If You Want to Achieve Success, Don’t do This….
Just recently I read a great blog post from "Rick" about negativity that really got me thinking. As a matter of fact, that particular post inspired me to write this one.
Rick’s blog began by describing the lunch he had with a friend who complained about everything. The point was to get negativity out of your life. It’s difficult to focus on your work, life and goals when you are surrounded by negativity.
I’m sure it happened to all of us. You begin by telling a friend, colleague or family member about a new project, business venture or goal you have. And, all of a sudden you get shut down. You’re being told that your idea will never work, it’s too much of a hassle or you should get a normal "9-5" job. You know what I mean.
This is a little bit like a lobster in a bucket. A lone lobster will manage to get himself out of a bucket. But, if there is more than one lobster in the same bucket he’ll never get out. The other lobsters will always pull him back in. In human terms, others will always sabotage your confidence keeping success out of reach in order to keep you at their level.
So the question is: What can you do? First of all, spend less time with these people. This may be hard to do because they could be your best friends. This is what I do: When you get together, discuss everything but you’re doing for business. Keep that discussion off the table or they will rob you of your success.
Our 24 hour-a-day modern digital connectivity doesn’t help matters. These people have access to drain your positive energy via, texting, emails and social media all day long. If you find this is a problem for you, do what I do, turn those smart phone notifications off.
One of my favorite things to do in order to “get away” in my own home is leave the smart phone in the car, which is parked garage. If I’m working I’ll only allow checking it every few hours. Actually, it feels like the “good old days” before the internet age.
Start spending time with successful people and/or social media groups. Surround with successful people that have a mission in life, an eagerness to succeed and eventually their positive attitude will rub off on you. Successful people have a wonderful way of staying on track despite setbacks. Associate with them, watch them and do as they do.
If you’re looking to find some successful people with a positive attitude to help you reach your goals, the WA Community is a great place to start.
Don’t let anyone rob you of your success anymore.
Mike
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Great reminders, Mike.
I had already adopted some of your suggestions in my own life. Not surprisingly, I have had to "jettison" some old acquaintances because of their awful, negative attitudes. Although I love them dearly, it was always a challenge to be in their company.
Best,
Joshua
Hi Joshua, Funny how we need to create buffer zones between us and some of our closest friends at times. Thanks for your comment!
Mike
It is difficult to stay away from them when you are married to them. I, like you, do not discuss my online business with negative people. Thank you for reminding me that it is okay not to discuss your business or mine with negative people. Thanks for sharing such a personal post.
Jerry
Thanks for your comment Jerry. Life in general would go so much smoother without the negativity.
Mike
Wow, that is deep yet so true. I encounter this on a daily basis, all I tell them if you doubt me now but you just wait and see what will happen in 6-12 months from now and when that time comes we will recap on this discussion
Kind regards
Angelique.
That's a really good point Angelique! Not only are you putting negative folks on the spot but, at the same time, you are stepping up your own game by raising the bar by working harder to attain your goals. Very cool!
Mike
Awww thank you, it's true others don't know what it feels like to start a business from scratch, i think they will sing another tune if they were us.
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Agreed Mike. I like to stay in my own business. What other people think and day about me and what I'm doing is none of my business. :)
~Mark :)
Love it! Thanks Mark.