Quick Addendum - Emotions
Fran Kelso (thank you, Fran!) put up this interesting blog the other day, which I commented on:
https://my.wealthyaffiliate.com/fkelso/blog/what-you-think-y...
She thanked me for the addendum to her remarks and suggested she hoped more people read them... so....
I'm re-posting the comment here -- with some additional comments about emotional memories.
"If we were really in control of our thoughts [and emotions], negative thoughts [or emotions] would not arise unbidden. Basically, most people are not in control of their thoughts [or emotions] 80% of the time, whether they are positive or negative. These can be described as temporary thought[/emotion]-objects flitting across our field of consciousness.
Aware of them, we can choose to act upon them or not, as we please. It makes absolutely no difference if they are positive or negative in this case.
But one has to be strong enough to maintain awareness and not be captured by the undesirable thought [or emotion] and instead be captured by the desirable ones.
Hence, replacing a negative thought pattern with an arbitrary positive one is helpful but it isn't enough. We have to make sure the desirable thought arises with as much strength as the negative one. [Also, because emotions arise in the body, it's impossible to replace the emotion with a positive one without great effort, so it's better to live through and fully experience the emotion, instead of shunting it off with an ego-strategy that often replaces it with another emotion -- for example, shame replaced by anger.]
By the way, who is the 'you' that you say is taking control of your thoughts and doing this replacing? What is that part of us deciding if a thought is positive or negative?
Whatever it is, that must mean there must be a higher agency in place in each of us -- higher than the part that of us thinks!
And that's true.
So the necessary process is more accurately described as being consciously aware enough that whatever thought flits across our minds [or emotions that arise in our bodies], we don't have to be captured by [them].
Only then, through observation, can we begin to diminish this unwanted pattern of thought [and deplete the emotions of past events that no longer exist]. After that (or concurrently) we can put in place a new pattern of thought.
But it has to be a desired pattern, not just a positive one of any kind."
Marc
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Hi Marc, Getting the negativity out of our souls, taking control and giving ourselves the boost of positivity, we all need from time to time. Appreciate your post, thanks. Paul
Interesting viewpoint!
I know what consciousness is and I have spoken of it; the soul is another matter and I haven't spoken of it.
Definitely not speaking of control, but letting go of it.
Some say time is an illusion, some say time is the fire in which we burn.
Some soulful reflections there Marc, if we didn't have that emotional base we would surely float away, the thoughts come to us through the day as if welling up from a spring, finding it better to be the observer, like when the sea tries to merge with the shore, they battle endlessly, even when no one is looking.
The more we observe those deep-seated emotions, they will dissolve over time and let in the flow from the well, the two are separate and come from different places it can be a case of remembering because at the end of the day we have probably created the whole thing.
Not sure who said it but if one controls the breath then one merges with the surrounding environment, a sure way to bring those desired outcomes into the flow.
This:
"The more we observe those deep-seated emotions, they will dissolve over time and let in the flow from the well"
very apt thank you Alex!
Hi Marc
This is such an exceptionally powerful aspect of our lives, and the sad thing is that no schooling system seems to cover it.
Just last week I reacted to something in a way my younger sister described as OTT, it took me 24 hours to figure out why I did that. Since I have, so much good has resulted! We do not even know what we do not know - and how liberated we can become once we do. Sounds like a riddle but I am sure you can understand.
Thank you for the share.
Blessings
Louise
Hi Louise,
these emotions from the past run deep inside us and stick out like hot buttons to be pressed -- and underneath is a volcano!
Or it seems to be....
Until we immerse ourselves into the emotions and let them sweep through us, without struggling to stop them, assess them or judge them.
However, this is a very difficult practice to start. The process of imploding these old emotions becomes easier with time.
The very strongest and suppressed ones can make someone weep for hours...which we've been trained not to do since childhood.
Kudos for you to sit in that emotion and derive its origin!
Through deriving the origin of the original emotion, you were able to liberate the subconscious part of the memory that was underneath that 'hot button!
That's really awesome and yes, I get what you are saying. Thank YOU for sharing :) Marc
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Hi Marc
> "Until we immerse ourselves into the emotions and let them
> sweep through us, without struggling to stop them, assess
> them or judge them."
Yes, experiencing and accepting our emotions is so important, else if not, it would be like trying to stop the waves of the ocean from rolling onto the beach!
Louise Hay has written an awesome little book called "Heal Your Body", which show the emotional connections to our physical body ailments.
