Colour me confused

Last Update: April 19, 2019
I don't get it.

I've visited the websites of many members where I've noticed egregious mistakes in grammar, spelling and punctuation. Several times now, I have offered my proofreading services for free (free!, I tells ya) only to be rebuffed. 😳 Seriously, what the…?

I've mentioned before that I've modelled myself on Mr. Spock since my late teens, so usually am I unsurprised by behaviour I consider illogical, but I must confess this particular situation has me stumped completely.

Pray, someone who understands, kindly share with me your insight—thanks. 😊


Satori!


Oh wait! Just this very second, I've had a moment of inspiration.

Do folk think that in order to proofread their website I'd need editorial access? 🤔🤦

Lolz. C'mon, peeps: it does not. 🤣

Okay, just to be crystal clear, as a proofreader, all I'd do is send one or more private messages pointing out suggested corrections. So, maybe this was the problem?

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Cherry21 Premium
Interesting, proofreading???
I may take you up on your offer.
I agree with Merly and Cinderella vanity and the whole step over the line. As I am sure you know. People can be funny sometimes.
Great post. Be Blessed.
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tbowyer Premium
Hi Cherry.

"I may take you up on your offer"
Of course, any time.

Regards,

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Cherry21 Premium
Cool beans.
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JaneMahlehle Premium
Oh wow!
That’s you giving your service free of charge and you get rebutted!
Odd😶
Talk about the spirit of paying it forward...
You know Tayo, this isn’t on you.
So, Be cool 😎
Jane
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tbowyer Premium
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Hi Jane.

"Odd😶"
You're telling me? 😊 Chortle.

"Talk about the spirit of paying it forward..."
It "hurts my eyes", you see, so my motives may be selfish. lol

"You know Tayo, this isn’t on you.
So, Be cool 😎"
Aw, thanks Jane. 😊👍

Kind regards,

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JaneMahlehle Premium
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merlynmac Premium
There are various reasons people may not take you up on your offer...

1) Embarrassment/Vanity - They don't want someone pointing out their mistakes.
2) Suspicion - What's the catch/angle? What are you really after?
3) Uncertainty/Ignorance - Will I have to give you admin access to my site?

I'm sure there are other reasons but I think you get what I'm trying to say. All you can do is offer. Don't get down if people don't take you up on it.

Feel free to check my pages and posts any time. I'm all for making my sites better.
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tbowyer Premium
Hi Scott.

Well met by dawn's early light (or something like that, it's just gone 8 o'clock summertime here in the UK, lol).

1) Embarrassment/Vanity
I can't say that I respect this attitude. But... (and it's a big but) I'd fully understand if the corrections are trumpeted about, say in Posts and such. PMs being invisible to everyone else though, what's the problem?

2) Suspicion - What's the catch/angle? What are you really after?
Yep, I do try to allay that fear by pointing out I'll *never* ask for money. I'd have thought the written record of the promise always would serve as an unbreakable guarantee.

3) Uncertainty/Ignorance - Will I have to give you admin access to my site?
Yes. I think that this is the one I missed. As I note in the article, thought didn't cross my mind until the moment after I'd typed "thanks".

"Feel free to check my pages and posts any time. I'm all for making my sites better"
Yay, my first "customer". 😊 Lolz.
Unfortunately, you don't have a "Follow on" section, but maybe one day... 👍

Regards,

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CarlaNavarro Premium
WELL SAID.
When I read it, it sounded rude to me, I am sure many others feel the same way. Be kind and PM them if you want to help them.
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DianeScorpio Premium
Hi - I have not offered to proofread anybody's site, but I occasionally get PMs from people who have read my profile and have seen that I am a proofreader, asking for help.
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tbowyer Premium
Hi Diane.

I see. Great insight. 👍

I'll bung "Proofreader" into my profile also, so at least it might not come as a complete surprise when I offer to help—if ever again I do!

Thank you. 😊

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CarlaNavarro Premium
Yup very cool DIANE. I like that
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Cinderella5 Premium
It depends where you did it, in the feedback yes it is allowed but in the comments Nope absolutely. It is a big No.

But always remember that we humans are not the same so you might wanna change your approach to dropping a note for permission to proof read and give your opinion, people might feel you are over stepping your boundaries. I would feel like that if you just came on and say hey listen you need to change this or that unless I first know who you are. It’s called being Human.

I know you mean well and do appreciate you wanting to help but most people have boundaries I do. But Thanks 🙏 and by the way now that I know you do that I won’t be mad if you did but only when I ask for feedback and not comment.

Hope this helps. Just Remember we humans are funny 😁
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tbowyer Premium
Hi Cindy.

Actually, neither in feedback nor comments.

I participate quite heavily in Posts, and as a result, often visit members' websites through their "Follow on" section. If I do find grammatical, spelling or punctuation mistakes which make me go "ouch", I PM the individual and make an offer. The response (to the offer) till now has been silence (which for once, does not signify consent, lol). On the other hand, I've received gratitude for the pointing out corrections. For this latter reason, I never felt that I had offended anyone.

"but most people have boundaries"
Hmm. It is troubling if ego trumps even *private* correction. That may explain certain unfortunate aspects of the state of the world today I suppose.

Certainly I fully understand no one wishes to be made to look silly, but I wouldn't have thought (until you said so) that a quiet "Oh, you might want to look at this, and would you like me to look at that too?" would be problematic).

Well, I'm glad I asked and I'm glad that you explained it to me—thank you. 😊

Regards,

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Cinderella5 Premium
We are all humans I doubt if it’s ego it’s just privacy Like me I have a listening ear but I don’t like my privacy been stamped on.

I know you mean well but diversity should be the first thing you think about. We are all unique we can’t all think the same, the world 🌎 would be boring..Lol

All the best
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