Remaining Positive in Communication

Last Update: January 31, 2018

Hey WA Friends,

One of the more valuable buttons available on WA is the follow button. I have found in receiving notification of blogs written and following up, interesting insights of others' thoughts and process for achievement.

In this, a question came to mind about long term positive growth:

Are you likely to achieve more, motivated by criticism or encouragement?

Recently, I've experienced a negative response from a friend's perspective, to an event we collaborated on, in building our business model... his criticism, though skewed with some personal sentiment, inspired my reaction to figure out just how I saw the whole picture differently.

It was:

A motivating moment for me! And called into question the entire concept of the project,which led me to make some serious revision to the framework of what I'd envisioned...kindly, I thanked him for his perspective, and we moved on.

Response Two, would have been to walk away, and from any such collaboration in the future, as I do not enjoy negative behavior and find it mostly detrimental for progress.

However, in my case, it did illicit a correct response, as I appropriately both examined the issue and made revisions that satisfied his argument. So Win-Win or No?


Truth:

We cannot change another's response, and It is best to prepare your reactions to any such negative occurrence by #1) examining how you behave in such a climate #2) Developing the skill of keeping in perspective unproductive criticisms and rants, by recognizing the general communication skill of their author #3) Willingly dismiss your hurt or frustration from the situation...these my friend, you can control.



Encouragement, on the other hand,we know can motivate us to accomplish where there might seem little chance of success, and by it we conquer the demons within that might otherwise hold us to a meager outlook/existence.

I am a great believer in this virtue of our community and accept encouragement in all ways, from helpful comment to unwarranted praise. I am just happy you follow up.


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despatis Premium
Great blog David, thanks for sharing, well done and to be continued.

To your success,
Desmond
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JeffreyBrown Premium
Very insightful--I too have noticed many of the comments in the various message streams I enter when I hit the follow button!!

Jeff
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Frenchfries5 Premium
Great insight. No victims only volunteers right!
Like the WA'er who openly said to me "it's idiots like you..." ;)
Idiot is a silly or foolish person. I am silly sometimes but at that moment I don't think I had acted either. Hmm, I want to read their posts someday! Have a great one!! :)
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Trujunco Premium
For me such carelessness in the way we treat others is a sign of foolishness...and indicates why the world can be in such a troubled state.
Generosity, kindness and forgiveness these are the hallmarks of a healthy state of mind. May you be blessed in abundance of these...and realizing them in others.
Good of you to comment, honestly. much respect, David
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Frenchfries5 Premium
:) the world is a bewildering place
Michelle
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DEversley Premium
This is fantastic, David!!!. I wish I could have included this in my recent post on my site (on anger):)

I loved to be constructively criticized. It brings out the best in me and hence, allows my best to be presented.

Excellent perspective and life-lesson!

David
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Trujunco Premium
Thank you<David, I appreciate that you commented today as it is always great come by your posts and learn something new. I'll be over soon to see whats new on "anger". Thank you.
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DEversley Premium
Thanks! the anger post is on my website though.
David
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benandnili Premium
Good stuff! The truth is that we cam learn from everything - thanks for the perspective!
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Trujunco Premium
Yep...I truly think that. Where life's more difficult lessons lead us is up to our perspective and willingness to feel uncomfortable at times.
The truth is that we "can" learn from everything!
And thank you for your comment, today
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