Four Red Flags That Someone Can’t Be Trusted
Last Update: Mar 22, 2023
Many problems today are due to our inability to recognize the difference between someone's confidence and competency.
In particular, our failure to ensure that talented leaders end up in positions of power explains why 70% of the world's nations and companies are led poorly and why people join companies but quit their bosses and political leaders.
We need to get better at spotting incompetence would be highly beneficial to the world, and it starts by not falling for people who self-promote and show off when they lack the talents to back it up.
Trust is an essential component of healthy relationships.
It is earned over time and based on a person's consistency and reliability. However, sometimes people may exhibit behaviors that make us doubt their integrity and make it difficult to trust them. Here are four red flags that someone may need to be more trustworthy.
- Dishonesty: Dishonesty is one of the most obvious red flags that someone can't be trusted. Deception comes in different forms, including lying, hiding information, or withholding the truth. A person who lies often cannot be trusted because they will say anything to make themselves look better, even at the expense of others. Observing a person's honesty over time is essential to see if they are consistent with what they say.
- Lack of empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It is an essential trait that helps people build connections with one another. A person who lacks empathy may be unable to put themselves in someone else's shoes, making it difficult for them to understand their perspective. This lack of understanding can lead to a lack of trust because it may seem like the person is only looking out for themselves.
- Unreliability: Reliability is the ability to be counted on to do what you say you will do. If a person is unreliable, it can make it difficult to trust them because you never know if they will follow through with their commitments. Unreliability can come in different forms, including not showing up when they said they would or not completing tasks they agreed to. An unreliable person can be frustrating because it may feel like you can't depend on them.
- Lack of boundaries: A person who doesn't respect boundaries can be challenging to trust because they may not understand or care about your needs. Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships because they help define what is acceptable and what is not. A person who doesn't respect boundaries may ignore your requests or push you to do things you don't want. This lack of respect can make it difficult to trust them because it may seem like they don't care about your feelings or needs.
Trust is a critical component of healthy relationships. However, several red flags can indicate that someone may need to be more trustworthy. These red flags include dishonesty, lack of empathy, unreliability, and boundaries.
If you notice any of these behaviors in someone, it is essential to proceed with caution and slowly build trust over time.
Remember, trust is earned, not given.
As always, your thoughts, feedback, and input are welcomed!
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...all great points, Mike, and so true.
Your article is very well crafted. Nice!
This so true. I think through living one naturally begins to think in terms of 4 checks you have listed. I haven't seen them presented in this way. I appreciate it. I had a boss who used to say that everyone is promoted to their highest degree of incompetency. I think he was right.
ABSOLUTELY!!! The trust in each other is diminishing nowadays unfortunately. How many remember when a person's word meant something, and millions of dollars depended on a simple handshake??
I hear a lot of this saying going around and I mean this literally "It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission"! To many people think this way and that is why trust is going out the window.
Thank you for the post it sure speaks volumes Mike!!!!
Kevin and Son
Thank you Kevin I agree with you so much people use that saying as an excuse for doing the wrong thing.
Well said, Mike! Trust is THE critical component!
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I trusted the word of someone when they waxed lyrical about someone who wrote posts for others.
Mine were rubbish having to be rewritten so they made sense. They clearly had been put out to others who did not know anything about english grammar. I started asking for them to be written properly. It was deptessing to ay for posts that I had to rewrite. Then I discovered a few with affiliate links that weren't mine.
I was scammed well and truly. Lost a few hundred quid as well as faith in having websites. It really put me off writing. I havent added to my websites since. Not heard another word from him either.
So yes, trust is very important. Once broken it can never be repaired.
Wow…I’m sorry you had lost $$$, I too have been down that path, and leaned some valuable lessons.
Thank you for your share!