Why am I indecisive? A simple fix.

Last year I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. Literally, I slipped and was wedged between a cliff wall and a large rock at a secluded beach after hiking through the Redwoods.

But emotionally and spiritually I felt somewhat stuck as well.

I was faced with this fork in the road and had to make a decision.

It made me start thinking about the mechanics of indecision and how to get out of that uncomfortable position.

I posted earlier about going for the things you want in life.

And that’s part of it.

What I realized though is the moment you go from a certainty about something to an uncertainty, you immediately suspend all action and forward motion in that subject. Indecision is in essence a stop.

As an example, if you are working at a job and you suddenly go into doubt about that job, you will notice your performance begin to suffer. While you are still there physically, the creation you are putting into it drops to the basement.

Same goes with a relationship. That instant you become indecisive about it, is the instant you stop taking action to build the relationship.

When you are stuck in a maybe, it’s as if you entered a world of suspended animation and have just hit the pause button on life. Or at least that portion of life you are stuck in.

The interesting part of it is that it doesn’t matter which direction you go, either way will resolve the indecision. The real trap is the maybe.

What I realized for myself was that I knew what the right decision was for me. And after spotting how draining it was to be stuck in a maybe, I made the decision instantly.

So the fix is simple. Decide one way or the other and don’t put anymore time into it. I feel like we always know what the right decision is for ourselves. It’s just a matter of doing it and removing the maybe.