I Quit....
First I am going to check out elance and odesk and see if there are jobs that I can do because I really don't want to just get any old job and I don't want it to interfere with the dance lessons I have already paid well in advance for.
I have been on the verge of tears the last few hours because this is always an issue with us. I don't think any job will actually make him happy that is why I was so determined to make a go of this type of work. He seems to want me to keep the house clean, keep the yard up, handle all of the household responsibilities except taking the trash out and walking the dog and make money.
Let us not forget that he wants me to be ready to go anywhere at the spur of the moment and he would really like it if I do not get fat again. Maybe I should create a website just to rant about unreasonable expectations from husbands.
So here is the sad deal I am going to have to look really hard for any job that will fit the hours that I have available and then use my free time to clean, budget and pay bills, work on IM, work on the yard and garden and.....well everything else that needs to be done here.
I think he forgets that we have been through this with my many jobs in the past where I work and do everything I can do but then there is something else that makes him unhappy like the house not being clean enough or his favorite pair of work pants can't be washed 3 times a week.
Some days I feel like I can't win. My hubby and I get along great these days as long as we don't talk about my lack of a real job. Any ideas for real jobs I can do at home that pay better than paid to click and mlm sites would be appreciated.
So I am off to look for some gigs online that pay more than a dollar an hour and some part time jobs that fit into the hours that won't make my dance investment a huge waste of money.
Sorry this is a poorly written post as I am angry and all I want to do is break something right now or maybe have a good long cry. One day life is great and everything looks good then the next it is hard to focus on the good or anything for that matter because I am so upset.
Here is the kicker on all of this we have plenty of cash saved for emergencies and we don't ever touch it for any reason that is not urgent. When I say urgent I mean that we have a tree fall on our house or we have a huge car repair bill. I don't ever touch it for these online ventures either. I never ever dig into it and most of the time I ad to it a little each month. So we are not ever broke even if he gets laid off he just wants me to make money and as soon as possible. He only wants me to spend money that I make. He doesn't mind paying all the household bills and for food but he wants me to make all of my spending money.
It really shouldn't be so hard to make a few hundred dollars a month but I am failing at it and I am spending too much to try to make it work. Every dime I have made I have put back into it. I suppose I should stop that so I can at least prove to my hubby I am making progress.
Well there I go again ranting and raving sorry I just needed to get it our somewhere.
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I know how hard all of what you've talked about is. I can only think that setting YOUR limits and boundaries and doing what YOU feel you have to do to feel happy and successful and expecting your husband to do his part in giving you the respect you deserve, just as you do him, would be the "ideal". As we all know, it's not that easy - it is good for you to get your feelings out there to those who understand (like here at WA) - nobody will mind and it looks like you've already gotten some incredible advice below from plenty of people. I really wish the best for you.
Thanks I came here because I really needed to vent and no one here knows me personally. I did go to pole class to blow off some steam and I feel a bit better.
Hang in there! It seems this happens quite a bit in this business. All I can add is support and a shoulder to lean on, feel free to sound off anytime, it really does help.
I took a look at several of your websites and you are doing better than most when they start. Don't give up too soon...I feel that your success is right around the corner. Most successful affiliate marketers start and stop projects, study, redesign, study, move in a new direction...several times before they found success in only one niche in affiliate marketing. You have cut down the learning curve by joining WA. They cut through all the BS.
I would find one or two "successful" members you trust here in WA that can be a sounding board for you. If you don't get support from your husband...find it in a fellow member that has been successful in affiliate marketing. Use the broader WA membership to bounce ideas off of that you create.
I am sure your husband's comment about going out and getting a real job is just the stress he is coping with right now. I can remember when I started affiliate marketing...family members and friends would ask, "How are you doing with that internet thing?" "Are you making any money?" They would make comments all the time like, "Maybe you should try something else."
Affiliate marketing is a full-time job that requires commitment. Don't give up before your hard work produces results! I now own a software company and the same family members and friends are asking me if I am hiring.
Affiliate marketing is still a big part of my software. It just took time for me to find my personal niche: software. I can't tell you how long I have worked on a project...that finally started producing results.
Career that constantly changes:
When I started affiliate marketing link wheels were the big thing...now they have companies (due to the panda and penguin updates) that offer to take your links away so you don't get penalized...haha. This career is constantly changing.
