Dealing With Difficult People

Last Update: February 19, 2013
We all have them. The co worker that always thinks he's right. The neighbor that plays loud annoying music at 3 am and prefers his pet goes in your yard not his own! Relatives often fall into this category. Uncle George and Aunt Martha refuse to come for Christmas dinner unless it is totally Vegan, and always show up an hour late! I have come to the conclusion that there is no escaping them! So, what are you gonna do? I have mapped out three strategies on how to deal with those you would rather not deal with at all!

Fight Fire With Fire- Dish them back the same $#!& that they give you! This solution is often called revenge, and tends to be the most fun:) It may supply immediate gratification, but rarely solves any problems.You tend to come off looking very petty and immature, and nothing really changes. Dang- Scratch that thought!

How about trying to change them or reform their evil ways? You think this idea will win them over?Hmmmmm- I think not! How many people really want to change their ways just because YOU think they need to? Sadly, not very many. Two down, only one to go!

Here is what I have found to be true in my life. Attempt to reason with them rationally, and if that fails, accept this one small fact. It Is Not About You……. it's about them and their unwillingness to realize how their actions have a negative impact on others.

When letting go of the anger, annoyance, or frustration, just fast forward your life. One year from now will you remember the impact this person had on your life today? Probably Not!!

So the moral of this story is do not allow someone else's bad behavior change yours! Be true to yourself, and be the bigger person! You might just find difficult people to be well, a tad bit less difficult:)

If Only Humans Could Take A Lesson From Our Canine Pals.......

Wag More And Bark Less!

Sammi:)
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Salem Premium
Nice post, Sammikay. So true. Don't let them bring you down to their level. Regards
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sammikay Premium
Salem, each one of us is responisble for the choices we make in life. I want mine to be happy, positive and forgiving! Thanks so much for your comments!

Sammi:)
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Kathy1952 Premium
Great post! God commands us to love one another. The reason? We are made in His image and it is an affront to God that we would attack His creation. Loving someone who is difficult is difficult! I'm in that situation now. It is hard to love them! But when you do, God intervenes in miraculous ways No, you can't change them, but God can. So just love as best you can, and leave the rest to God who knows best.
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sammikay Premium
Kathy, God does tell us not to repay evil with more evil! Sometimes it is hard to love difficult people, but it is the right thing do do! Plus you will feel alot better about your actions when the time comes to look yourself in the mirror:) Thanks for reading!!

Many Blessings To You,
Sammi:)
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Hudson Premium
Great post, love the scenarios and agree with your conclusion,
Regards
Hudson.
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sammikay Premium
Hudson! I so appreciate your reading and commenting on my posts!! You are a faithful reader, I am thankful you are here on WA!

Sammi:)
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BryanNaylor Premium
Great post Sammi... We have a member of the family who is just like this... Every year they get the invite for family XMAS and every year, it's a different excuse... In the end, you continue to invite them, knowing full well, they won't attend, smile and move on... As you so correctly point out, I too have come to understand that we can't change others, nor should we even try/// The only things we can control are our behavior and our reaction to their behavior... Good or bad, it's up to us... As frustrating as it may be...

It's like the old analogy about weeding the garden. You can spend hours out there pulling out those noxious pesky weeds. You'll come back a few days later, and there'll be a few more new ones sprouting up. The trick is in never getting caught up in how many weeds you're pulling out, but rather enjoying the time your spending amongst the flowers es you're doing it .

See now you have me getting all philosophical .... :-)

Thanks for the great read this morning...

~ Bryan
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sammikay Premium
Bryan, I am glad I could give you something positive this morning! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my post:) Good luck with your difficult family member.......keep on smiling!

Sammi:)
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Kyle Premium
Throw kindness their way and move on. There are many people out there (in particular in the online world) that behave reckless and frankly, they appear to be horrible people. They look for a response, they aren't interested in reasoning.

The best thing you can do is be kind...there is nothing more painful to someone serving as an enemy than this sort of behaviour on your part.
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sammikay Premium
That is sooo true Kyle! I totally agree, why repay anyone with animosity when kindness could work just as well. The Bible also mentions that one can win more flies with honey rather than vinegar! I will choose honey anyday. Thanks for taking time out of your busy day to read and comment on my post, I appreciate your input!

Sammi:)
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