Experiences Not all that their made out to be or Nothing seems to be going right

byTomJacobs

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10 years ago

Each day is filled with experiences. Some we consciously choose others seem to happen to us. Some strengthen us others weaken us. Said another way, some are enjoyable and others not so.

This seemed to become a matter of perspective and focus.

I recently had an experience that wasn’t so enjoyable and to be honest still challenges me today as I write this. It really put some stress on me to the level that I was depressed most of the day. In giving myself some space, I was able to regain perspective that what I was missing during my previous day was a sense of accomplishment ~ I felt like I couldn’t do anything right all day long. Did you ever have one of those days? I speculated do we need to have wins or accomplishments throughout our day as well as challenges? Does a win or accomplishment give us a self-confidence a boost? Does the win or accomplishment say that we’re good at what we’ve done? Or more globally does a win or accomplishments verify our self-worth?

All of these answers seemed outer dependent. Circumstances change. Experiences change. So if we look to circumstance to qualify our worth we’ll naturally be up and down and there will be days where “I just don’t seem to do anything right”. But what if we were to change our perspective or focus and decided that it wasn’t the experience that was going to define how we feel about ourselves but the other way around, we are going to define how we feel about the experience. Better yet, we are going to define how we feel about ourselves and let the experience be neutral. And based on that, we are going to no longer judge ourselves either positively or negatively based on experiences. We are going to decide that we are magnificent persons experiencing and we will remain magnificent after the experience.

Thank you for reading my musings.