In conclusion:
All I have learned at WA about affiliate/internet marketing, I now apply to marketing my software on the internet.
You have talent...don't quit.
Paul
I wanted to add one technique that worked well for me. If I use your pole dancing website as an example. Find a star that is trending on the social networks that is currently using pole dancing for fitness, write a few articles (with links to your website) about her using pole dancing for fitness...social back-link to those articles and watch the traffic grow for that website.
Hello,
I also wanted to tell you about banner plugins for WordPress. I see that you stack your affiliate banner ads at the beginning of a post. It would be much more effective to use a banner plugin to control where you put your banners...at the beginning of a post, in the middle of a post or at the end of a post. If you can cut and paste you can simply place your banner into the correct area on the post. I prefer to use a banner plugin for time considerations.
That way you can discuss a particular affiliate and have the banner directly below the text. This will increase your click through rate. If they have to scroll back-up and then read each banner...your chances of a possible click through are much less.
1) Here is a link that talks about some of the available plugins: http://www.webdesignbooth.com/11-wordpress-plugins-to-manage-your-ads-banners/
I would also suggest you look for a plugin that lets you create text links to affiliates. This will add to your income. They can click on a link and be taken to the affiliate website. There are paid versions of this type of plugin and free ones. I would always try and find a free one when I was starting my affiliate career.
Here is an example: I write an article about Home Based Businesses my long tail keyword is Making Money At Home. I use this text link plugin to link to a Click Bank product. I try and include this keyword in most of the articles that I write for my blog. It could be just a signature you put at the end of every article.
2) Here is a link: http://wordpress.org/extend/plugins/tags/text-links
Lastly, look for a small script or WordPress plugin that allows you to put a small review template within the post. That way you can place three or more affiliate products in the post...again to monetize your blog. You can also do this by creating a simple table in the Wordpress editor.
3) Here is a link that talks about review plugins: http://wplift.com/20-free-premium-wordpress-review-rating-plugins
4) I also used adsense in a lot of my blogs that were general in nature. I don't like to use it in niches...their ads compete with your links for affiliate marketing...and of course you make a lot more with your links.
You always want to seek a balance and find just the right amount of these monetization techniques. Here is an example of a blog that does this effectively:
This is a little overdone for my tastes but I bet he is making money! http://www.incomediary.com/monetize-your-blog
Hope this helps,
Paul
Those husbands...geesh!
I think that perhaps you should show your skills to your husband and tell them how valuable they are. He could perhaps even work with you are help you with certain aspects of the process, make it a joint thing.
If you want to get some results rolling in sooner than later, consider local....and offering your services to local clients. You can really get some good residual payments for helping businesses get ranked and helping them retain these rankings. Most business have no idea what they are doing and would be more than happy to throw you a couple $100 per month for your services (you could even consider an exchange with certain businesses).
Search "local marketing" or "local domains" here at WA and this will get you rolling in this direction. Once you understand the fundamentals, you are truly an asset to anyone out there (including yourself).
Thanks, I will look into that first thing tomorrow. I have tried to tell my hubby what I am working on and he is not interested and he will probably kill me if he finds out I pay for a membership here. He doesn't care that I only paid my first month with money from the bank I have used the other paid sites I use to pay for my second month.
I already have a domain name I can use for the local marketing I came up with it because I was having a hard time finding listings online for local establishments but I knew they were around. I wrote a few blog posts and quit to focus on other things guess I will learn about local marketing and see if it will work. Thanks
Yeah, give it whirl and let us know if you need a hand along the way. I would read up on some of the training...don't let me distract you either if you are working on something else. I am just saying that this a quick path to "exercise" what you know and get work from local clients (get local jobs).
Just a quick note my husband is not evil and I don't plan on kicking him to the curb I just don't understand what he wants and honestly he can't tell me when I flat out ask him and I find this very frustrating. I don't want to be that woman who is yelling at her husband but I would also like to nail down what he really wants and if I produce that I don't want to hear crap about it not being good enough. He does not expect me to have a full time job but if I work part time and still work on IM it will take up a great deal of time. Oh well life goes on and I will figure something out but thanks everyone for listening to me!
Didn't mean to imply that your husband is a bad guy, just probably the same issues that have been going on since the beginning of time between the two sexes. Hopefully you will feel better just "airing it out" here.
