Is Your 'Why' The Real One ?

Before we get started with 'Is your why the real one ?' I thought it best to mention that this will be two posts all mish-moshed together. In truth, I couldn't make up my mind which title to go with.

The other title is 'If In Doubt Just write' So in true 'live' fashion, that's exactly how I'm going to approach this post.

If I had used the second one first and then tried to incorporate the first one, the second title really wouldn't have given you a clear indication of what I was intending to write about. Make sense ?

The whole 'One thought equals one post' has gone right out of the window, at least for today. You see, every time I thought about the 'Why' I kept tying myself up in knots, too many tangents, even for me.

So, I thought I would just start writing and see where we go. Nothing like living on the edge, now is there.

One of the most common questions that we face when embarking on this or any new venture is 'Why are you doing this ?' The answers are varied and can be different for most of us, though there do seem to be plenty based around some firm favourites.

• I need more money
• I hate my job
• I want to be my own boss
• I secretly yearn to have my own dance studio

There are many others but two tend to be the main ones, or derivatives of them, variations on a theme, if you like.

The 'why' is important for many reasons but again, one seems to be ahead of all others.

You need to know your 'why' so that when things get a bit sticky, you remember the reason you started doing whatever it is and that then helps you through.

It did occur to me, that sometimes it's not enough. The 'why' isn't strong enough to pick you up, when you're on your knees, head on the floor, fists pounding the carpet.

I wonder then if we need to really take a good look at our 'why's' and see if they are actually true. I mean, I know they're true, in the sense that you're not making them up. It's more to do with whether they are just the tip of your 'why' iceberg.

Stay with me, I know what I mean, maybe if I explain where I'm going with this, it will become clearer. Is your 'why' divisible or is it a prime number (Yes, I know that a prime number is divisible by one and itself, how could I forget that). That's better, we're getting closer to it.

The easiest way to find out would be to ask yourself the question. Why ? Pretend to be a four year old all over again.

You want more money ? Why ? Because you're fed up with not being able to have some of the nicer things in life, you've always had to 'make do'. You want to be able to give your children the things they would like and not have to keep saying 'We can't afford it'. When that happens it makes you feel sad and inadequate, like you're not quite good enough.

Bit strong ? It was merely to make the point that we need to have more that just a 'want'. We need our 'why' to be strong enough to leverage ourselves when we are on the brink of throwing in the towel.

We need to be able to draw strength from our why. We need to be able to say 'I am going to do this because I no longer want to feel embarrassed or ashamed' 'I am going to do this because I no longer want to see that look in their eyes.' (insert your own particular loved one or ones)

'I am going to do this so that I can live life on my terms and no longer be at the beck and call of someone I have no respect for'

It kind of touches on the 'Primary question' arena but that's a conversation for another day and with someone far more qualified than me.

There are going to be times when you're up against it. You're tired and yet you still have so much left to do. It could be that you've published a dozen or more articles and your traffic is still in single figures.

There will be something that will take you to the edge and you'll ask yourself

'Why am I doing this ?'

Is your answer going to be strong enough to pull you back ? Maybe now is a good time to have another look and see if your 'why' has got what it takes.

On that note, I need to go, I have videos to watch and notes to take. Also remember, if in doubt write.

Hope you're having a terrific Tuesday and managing to stay safe, healthy and happy.

Twack Romero.