Being Bullied is the Equivalent of Being Praised.

Last Update: March 30, 2020

...when one understands the principles of Equanimity.

Attune your mindsets and get back to work :)

Prajñāpāramitā


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cyberterry Premium
Hi Guys (and Gals) hope you don't mind me joining in ! From what I've found over the years bullying can take many forms. My take on this is, its someone who likes to enforce their will over a "victim" they believe is weaker than themselves. Take away their "dominance", they are nothing more than cowards and will back off faced with the right resistance.
Not sure how we got on to "Bullying" but added my 10 pennies worth
:) :) :)

Light doth shine on ye Bully;
Foul Fellowe what ye say!!
Nay tis not me that should be accuseth
but the wretch not harkening this daye
O Wretch what you sayeth;
tis hard to be near yon Bully, not very funny
best to turn and do a runny.

Come to think of it maybe it's only worth 2 pennies :)
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marchanna Premium
It's great stuff, if the topic of this post was about bullying!

You'll get more pennies on some other blog posts, I think!

cheers, Marc
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CMKetay Premium
That was worth far more than 2 pennies! Thank you for sharing it! Christine
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JeffreyBrown Premium
You bet it is, Marc!

Jeff
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marchanna Premium
It's true that I needn't bet on the truth :) thanks for chiming in.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
You're welcome, my friend--you speak very true words, indeed!
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brichnow21 Premium
Hmm...Interesting debate? I'm afraid of using an inappropriate, perhaps judgemental word.
Never mind... think I'll skip on out of this!
Barb
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JeffreyBrown Premium
Figure of speech meaning I agree with you, my friend!
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marchanna Premium
Remember that bit you mentioned about making comments only when necessary?
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mstewardit Premium
Very True. Bullying is often a form of petty jealousy. The problem is with the bully and not the victim.
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marchanna Premium
Ha! If that's the case I bet someone has been bullying me around here on this post ;)
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mstewardit Premium
Probably
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JamesDuck Premium
Bullying is so wrong on so many different levels.
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marchanna Premium
Your comment is not very relevant as this post is not about value judgments pertaining to the wrongness or rightness of bullying.
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JamesDuck Premium
Good luck to you... sir.
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JamesDuck Premium
I'll try to be more even tempered in the future.
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marchanna Premium
Better instead that you don't miss the point :) The lesson is about equanimity, not bullying.

The ideas of praise and bullying simply yield the proper contrast in a timely manner, since there is much ado about nothing wrt bullying at WA for the moment!
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JamesDuck Premium
Prajñāpāramitā - the Perfection of (Transcendent) Wisdom. And Equanimity - mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation. Thank you Marchanna for my two new words that I just looked up... but I still say bullying is wrong. I'm not the Sidartha after all.
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marchanna Premium
very apt :)
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JamesDuck Premium
Judgement is "wrong on so many levels". Now there's an oxymoron for ya!
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LenkaSophie Premium
I've got a friend who says something similar, she says if you have a hater, you are famous.
I'm ready to have haters on my website(s), it's there problem if they hate, they spoil their life with that. But I don't like bullying in general. It's not a right thing.
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marchanna Premium
Thanks for your comment. Not sure about the relevancy of your friend's remark and most certainly your value judgement about bullying isn't quite on topic.

However, I do like your attitude about welcoming 'haters' on your website just because you might as welcome every visitor to your website.

There is a good narrative about what happened when Zen Master Bankei personally shaved some new monks' hair. One of his priests was repulsed when he noticed all the new monks had leprosy.

It is said that he was "Revolted by the sight of the Zen master shaving the heads of untouchables....and
brought a basin of water for Bankei to wash his hands. But the master refused, remarking, 'Your disgust is filthier than their sores.'"
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LenkaSophie Premium
I think haters and bullying are two different things. To me, bullying is connected with a group of people who attacks and hurts (in real life) one person who is weak. It's common with children.
And I don't see anything good about it.
I don't think the group mocking on someone weak, beating him/her up and hurting his/her feeling is right. Period.
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marchanna Premium
The original post is a lesson about equanimity, not a lesson about the acts of hating, bullying, attacking, hurting or even praising.

Nor is it a lesson about right and wrong. Period.
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LenkaSophie Premium
Well, I still can't see any explanation for "bullying is the equivalent of being praised."
The poor children being bullied at school are definitely not praised.
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marchanna Premium
it's simply an example of a duality used to demonstrate equanimity. You are taking it much too literally. Praise exists, so does bullying. White exists, so does black. Rich exists, so does poor. Bad exists, so does good.

Perhaps read this if you are further interested. cheers Marc
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JeffreyBrown Premium
Very true, Lenka!
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marchanna Premium
Jeff, If I may call you that, I never said 'praise is doled out in equal measure as bullying' which would be extremely silly of me to say, so I'm not sure what Lenka is refering to that you find so significantly true.
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JeffreyBrown Premium
The bullied children is what I was referring to on her post, Marc!
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