Why Do People Criticize?
Have you recently experienced criticisms in your blogging endeavors but didn't know how to manage them? What do you think you can do to overcome critics and their criticisms? How do you want to press on with your business when you know critics will not do but come your way to find fault with things you do with your blog? That's actually what we need to discuss in today's post.
Why did I decide to write a post on critics and criticisms? I noticed that most struggling veteran bloggers are getting frustrated by critics from day to day. This is because their experience is still little and, thus, needed a lot of help from experts to step up quickly. While in the stage of seeking experts to correct and straighten them up, critics too come along the way and try to divert their goals and aspirations into dumping refuse.
A struggling veteran or newbie blogger is likened to a growing baby that hopefully keeps feeding to grow fast from one stage to another in life without being deprived of all the deserved nourishment at the growing stage of life.
As they grow up gradually, they develop in all ramifications and keep developing until certain stages when they can do things on their own without being fed by anyone anymore. This is the case with the newbie and struggling veteran bloggers.
In today's post, I want to address critics, criticisms, and effects on your progress. Having said, critics come around you for no reason other than to destroy your vision and make things turned upside down for you along your blogging journey.
Having revealed, will you allow critics and their criticisms to stop you from making progress on your way towards financial freedom? What's your own determination about critics and their criticisms? What's your resolution?
Who is a Critic?
A critic is someone who moves around and finds fault with other people's work. He's such a frustrated person who wants other people to become frustrated as he is. Critics just want to confuse or make things go wrong with you.
They're so desperate in making other people fall and wouldn't mind making you stumble from your progress. Is it worth paying attention to critics to make you fall? Is it worth listening to critics to make you slumber from your blogging goal? How would you rate the critics, important or futile sets of people? Please, treat critics according to what and who they are lest you get frustrated by their traps.
What are Criticisms?
Criticisms are desperate or wicked acts of the critics demonstrated with the aim of jeopardizing other people's work or business. Critics, in their heartlessness, wouldn't mind insulting other people in the course of doing their own businesses and possibly provoke them towards misbehaving or giving up.
It entails being ready always to manage critics and their criticisms lest you lose the blogging battle. Critics don't feature in blogging alone, but also in all areas of man's endeavors. They're purposely made to find unnecessary fault with what others do, forgetting that they're the worst when it comes to making mistakes or doing things the wrong way.
A normal/sound person who is not a critic or not mentally unhealthy will never stay anywhere and condemn other people's work but will put one in order in case any mistake or error is found in his work. It's a good sense of dealing with others. It's a good sense of humor; a good sense of respect; a good sense of human relations; and all of that.
How Do Critics Impact Your Blogging Goal?
Critics impact your blogging goal through the following ways:
- Critics let go of your blogging inspiration
- Critics let you lose focus on your initial blogging goal
- Critics let you forget your aspiration for blogging
- Critics let you lose confidence in your business
- Critics let you fail in your business.
Critics Let Go of Your Blogging Inspiration
It's unarguable that all bloggers have initial inspiration prior to starting a blog. No one can certainly venture into blogging without getting inspired to start. It's not what anyone can just venture into anyhow. It has to come by inspiration and the same goes to all bloggers out there that works passionately today on their personal blogs.
For the inspiration to continue flowing, a deeply-focused blogger must pretend not to see what the critics are doing but rather focus on the business and plan to become successful.
Critics Let You Lose Focus on Your Initial Blogging Goal
Yes, they come around to find fault with what you're doing in your business as if other people haven't ever found fault in what they do. They are nothing but typical examples of failures who want to forcefully lead so many others into failing.
Why did I refer critics to typical examples of failures? It's simply because no single serious, passionate, focused, reasonable, or mature person can neglect his own work and start looking for what other people are doing for no purpose other than finding fault, condemn, as well destroy goals.
Critics Let You Forget Your Aspiration for Blogging
Every blogger aspired to become something right from the onset and that is part of what pushes a blogger forward in the online journey.