I know how you feel! I have the same issue with my husband. It's not that he doesn't support my IM efforts, he just simply doesn't believe it's works. He doesn't think it's possible to make any real money online. On too of that, I work full time, clean the house, do the laundry, cook our meals, pay the majority of our bills, and take care of our two year old more often than not. But, I want a better life for my family and I let that be my motivation. Don't give up, we will get there.
Sorry to hear that it is so hard to make anything work when you own husband doesn't support you. I sell a few products and he won't even take a brochure to work and put it on the break room table. It really irritates me that no matter what I try he seems to already have made me a failure by the attitude he expresses. Thanks for the post I will try not to let it bother me so much and just keep moving on.
My pleasure. Just wanted to let you know you're not the only one with this problem. It's hard but, I just do my best to make it work one step at a time. Hang in there!
hehe, you posted right when I did. You already know I think you're pretty. *blushing*. Hope you're doing well Meredith.
Not sure what "blushing" means but, thank you anyway. I was reading your advice about online paid jobs, I Need One! Don't mean to turn Sundcarrie's blog into our conversation...I'll send you a pm
Nothing against your hubby, but I know if I had a girlfriend I'd be the one taking out the trash... Having them do nasty jobs like that just doesn't seem right to me. I'd be there showing my support and love every step of the way with no matter what she decides to do. As for your being fat, you are beautiful no matter what shape you are in (just try to stay healthy). Remember this. I know bigger women who are very healthy.
As for your problem, I can help you quite a bit & I'm sure IveTriedThat can help you a lot with that (Steve). He knows a lot about jobs you can do online to make you some spare cash every month working for somebody else. It's important that you find a good job and not some weirdo trying to take advantage of others. I highly suggest checking out guest blogging, in which you can find more information on Steve's website @ http://www.ivetriedthat.com/2012/05/23/7-websites-that-pay-50-or-more-for-guest-blog-posts/. They pay $50 or even more for highly informative information usually over a new topic or ideal (that you can probably find by exploring other websites across the net). TechLabs at http://www.thetechlabs.com/become-an-author/ is honestly the only one I care to do due to the high payout they give and my interest in technology.
To add to that, I'm also allowing people to work for me and make money from whatever I make on my home site and a sub-domain they're working on towards a specific niche while they make 70% profits. I get 30% unless you refer somebody else to work for me, in which you'll get 15% of the profits of who you referred. I don't mean to purposefully advertise it (hence why my domain is not put here) & I won't have it going for probably 1 full month in due realization of how you need money 'now' than later. I'm going to allow people to put 1 domain link to a website they fully own & operate on there about page (and leave it there even if you decide to quit later by listing you under 'past employees').
If you look hard enough and ask the right people, you can find a great job online. Either that, or you could find a part time job somewhere in your town which is what I suggest doing most. Doing a part time job & this would probably be best for you. One thing I've learned is you don't want to lean on Internet Marketing too much especially early on.
Good luck.
Really sorry that you're not having a good day. Money issues always seem to be very high up on the list of marriage problems, perhaps the # 1 issue with couples. Not to rub it in but, makes me kind of happy that I Am single right now. Of course, that has it's downside too. if, I don't make money then there isn't Any money!
Obviously. I don't know your husband or what his work is but, does he help you around the house at all? Don't see why he expects You to have a full time job and do All the Household Chores. Can't he "pitch" in?
Oops, now I'm getting mad!
See that is what makes me mad! I don't think it will ever be enough if it is not the money anymore it is going to be the state of the house or the hours I have to work cutting into the time he wants to do something. That is why I am not motivated to get a part job. On the plus side I do have an interview next week they called right after I posted this.
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I've tried a few times to write a response to this, but it just isnt coming out easily. I have a similar situation where my missus doesnt believe that this works (my first cheque for some measly amount which was awesome to me, got an indifferent response).
Lets just say I really understand where you are coming from. It's not easy to motivate yourself in the face of negativity or even indifference. Keep at it, I know I will be even though I know I have to look at other alternatives in the "real world" as well.
One thought, previously mentioned, is to try and get them involved, but I know how hard that can be. My missus is very technically minded and up to date with tech, but her eyes glaze over if I start to talk about IM. So I dont.
It takes time to build a business. An old boss of mine started her business on the kitchen table. When I left the company it was worth tens of millions. So whilst right now you may not be earning much, if anything, have faith in yourself that you will.
Thanks!