You Are Built For Better

Last Update: November 19, 2017

I joined WA during the last week of September and went Premium within a few days. It was apparent very early on that it was a good move, and I'm encouraged by the community support. In fact, there are a number of people here I've come to consider family, and for that I am blessed. I don't expect to make money immediately, and I will stay the course and persevere. I never quit, it's not in my DNA.

During the course of my every day, both here at WA and in my family and friends, I often see people who are just tired, exhausted even, and can wonder what in the world they're doing, or where they're going. If you are reading this right now, I want to share this with you. Do not confuse your present place in life with your true potential. You are built for better.

When I was young I was hit by a dump truck while riding my bike and was told that I would never walk right again. But I was either too stupid or stubborn (or both) to listen to that. As I entered my teen years, I excelled in track and field and qualified for national championships 8 years in a row. I never won, but I never quit. I won't bore you with all my achievements, but I did manage to long jump 24' 8". Not bad for a guy who wasn't supposed to walk right. :-)

As I entered into adulthood, like many of us, I experienced successes and failures. When I was 30 I blew out my lower back and needed major surgery. I again shrugged off the pessimistic prognosis of my surgeon and within a couple of years was back to running and coaching soccer and surfing. But to be honest, I was a pretty lousy surfer! haha

Years later, just before my 25th wedding anniversary, my (then) wife and I broke up. Dang, that one devastated me, to put it mildly. I sank into depression, and in that case, that is one time where I almost gave up. I questioned God as to why He allowed me to go through that time of darkness. But I clung to the belief that I was built for better, and that He would sustain me.

I learned the magnitude of forgiveness, of accepting that sometimes life isn't fair, and that I am not promised anything in this life. My ex and I became friends again, and remain to this day. I still pray for her, and our daughters (24 & 15) are blessed immeasurably due to my strength through humility. Strength through humility friends, that's right. I learned that His power is made perfect in my weakness.

So as I moved into the next chapter of my life, I decided to sell my insurance business. That was a fresh breath of air. I was still living in Virginia Beach and started working for a company that had three offices. I managed their Virginia Beach office and conducted outside sales. I was growing that division's business by 35% when my mother here in SC became ill.

It was her 3rd bout with cancer, and we knew that she probably wasn't going to make it through this one. I was flying back and forth from Virginia Beach to Myrtle Beach to visit her as often as possible. I was amazed at her strength and her sense of humor during her struggle. She encouraged me, as she always had, to never quit and to keep chasing the prize. She reminded me that I was built for better.

The last time I saw Momma alive was Easter Sunday in 2015. Before I left, I told her, "Keep cheering me on Momma, I got more races to run." And so I know she still cheers me on from the grandstand of saints. Two weeks after I last saw her I was in a near fatal car accident.

I was sitting in the left had turn lane at a red light and a young man (who was texting) rear ended me doing 65 mph. The force lifted my car into the air, spun me airborne 180 degrees over top of the median strip into the oncoming highway, and I was rear ended by someone doing 65 mph going the other way. The trunk was pushed into the back seat, the back seat into the front seat, my driver's seat was snapped like a pretzel, and I was nearly strangled by the seatbelt.

As I managed to crawl out of the car, I looked back and knew that God had spared me. I knew that I was built for better and that He had great things planned for me. There is no earthly reason I survived that crash. Ten days later Momma died and I came to her funeral. Upon my return to Virginia Beach, my employer gave me a lot of grief about missing time from work.

I reminded them that watching Momma struggle had changed my perspective in life, and that the accident had further confirmed that. And I quit. Yep, that time I quit. Want to know why? It's because I'm built for better. After I finished physical therapy, God (and my daughters) made it clear that I needed to come to South Carolina to care for my dad.

So I got here, and I was like, "Ok God, now what?" But I also learned to listen, to be still, to not rush so much, and to enjoy the fragrance and aroma of life. I learned to not let a moment pass without having a grateful heart. It was clear that being here was good for my dad. It blessed him.

I hadn't been dating, and wasn't interested, but I eventually struck up a friendship with a lady across the hall. And I won't bore you with all of those details either, but it was obvious that God had placed her in my life to be my bride. My darling Rosina and I will be married 6 months on December 11th, and I am blessed. Sometimes the sweetest things in life happen when we least expect them. :-)

I've also learned that something eternal is at work in our every day. And we are all built for better. Sometimes it doesn't happen as we expect, or when we'd like, but there are blessings for each of us. Recently I was reading in the Book of Acts (17:26), and one translation (from Greek to Hebrew) said, "He has fixed the limits of my territories and the periods when I will flourish."

