Name change
After publishing a new post, I got positive feedback from the WA community. Everyone, thank you! When I shared the post on facebook, I got a heartbreaking review. The post, Miss Millie, was offensive to a person and let me know it. She refused to see the humor and finished the conversation with her views on the time I spend on my blog. She told me to get a real job.
I thought about what she said about the character, and I changed her name. Miss Millie is now called Miss Ruthannie. My intentions were not to offend anyone or show any disrespect to my grandmother or anyone else.
Please let me know your thoughts on the situation.
Thanks,
Patty
Recent Comments
51
Hi Patty. WA people are very supportive. Some people get offended too easily and lash out. Listen to your own heart. Tune out the noise around you. I like "Miss Millie" but it's your choice. Check out my recent post "Are you a caterpillar or a butterfly?" I think you are a butterfly. Just flutter away to the next flower and let her comments blow away on the wind.
Hmmm. The thing I like about WA is that the people here are all working hard on getting good at what they are doing and have no time for silly head-games.
I agree with the other posters. Not everybody's going to agree or like your work. (It's one of the problems with putting your heart out there. Sometimes there are folks whose hobby seems to be killing butterflies.) My own feeling is they aren't worth hanging around with anyhow so why invite them into your head?
The real estate in your mind is way too valuable for letting in the mud-slingers, Patty.
You are right about the people here at WA. It is a positive community. It just threw me for a loop since last week she was praising the site and this week I need to quit.
I will no longer allow her real estate in my head.
Thanks!
I agree with Anne. Miss Millie seems catchy to me. A reason to throw away that FB comment is that it got personal. Complaining that you're basically a nobody because who spend time on a blog is ridiculous. If she said that to someone who writes on the Medium or any full time working creative -- many would have called her an "expletive" moron.
Thanks I liked the name since it was my grandma's nickname, but to keep from offending any more "expletive" morons. (I love that) I changed it.
I would not be too quick to give up Miss Millie--it has a distinctive ring to it. You cannot be responsible if it hit her "button." At least you got reaction. Go with you gut, and not 1 reviewer.
Weird.... maybe your visitor was having a really bad hair day?
Can't comment much about it without seeing the comment? Found you on FB and gave you a friend request but I didn't see the video there or the comment.
I can think of LOTS of things to say to someone who tells you to "get a real job" - but I'll forbear as none of them are fit for tea and scones with the queen or remotely politically correct.
Chin up Girlfriend - you're not going to get thru' life without ever offending somebody, specially someone on the lookout to twist anything they can to offense. And taking offense from what strangers say is kinda .... digging in the dregs of the Find Offense Barrel anyway.
Thanks, I took the post off of facebook and the conversation was over the phone. I appreciate your advice on the situation. She is someone that is close to me. I will be distancing myself from her in the future.
I need to check the friend request for you.
Think twice before distancing yourself from someone you know... round about now she's probably feeling Very Bad About It All 'cos you obviously didn't disrespect your Grandma if your Grandma loved the skit ---- Take her out for tea if she was someone who's friendship / acquaintance you value/d :-)
As for real jobs - we all do what we need within the bounds of what we can and prefer. If you're earning or hopefully will - it's a job and you're not killing or harming anyone.
See more comments
You can satisfy some of the people all of the time, all the people some of the time, but you can't satisfy all of the people all of the time. I try to remember that.
Words to live by. Thank-you.