Finally admitting it

Last Update: October 20, 2015

Today was a breakthrough day for me. I revealed to myself the fear I've carried for such a long time, that is the "fear of putting myself out there" or "fear of rejection". If it's not the real root fear in my life then it is damned close. It explains all my procrastination and other sundry non-useful habits and thinking. Today is the day I move forward, despite that fear.

Very soon I will delete the niche I had chosen and replace it with the real one. The one that gets me fired up, the one that sustains me when the world looks bleak.

Even with all the knowledge and experience at my disposal that fear had immobilized me. The power of fear in me knew no logic, it persisted within, regardless.

Now I can make important that which is actually is important.

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allchristie Premium
Good decision. Similarly I choose happy each day: miserable just to-o much hard work
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Bluegum Premium
Thank you krazykat. Fear does sell, a great tip, I will use that selling angle.
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krazykat Premium
Great post. