I empathise with you...it is a really hard place to be. For what it is worth I think you made the correct decision to remove yourself from the situation and creating that distance was a tremendous positive and first step to moving on. Emotional attachment is a tough bugger to work yourself free from...because emotions have a bad habit of using and abusing us..and as hard as it sounds we have to learn to discipline them. You have your own life to lead..and new loves to find! Good Luck and I hope all works out well for you.

Kerli, you have no reason to feel guilt or responsibility for this young man. Sounds like you have done everything you can to help him, without success. He has made choices for his life that have put him in this situation. You have made the healthy choice to not be drug down with him. But you need to make a complete break, so you can begin to heal. Perhaps you can try not talk every day. Ween yourself away from this relationship before it destroys you. You can't save him from himself, no matter how hard you try. It is sad, but true. I'm sure your situation is not unique, as many people who belong to WA, I'm sure there are others who have been through something similar. You will find much support here. I will be praying for you. I know you are hurting.

My take on things like this is: Do what you can until you are satisfied that you can do no more, then with a heavy heart make the move to live your own life.

Sounds like you have done this and for this reason there is no need to feel any form of guilt, you have done your best, he is not able to take the opportunity you gave him, so it is now your turn to live life.

Well done.

Good morning Kerli. That was a courageous thing to do and a very wise decision you made. I know because I been there, done that.
My story is not as good as yours though. We were married and had two preschool children. My wife was an alcoholic. She liked to party. Once I had a child to take care of, I changed. I had to make sure I always made enough money to support my family because I made a promise to myself that my child would never go to bed hungry.
It was very tough in the beginning but it was the best decision I ever made. I would never recommend divorce to anyone, but for my children's sake, it was the best
Ken

Hi Kerli, remain strong you cant take responsibility for someone else, see yourself as a shining light and do not allow someone else to attempt to dim that light. You are beautiful both inside and out and you will find the right person only when you are not looking. Get on with your life and allow him to get on with his. Wipe the slate clean and live in the moment, thats all you have. Cut the ties or you will be miserable until you do. Been there done that. Live the life you were meant to live, be the shining light you are.

You are doing the right thing.
It is him that has to realize that he needs help.
He has to reach out and goes to a rehabilitation center.

And you are right by keeping contact with him, too. Just encourage him to get better.
If he is annoyed of your kindness and decide to cut the connection, it is his loss.

A friend of mine, his brother has a drug addiction to pain killers. Most of us don't have the skills necessary to deal with this, even professionals have a hard time. Like Alexander has said, at some point, they have to realise they need help and reach out to the people who can help them and it is not usually the ones closest but the ones who are experienced and have probably gone through the same problems. I hope you find a resolution to this but you are not responsible for his life, only he is. Don't let emotional blackmail win you over.

Hi Kerli, dealing with addiction is so challenging, for all concerned it only changes when the person with the addiction fronts up and takes some responsibility it is only then that some healing can start, if that doesn't happen the loved ones around that person just end up in that never ending cycle, almost like how do you say co-dependence. Stepping out like you have is the best thing that you could do, it is hard but it is your boyfriend's road he is walking it. Don't feel guilty at the end of the day we have free will. It will be. so hard for you, the folks around need to heal as well and often as not they don't figure in the equation, best wishes and kind thoughts for you. Take care.

I have not been in this situation. You have done the right thing. Ice or Crystal Meth is one of the hardest Drugs to quit and users rarely do so without Treatment and Drug Rehabilitation. You are not responsible for the choices he makes. His choice it to get into a rehab-program or not.

Australia is a country that has some of the best facilities available for him if he so chooses. I understand it is hard AND you have a life that you deserve to live that is full of amazing possibilities. Focus on that. You cannot save him, only he can.

My thoughts are with you at this time as I know many of the amazing people here in WA will be too. Well done for the strength you have already shown.

Cheers, William.

Hi Kerli,
I have never being in that situation, but you in life sometimes have got to make very hard decisions,but remember you also have to look after your self also,and going what you said it was him ho got into that situation but he also has got to get out of it him self.do not get me wrong but you need to look after your self,and it is hard to make a clean brake but do not get sucked back in to a bad situation,you also need a life also,
Kind Regards,
Gerard.