Negative Nancy's, please move along

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I always try my utmost to be positive and be helpful to others. I am not one to give unsolicited advice. I was brought up to believe that giving unsolicited advice, except in the case where the relationship is one which embraces that action, was at the very least rude. But, especially, when we are in a group which is one in which we set out to be caring and helpful, it can be degrading and demoralizing. So please, when commenting on posts, please play nice. If advice is obviously sought out, by all means, share constructive comments. Doing otherwise is inappropriate.

Keep on keeping on...

Tamara

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Wow a lot of varying opinions, wanna hear from someone that knows everything.... it's NOT me, I just ask questions and help where and when I can. Don't know why some people get on the high horse and feel that they are superior to everyone else, they should recall they were once GREEN too. OK that's my two cents and a half.
Nice to meet you, and look forward to working with you, congrats on your education goals being met. You don't have to tell me about paying for school I still owe 25,000 and it is still a nightmare.

Well thanx for reading,
~Michael~

Very well put, there is people out there that can be rude, and heartless they only care for them self's and not worry about others feelings, they like it when the shoe is on the other foot

Interesting post. We are one family with one objective

Good post. I see the negative nellies as lessons that teach how not to be. I feel sorry for them that they have the need to try and bring others down.
Don`t let them get to you, pity them and move on. Success always bugs lazy people.

There's something my granddad told me when I was a little girl stuck with me into adulthood. He said, "You can please some of the people some of the time but you can't please all the people all of the time." I'm

I used to be one of those people that strived to please all the people all of the time. It didn't get me anywhere but brokedown, busted, and disgusted. It took me a minute to realize what he was saying. And I've learned that not everybody is going to be for you.

I honestly believe that some people were put on this earth just to tear others down. Whether they do it with words or actions. I've encountered quite a few of them. Actions speak louder than words. They can't take that fact that you have 3 websites up and running and you doing the damn thang!!

Don't let them get you down. Use it as ammunition to propel you further. Get another site up and running and see what they say about that!! Keep up the amazing work lady! You should be proud of yourself. Keep those "Negative Nancys" in your back pocket to pull one out from time to time when you need the motivation.

Wishing you nothing but the best!

Nikki

Yes, I wrote a comment similar to this 2 weeks ago. But don't let it get you down. Most of us are very nice.

I won't. I feel you. Thanks for the kind words. 🙂

Tamara

Hi Tamara, I agree with you totally. I just added a response to your goals, previously. I just hope I was not being inappropriate when mentioning Super Affiliate and Wealthy Affiliate being two totally different platforms. My apologies if I misunderstood something somewhere.

No, not at all. Very helpful and thoughtful. I appreciate you. 🙂

Tamara

Hi Tamara, Thanks for the post.

I have always been one that thrives on criticism. I feel that I cannot fix my faults if I do not know what they are.

I hope I don't come across harsh or bullying but I believe that WA is a community of caring and well intentioned people that want to succeed and want others to succeed.

With that in mind, I feel that we have a relationship which embraces constructive criticism. The operative word is constructive.

If someone seems to provide criticism that is other than constructive, I am not apposed to sending them a PM to sort the matter out. I don't enjoying airing a dispute in public as it has a negative impact on the entire community and can be decisive.

Keep up the excitement and enthusiasm, it is infectious and does us all a lot of good.

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Have tons of fun with your WA sites

All the best

Bryanb

Thanks Brian! 🙂 You're a very positive motivator. I appreciate your comments.

Tamara

Being polite is always a plus, but this is a community of people trying to help each other, as well as learn. No one was being a negative Nancy or being rude until this post.

If you see someone new at your place of employment doing something that might not be advisable, do you just watch them make mistakes and maybe get in trouble from the bosd? Or do you, politely say, "excuse me, that looks nice, but perhaps you should yada yada yada yada" even if you're not their boss so they don't get into trouble or fail or light something on fire? Because I'd rather have constructive criticism phrased politely than insincere pats on the back while people watch me fail.

I apologize if my unsolicited advice was considered rude by you, but this is a community of people and I'm not an insincere person. If I can't say something truthfully nice, I don't speak. If I see something where a nice word of advice might help, I do that too. If I see something excellent, I say that too. All sincerely and honesty. Nobody was rude in the previous blog's comments.

And by posting this blog, you're being argumentative by calling people who tried to help you names.
And you call people who offer advice as rude? Pot meet kettle, please. Maybe you should refresh your memory about the definition of rude.

I don't have time to waste on people who can't handle polite criticism. Doesn't matter to me if you fail or burn out doing three websites during training. Knock yourself out.

Maybe put a warning in your bio that you don't actually want help, just so other people don't waste their time.

Thanks for your comments.

Tamara

Live chat and these blog posts are open for comments by the WA community at large.

Politeness is expected, but unqualified agreement should not be.

A variety of opinions sparks discussion and keeps things interesting.

Well said

That is spot on, Laurie.

I hate to tell this to you Tamara, but your entire post is unsolicited advice, too.

That's what happens in forums.

Not that I find your post inappropriate, but I don't find unsolicited advice in any way a problem, I must disagree!

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