Don't Share, Don't Like, and No Comment.
No matter how much I try to not get to this point, it just happens and I am back here. Maybe I am naive this will be there till my end. I just need to accept it and find ways to deal with it.
Each time I feel defeated and hopeless. I tried for the past month to bring only positive but I guess I fail again. I know I offending many of our members who think someone's frustration and struggle are irrelevant.
I suppose I am just having a bad moment. No need to condemn the whole world and life as a whole for one moment.
It only takes one moment and you are set for life. One choice can plague you for the rest of your life.
Searching for Hope.
I sometimes think those strong individuals that seem to have it under control are just able to keep it to themselves and not show weakness.
- But, is showing strength always, not a lie?
- What are the advantages of always being the strong and stable one?
- Should one keep the strong face even under duress?
I am compelled to think it projects a lie to show only your strong face. Some of the people who do that are said to be bottling the pain and will one day explode and that could be fatal. I on the other hand keep showing my vulnerability to everyone, think I am helping myself from exploding.
I just like to learn to be strong and not hurt easily. Well, what does this have to do WA? I have had to defend my participation here. No one in my life cares for all the work I am putting in to build my business. It is my own problem and has nothing to do with the community. I am committed, but each time I show weakness from the challenges of my personal life, I feel I and seen as a weakling that seeks attention.
I like to question and put it all out there because I believe there is an answer. Something to set my frustrations at ease and help me to handle my journey.
Let me apologize to the strong and always composed that feel I am wasting time posting emotional struggles on an Affiliate platform. Maybe the WA policy should include, No emotion in business topics.
Thank you for, reading Don't Share, Don't Like, and No Comment.
Ntlhane
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It is not a true state of affairs to always show a brave face whilst bottling up anger and frustration. It is good to talk about your feelings so that people know how you feel and help.
Times are currently difficult, there are a lot of challenges but sharing is caring. From what you are sharing, someone learns that there are not alone in this tough journey.
Also by talking about your feelings, you are offloading the stress and frustration. If some people do not like it, it is their problem not yours. You are talking to us as a community, we should also share our frustrations with you as a learning carve.
Amen to that, Senanelo,
We do not have to bow to those who would be happy in our misery and pain, Do we?
Ntlhane
I just finished reading all the comments. I'm so sorry people made you feel that way. All of us have gone through so many things. I find it a strong person who can share their troubles with others. If they have negative comments, so be it. They're the short sighted ones, not you.
Through our struggles we learn so much. They are not negatives, they're positives. I'm glad the people here were so supportive. People should not judge others, period. Unless you walk in their shoes, how dare you give an opinion on their choices.
Life is not easy. We just need to learn every day and keep moving on. Again, I'm so glad you got so many positive statements today and realize we all have struggles and it's ok to share them.
Nina
Hey Ntlhane
Here I am not commenting :-)
We need to remember that living in SA also brings unique challenges and it's not possible for people who haven't lived like this to truly relate to it.
We are made of tough stuff and were born for a time such as this ... I have to believe this, it's one of the many ways I cope.
I also cope by falling apart at times ... and it really is okay to not be okay. I have survived it a number of times ... even come out stronger.
I encourage you to continue reaching out within the community, as you can see from the comments already, there is a lot of support here for you. We all "find our tribe" within WA - not everyone will be supportive or encouraging, and that is okay too (it says more about them than you or me :-)
Blessings and strength to you
Louise
Wow, I truly appreciate the time you have taken to encourage someone like me. It is true Louise, some members are not happy and we all need support.
Thank you, once more.
Ntlhane
Hi Ntlhane
Here’s a comment on your comment :-).
You refer to yourself as ‘someone like me’. We are all ‘someone like me’!
We can all please some of the people, some of the time.
We can perhaps please all of the people some of the time; perhaps not always at the same time!
We certainly can’t please all the people all of the time.
A difference between you and many of us is your straightforward honesty. That is a great strength.
Don't ever lose that!
:-)
Richard
Hi Ntlhane
I am so glad Richard commented here as I wanted to come back and say something too.
As Richard say "we are all 'someone like me'"
We all need the support of others, maybe just at different times.
Keep on keeping on!
Blessings always
Louise
Ntlhane, I can so relate to your post, that's why I rarely post.
I tend to respond more to posts that interest me, catches my attention or speaks to me.
The title caught my attention, and compelled me to read on. You're a good writer, sharing your true feelings is very commendable.
I noticed you've been actively posting in the past, don't worry if you're having a writer's block at the moment, it happens to the best of us.
This community is about sharing, caring, learning and growing, we're here for each other.
Thanks for sharing your true feelings Ntlhane.
Blessings
Melanie
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Hi Nlthane, I have heard people say that a "problem shared is half solved". So sharing our frustrations have a lot of advantages. I do not think there are people who maintain a bold face in the midst of problems that seem to surpass them. The difference with some persons is that even though they show their weakness at a certain time they never give up. On WA I see it as I family with many talented and willing people to help us newbies. I feel encouraged reading your blogs because you have been able to write some while for me I have even written anything. I am barely one month in WA and have made a lot of friends including you. Please do not give up on WA or your personal life. We all are in this together and we have to encourage each other. Cheers