Once critics come around and meet you unprepared, they'll quickly sow one or two seeds of sorrow into your heart and may end up making you lose the battle eventually.
Critics Let You Lose Confidence in Your Business
Generally, every blogger tries to add confidence to blogging on starting out. Those who fail to add confidence quickly give up and quit from their blogging business.
Did you know you can lose confidence within yourself and in the business because of the futile sets of people known as critics and their criticisms? But they're not worth your time if you really want to treat them as such.
Critics Let You Fail in Your Business
You can fail easily in your business if you allow the futile beings called critics and their desperate deeds called criticisms to take preeminence in your business. The best way to deal with a critic is to keep quiet without responding at all while he demonstrates well even to his own satisfaction.
If you simply want to overcome a critic, just refuse to respond to their desperate deeds and treat them as no entity.
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Happy New Years to all the wa team you are all very kind and helpful. I hope to get a better grip on how to do this program but with you all by my side. Im sure i will get through without to much brain downloads lol
Thanks for stopping by, Tracysmccoy! Congratulations on making it to WA! You have made the wisest of decisions and have taken the best of actions in the lifetime. If you ever need a hand with anything going forward, don't hesitate to let me know. Thanks for your visit!
Israel Olatunji
Unfortunately, they're always going to be out there. There are fewer of them here because they don't fit in the same way they would fit into a typical social media platform like Facebook. But I've seen a few.
People here have goals and purpose, which is often lacking in those who have nothing better to do with their time but troll people's posts to criticize them. Either way, I take a stoic approach to things like that. I don't really care what they think.
There are almost 8 billion people in this world and they make up a small minority of undesirables.
Thanks for stopping by, MarkA1! I love this phrase in your last comment "People here have goals and purpose, which is often lacking in those who have nothing better to do with their time but troll people's posts to criticize them. Either way, I take a stoic approach to things like that. I don't really care what they think". It's really touching. Critics should read this and stop wasting their precious times trolling other people's work with the intention of criticizing them. Thanks for your immense contribution!
Israel Olatunji
Hi,
This really resonates with me after coming under fire from a useless comment that was posted. In all gains and insights this person had no good in any of it.
That in turn put me on a path of negative destruction. It rubbed off and I ended up super angry.
It meant that any normal comment to me became almost a derogatory. It was nothing like that at all. These comments to me were totally innocent.
Yet this negative impact overwhelmed me.
Critics and negative impacts are detrimental to any online business and/or self esteem.
I was lucky I could correct myself. I fell into the trap even though because of it I ended up doing exactly the same negative stuff.
I was wrong and I was lucky that others could accept my apology. It will never happen to me again that's for sure.
Mindless and totally useless. Certainly never worth it. Slyness and been two faced goes right against the grain for me. It will never ever have the chance to impact me and my working world ever again.
I am still furious but as long as the person stays out of my way. I shall be fine. I learned a hard lesson there.
Awesome post Israel thank you.
Debs :)
I am so sorry that happened to you Debs. Perhaps sending a private message to offer constructive criticism would be best. I have seen a few spelling errors that made me cringe but failed to say anything because I didn’t want to negatively affect a person’s self esteem, but then I felt guilty that I didn’t help them either. One can always balance a criticism with appreciation for another aspect of the person’s post and add a dash of encouragement.
Golly, Debs, I hope this wasn't about my poor joke about Eastbourne being more fun than London on New Years eve -- when I posted on your blog. That was totally meant to be a joke and I suppose it could have come across the wrong way. ouch! sorry if it did.
Lol no Marc not at all. London is bloody awful lol. It wasnt you. ::))
That was down to somebody else been a div. Someone who went out of his way to act like a complete D..ck nothing to do with you Marc. :)) Bless ya. :))
Never in a million years bless. :)
Wow - Your experience has deeply correlated with the purpose for which this post was created, Debs. This was exactly why I made this post. Though some critics are meant to help you get straightened up for a greater tomorrow in your business, there are other categories of critics that have are undergoing serious pains at seeing you make progress from day to day and wouldn't mind trying all possible best to distract your attention and make you derail from the blogging morale with which you've been working and making progress so far. Thanks for sharing your honest experience, my friend!
