach a compromise from either side.
Best wishes
Rabia
Well Spoken, Rabia.
I gather that you know where I am in my understanding of nature of man and I am thankful in your adding strength by your insight.
In my experiences I have found that remaining calm in leading our response to these differences is like a soothing lotion to the nerves and outcome of any discussion
Thanks so much for visiting...truly makes my day!
David R.