How to say "No." and continue adding value.

byJamesMichel

2.4K followers

9 years ago

Here is the way my Facebook friend asked the question:

How do I say NO when the Uber driver wants my phone number to ask me on a date?

As the song goes, there may be fifty ways to leave your lover...

However, since you are asking seriously, I understand it is about a larger goal than simply , "No."

Here are some GOALS:

- to say "No." to the request

- to maintain your own integrity

- to add lasting value to the driver's life, to your own life, and to the relationship you have with the driver. You may need that Uber driver again and then you'll need his yes.

Achieving these three goals simultaneously can be done by someone who has the courage, foresight and creativity to ask Facebook friends for help!

Remember:

- your "No." answer is for maintaining a greater overarching "Yes." that you are already committed to in your life.

- your "No." is just for now. It's temporary. There is nobody who knows how things will be at anytime in the future.

- your "No." as with every intention we utter, can delivered with love. From the greatest love is The easiest way to add the value described above as well as to keep your own integrity is to approach such a challenge from an attitude of great love.

All that is so each reader will have the tools to craft on the spot answers in many situations, and your best answer will be better than this answer.

How about saying:

You are a wonderful man for asking. (true) I'm really flattered. (true) Right now, my life is overflowing, so I'll tell you "No." But, things may well be different next time, and being the man you are I know you'll understand. (he will do that for you!)

Now, even if the ride continues, you are both free to carry on a lively conversation, and you have even left yourself room to change your mind!