Make your own opportunities - they always exist
Make your own opportunities - they ALWAYS exist
I remember my father sitting me down one day and giving me 'the talk'. No, it wasn't about my latest school report, or whether I knew about the birds and the bees, or if I'd worked out that he and my mother were going to split up; but it did have a very profound effect on me.
I must have been about 13, and was struggling with some friendship issues at school which he could see had upset me. He called me in and asked me what was the matter. Well, that was it, the flood gates opened and he was hit with a barrage - all manner mixed-up, pubescent emotions, anger, blame and he got it right between the eyes - lock, stock and smoking barrel!
To my surprise, he listened very calmly as I blamed ex-friend after ex-friend for being mean to me, my teachers for not understanding my current situation and my parents for not there for me when they could see how terrible my life had become!
After about 10 minutes, I'd calmed myself down, used up all the tissues I (and he) had, and washed my face several times in my own tears. I must have looked a picture!His reaction was very calm and not at all what I had expected.
"Gail, I can see how upset you are and that this must be a very distressing situation for you. It's always difficult when you feel that people have let you down or upset you, or there are situations over which you have little or no control.
"But", he continued,
"This is life. And life happens to everyone. It is not what happens to you that matters, but how you deal with what happens that is important. Because that defines who you are, and therefore what you can and cannot do with your new circumstances."
It was only later, with the benefit of hindsight and further knowledge, that I truly understood how right he was, how wise he had been, and the true meaning of the gift he had given me.
Of course, it's not what happens to us that defines us - bad things happen to everyone, every day - in every country of the world - and most of them are much worse than what had happened to me! But how we deal with what happens is absolutely what is important. I realise that now.
Needless to say, I got over my tantrum, found new friends at school who have lasted a lifetime and eventually forgave my teachers when my exam results proved that they did know how to teach me as long as I knew how to learn!
So what's my message here?
It's simple - in today's uncertain world, a lot of us are facing events and circumstances that we could not predict. However, that does not mean that we are helpless or powerless, depending on how you look at things.
REMEMBER - it's not what happens to you that's important, but how you deal with what's happened.
For example, if you had a high-street business and the doors are currently closed on the high street for EVERYONE, isn't that a great opportunity for you to seek out new ways to bring your business to the people - be that by offering a delivery service, an online service or one-to-one virtual service?
Again, if you had a travel blog that has seen a drop in traffic recently, can you now expand your horizons and seek another niche area which is seeing a growth? Those niches are out there and you can bet that there are savvy, geared-up and motivated people who are going to make an opportunity out of them.
What about people who offer a service such as hairdressing or osteopathy? Is there a way that they can see the opportunities in the current situation? I would say "yes of course, if they look". Perhaps this is a great opportunity for them to become and expert in their field, to set up an advice line or a 'how to style your hair yourself' blog, or to train others online, or to find products to sell remotely, or look into drop shipping, or......
You see my point?
Opportunities ARE out there. But you will need to seek them out. Which means, turning away from moaning about the problems, and actively search for the solutions!!
As we law of attractions blogger say: the solution and the problem are very different vibrations.
This is a community of online entrepreneurs - it is our business to seek out online opportunities. So what are you waiting for?
And with so many people being forced to do so much more online now - we should feel like a kid in a sweet shop, surely?!
So do not get caught up in the problem, seek out the solutions and watch your opportunities grow!
All the best everyone.