Aww bless you Marc.
You have always been so polite and have always passed my posts. Always taking out your time to read my posts give a like and a reply. I appreciate you as a person Marc. Your the best :))
Likewise, I totally admire you and follow your success with great interest! You are truly amazing and that critic is crazy not to see it :) cheers marc
Israel,
We do not need Critics we do at times need someone
who can and is able to give us constructive criticism
in order for us to grow and reach our full potential!
I never try to give anyone who asks my opinion anything
more than my opinion and that makes constructive
criticism the best advise one can give.
Does this make sense I am not even sure LOL,
Susan
Yes, I agree with you, Marley. We sometimes need constructive critics to get us challenged and make us decide to speed up growth. Yes, it makes a lot of sense, my friend. Thanks for visiting!
Israel Olatunji
Yes, we don't need critics at this early stage of our online growth. However, one thing I notice about WA is that people give far more encouraging comments than critical ones. We are lucky to have this platform.
Thanks for stopping by, FKelso! If there are more critics than contributors, they surely will not impact people who are always prepared for criticisms and have a critical way of dealing with them off their way. Thanks for your contribution!
Israel Olatunji
People in glass houses should not throw stones. We all live in a glass house. We can all be criticized most of the time. Some criticism is important to learn from but 95% is unfounded.
Most of it comes from negative people which are the majority of the World population.
Thanks, Israel for all to learn that we all must use constructive criticism in a positive manner of advice.
Tom.
Thanks for your valuable comment, Tirolith! I love this phrase in your comment "It comes from negative people which are the majority of the World population". This is noteworthy, bro. Thanks for your contribution! Really appreciated!
Israel Olatunj!
Good post Israel, do you know Jordan Peterson a Clinical Psychiatrist, I think. He is known throughout the internet. Just go to youtube.
He mentions with conviction, when you are confronted by envious assholes, excuse my Alaskan. He says to avoid them like the plaque. I for one I used to get pissed and then it ruins my whole day and grovel over what that person said to me. I used to dwell and that's no good for it internally ruin hours of wasteful time that I can no longer get back. I must remind you I'm 64 and proud of it.
Anyways my good friend, I laugh at them inside and just 'TRASH THEM' in my mind and AVOID THIS PIECE OF SH/T AS MUCH AS i CAN. I do not show my annoyance, I know I will not talk or see this scum ever again. I make sure of that.
If I get criticism here, I thank them and if he's in my followers I go out of my way to UNFOLLOW THE BUM!!!
Israel, it is good for your well-being and soul. I don't give a rat's ass for any of his comments.
Mahalo Israel, as always great awesome post. Please don't allow anybody to read me, I am embarrassed. =)
frank you fanclub President.
What an awesome comment, 1signbanner! Much impressed! I sometimes, receive harsh comments from critics once in a blue moon but don't hesitate to delete such comments as well as unfollow such folks. Thanks for your great contribution!
I'm glad you brought up Dr, Jordan Peterson in this context.
He also says that disagreeable people, who are also conscientious, tend to be more successful than those who are too agreeable and too nice.
I agree, there is a balance between challenging and being an overly critiquing asshole, the latter doing so just for the sake of it, the former to enhance the dialogue and help people learn.
I'm sure you'll agree that Jordan does not hesitate to challenge people all the time.
It's too easy to overlook challenging commentary as being overly critical, and then the one who is missing out is the one who mistook the other person for being envious of them. I think Dr. P. would agree with that perspective.
Marc
Marc, yes I too agree with you. There are 2 types of critics, critics(1) and critics(2) both are distinctly different. The first is one who engages in dialogue and makes room for growth between the 2 parties. Critics(2) are scums who I consider Toxic Individuals that don't engage but to degrade just to feel superior.