That gives me rest, and excitement for the future. My future is His, so why should I waste a moment of this beautiful life in worry? The answer is that I should not. And neither should you my friends. Never quit, and know that you are built for better. Peace and blessings to all of you. :-)


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akollor123 Premium
Terrific... Thank you for simply sharing this great story. Definitely encouraging and well stated.
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thank you my friend, glad you enjoyed it. :-)
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Shayne329 Premium
Love this, Bob. Thanks. The whole read was amazing and strengthening. When I read Acts 17:26, it really shouted out to me. One thing I always tell people is that God's vision for you is greater than your own. Every time I read, you were built for better, it made me think of that. Blessings to you, Brother. ~Shane
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SurfsideBob Premium
Amen brother, and thank you Shane, you are an encouragement as well my friend! That translation is from the Jewish New Testament, translated from Greek to Hebrew by a Messianic Jew. Always love digging deeper into words, their intended meaning, and how we walk them out. Peace bro! :-)
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Shayne329 Premium
I'm the same way.
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brichnow21 Premium
Oh, Bobby!
Thank you for sharing glorious story of victory!!
You, 2 just look like you fit, together, "peas n carrots" !
So, it appears, we've been attending the same school, just different, classrooms!
Just beautiful
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brichnow21 Premium
Dropped my phone, and it sent, before, I was, finished...
One, question, Bob...When you sat down to write this heart felt, story...Was this where, you really expected it to go?...or as you wrote, did HE, take over?
I think I know the answer...as it just flowed from your heasrt!
Marriages, for me, never a success, as I was unable to wait, and settled, invariably, for someone that just brought, me down! Young and dumb!!...know-it-all!!!
Have a lovely, first, Thanksgiving
With your God- given, beautiful wife, Wife!
See you for centennial birthdays, as your new journey, is JUST, Beginning!!
God Bless, You!
Thank you, for sharing your joy!
Barb
We have "finite" ...God's mind is "infinite" !
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thank you so much Barb, I really appreciate your kind words. I had an idea, but I do submit to God's direction in all things. He has not only saved me from things, He has saved me FOR things. A debt I can never repay, but one I hope to honor. Peace my friend. :-)
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SurfsideBob Premium
You know, only my Momma and my Rosina have ever called me Bobby. :-) Thank you my friend, God bless!
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JLennon Premium
Great story and testimony. I'd wish you success but you already have it. Keep running the race. Blessings.
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thanks Joe! :-)
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verazhelvis Premium
Such a powerful story, Bob.You did come through a lot of things which built you up.
Amazing family, amazing character, deeply rooted in Jesus. You are certainly built for better(we all are, we need to accept it and live it- thanks for this beautiful affirmation, BTW)
And this "better" is already here for you , I believe.
You certainly can write powerfully and ignite and inspire people . Isn't it a noble mission?Whatever direction your site is, or will be, you will still be doing this.You can write, that's for sure. Wish you the best of luck.:)
Vera
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thank you Vera, you are very kind. I believe most of us have been through a lot. Bottling it up only stifles the gift of becoming who we are created to be. When we're willing to become open and "out there" (maybe that's a musician thing lol), then we can fully blossom. Peace my friend! :-)
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verazhelvis Premium
So very true, Bob. I can well understand musician's things having the mind full of lyrics.Once again I am thrilled at how many interesting people are here at WA!
Have a great day!:)
(See- a piece of verse..lol..my poetry self is well balanced by self irony and ability to laugh at different things..:)
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brichnow21 Premium
Singing, right along with you guys!!
B
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bobrseno Premium
Our value is based on who He is not on our circumstances or situations.
Thank you for your inspiring story.
And remember, you never knew what someone else is going through. So, be kind!
~Bob
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thanks, and Amen brother! Peace Bob. :-)
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VanceHunter Premium
I am built for better .. that's a great affirmation, and thank you for your inspiring story!
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SurfsideBob Premium
My pleasure Vance, thank you my friend! :-)
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TaniaHersel Premium
Well done for being positive and knowing that life is great.
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SurfsideBob Premium
Life is awesome Tania, even when it's travelled over bumpy roads! :-)
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Kickbacked Premium
Nice testemonial post!
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thanks Tim, hope you have a great day! :-)
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Kickbacked Premium
Thanks, Bob! Have a nice Thanksgiving!

Tim
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Memorylaneuk Premium
What a lovely piece. Full of sad things that you somehow turned into blessings. I wish you every success on your trip to something better.
With Grace and Gratitude
Karen
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SurfsideBob Premium
Blessings abound every day, it's our attitude and perspective that shape them into negative or positive.
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Spark3r Premium
You are truly an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your wonderful story!
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thank you my friend. There is inspiration in each of us, that's the way we were built. For better, not settling for where we may be right now. :-)
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melpeace36 Premium
Thank you for sharing your story and the big hurdles you overcame. God is good and faith will always pull you through. I am glad you found love again.
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thank you Mel. God is good even when I deserve nothing. And for that, I owe Him everything. Hope you have a great day! :-)
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MKearns Premium
Yes Bob. Always look at it from a view of your advanced self!
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SurfsideBob Premium
That's right Mike. If I didn't, it would be easy to have a defeatist attitude. Have a great day brother! :-)
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Cindyda1 Premium
Awesome!

I loved this read and inspiration! Thank you for sharing it!
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SurfsideBob Premium
My pleasure Cindy, may you be blessed today and always. Peace my friend. :-)
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subcpo14 Premium
The cup is always half full. Jay
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SurfsideBob Premium
Ain't that the truth brother???!!! Glad to have you back Jay, missed you while you were away. Have a great day brother, peace. :-)
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subcpo14 Premium
Likewise. Great to be back and thanks again for the share. Life is too short to be sour. Jay
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ShuiHyen Premium
Hey,

I am amazed with your story. We are built for better that God had created us.

Kind regards and best wishes:)
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SurfsideBob Premium
Thanks my friend! :-)
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