I was shopping one day and in the middle of the shop, my right knee suddenly, and out of nowhere, completely locked up, I couldn't move it and was standing as if frozen in time.
Thinking that I will have to call my Hubby, but upon picturing the ambulance coming to fetch me, it seemed far too humiliating to be carried out of the shop on a stretcher, so I thought there must be something else that I can do. Then I remembered Louise's book.
I couldn't remember exactly which emotions the knees represent, but I figured that it must have something to do with moving forward in life, seeing that my knee was locked and that I couldn't move an inch. Pretending to be very interested in something on the shelf in front of me, I started scanning my subconscious, asking for answers, asking where is the resistance or unwillingness to move forward, and I found it!
We were on our way to somebody for the weekend and I wasn't particularly enthusiastic or looking forward to it, and in fact, I would have preferred if I didn't have to go. So there it was!
So I addressed my subconscious (or whatever you want to call that part of me that brought this about) ;-) and my knee, thanking it for bringing this to my attention, for being so kind and loving and for looking out for me, trying to keep me safe and to protect me, by preventing me from moving forward. I assured myself, my subconscious (? that part of me) and my knee that I'll be okay, that I'll take good care of myself and that I'm going to have a much enjoyable time, and that at any time that I want to, I can retract to my own private space with a good book. I once again said how grateful I am for having been made aware of this, at which time I've put the item back on the shelf that I pretended to inspect, and walked away normally, knee unlocked, no problem at all!
WOW - it has taught me such an amazing lesson about our emotions and how even that which we are unaware of at the moment, can have such a dramatic influence on our bodies.
I have also found a Tooth Chart on the internet which outlined each tooth and how different emotions / organs / glands are associated with each tooth. It seems to be spot on too.
Another little trick I learned many years ago to let the emotions flow through and then to direct it, is to use the phrase:
"Even though ____, I choose ____."
Example: "Even though the kids have just knocked over the milk jug and I'm so frustrated with their clumsiness, I choose to remember that this is not the end of the world, that I was a kid too and probably frustrated my dear Mom as well, and that this phase will pass far to quickly. Therefore I choose to clean it up, make a joke about it and proceed, so that all of us can have an enjoyable day."
Saying "even though ___" gives me breathing space, I acknowledge how I feel, the emotions gets time to process and flow through, and then I am able to make the deliberate action of choosing how I want it to play out, what it is that I want to create in my life.
Saying "I choose" feels very liberating to me, and I feel in control of myself and my life. I don't let things just randomly happen to me, I'm not a victim of life or of my emotions, and after I've let it flow through and process, I can choose what I want in my life, and how I want to react to it, and what I want to create going forward.
Also loved the picture you chose - it is so appropriate. ;-) It is SO liberating to lock oneself in the bathroom and give one humongous, but 100% SILENT scream, just like she is doing in that picture! ;-) LOL! Then to take a deeeeep breathe, say "Peace", and walk out with a smile. ;-)
Well, these are some of the ways how I deal with it. How do YOU let it flow through and process emotions, Marc?
Wishing you an awesome day, Marc!
Sharlee (Chocolate IceCream)
Sharlee, wow, that is an amazing narrative! I sure wouldn't like to be knock-kneed without a clue.
I've definitely heard about emotions being locked in the body and have experienced this after a therapeutic form of body massage that encourages the body to unwind and release negative energy.
I only tried it once, but after that used the technique on my own without the therapist helping me out. I definitely unlocked some subconscious memories I wasn't aware of.
Were these memories tied to specific parts of the body the same as others? I don't know.
But I do know that doing 'bodywork' is another way to release these negative energies, which can, according to some, result in disease if left unchecked. Intuitively makes sense, but I'm not sure about the scientific evidence supporting it.
Marc
Hi Marc
Dr Bruce Lipton has done some amazing scientific studies regarding the mind-body connection. You can find him on Google and YouTube. ;-)
Looking forward to learning more from you!
Sharlee (Chocolate IceCream)
Hi Marc
Here's a few more things about the mind-body connection that may be of interest: (all straight links - NOT affiliate links)
https://fastereft.com/blog/finally-imaging-technology-provides-proof-emotions-manifest-body/
https://fastereft.com/blog/tapping-fighting-food-cravings/
https://fastereft.com/blog/the-science-and-history-of-eutaptics-fastereft/
https://fastereft.com/blog/fastereft-work-science-behind-fastereft/
Enjoy!
Sharlee (Chocolate IceCream)