These are the piece of sh/ts I'm talking about. They're no good for you and I just throw them in the toilet where they belong.
These kinds of people can go to hell as far as I'm concerned. I have a skill, I won't go into that, but if I believed those I knew that said, I won't be good enough, I wouldn't be good at my skill.
These toxic people can ruin my dream passion. I chose to hang around positive people and I'm now the best in Hawaii.
These people I'm talking about as said to Israel should be avoided like the plague.
I wanna make this clear Marc, I by no means am a 'closed minded' person. I am open to criticism but must be backed by constructive and thoughtful reasons, but Marc I CAN SMELL SHIT! WHEN I HEAR IT.
Just my humble opinion my brother! I'm closed minded about these people. I rid them from my reality, sorry!
frank
Yes, just dispose them from your life. Life is to short to dwell on them especially when I can hang around people like you and Israel. The others as said, just waste my time.
Thanks for being there my brother!
Thanks for telling the bitter truth here, 1signbanner! You are uniquely one among the multitude of people, my people. I love and agree with the phrase "Critics(2) are scums who I consider Toxic Individuals that don't engage but to degrade just to feel superior". You've been the most realistic as far as this topic is concerned. You won it all. I chose your opinion first.
You categorized critics properly and no one can dispute your facts and analysis except the critics(2) we talked who wouldn't ever want to accept the facts of this post. It would surely be odd to them.
Thanks a lot, friend! Comment Noted!
Thank you Israel, your post hit a nerve with me.
This is great stuff you brought up. Very important for the
young and innocent to hear and learn from.
Individual dreams and passion is a fragile thing. When I see it in any child's eyes.
I STAY THE FREAKIN' HELL AWAY AND LET THAT KID LOOSE..
A child's dreams should never, to me, be interfered with by an ALL KNOWING ADULT, except when it can endanger the child.
i thank my parents for allowing me to dream! They are both no longer with me but in my heart Israel.
frank your brother
Thanks for your compliment, emarketingguy! Kudos to you! As you build out your site, critics will surely come around but will not successfully impact your business their own way so far you can get prepared. Thanks for your lovely visit!
I agree. My main concern is what does it mean if I have 100 optimized posts and am still not getting any sales or commissions? Does that mean I should keep going or choose another niche? (This is just a hypothetical question). Thoughts?
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Thanks for the encouragement to continue a daily addition of content, I’m well versed in content publishing and SEO (been at this 10 years) and I’m wildly successful, I just wanted that encouragement to never give up so I can show others who may be looking to quit WA, that if you keep going you have a far better chance of success than if you just quit when the goin gets tough. Cheers.
Much welcome, bro! Thanks for stopping by! Critics are nothing but typical failures. They have nothing to offer you except to make you slumber from your blogging goal. Thanks!
Obviously I have not yet experienced this degree of criticism. Thanks for preparing me for it.
Much welcome, TeriCalhoun! Thanks for stopping by! Not that critics are that strong to influence your business, but can succeed in making one derail from his initial blogging goal if care is not taken. They have their numerous ways of killing morale and if they're not prepared for, it's definitely going to impact negatively one's goal.
However, some critics are also useful in the sense that they challenge you to be more practical with your business and come up with better ways of improving your business. Thanks for your lovely visit!
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Hi Israel
Thank you for writing about this important topic. I agree with what you are saying. In short, the behaviour of a critic (we are not talking about constructive critics here - just to clarify) says more about them than the person they are criticizing.
I think the biggest thing to bear in mind that critics are people who need love more than others.
Let's dazzle them with kindness and let what they say just pass us by.
Blessings
Louise
You have a great point here, LouiseBT. By showing love and care, we can win most critics and get them completely-transformed into positive-minded people rather. Thanks for your valuable contribution!
Israel Olatunji
Hi Israel
I am glad you said "most", some people are just plain nasty no matter how much kindness we show them - I'm speaking from some recent experience sadly. We can only try ... after that I just say a little prayer for them and move on :-)
Blessings
Louise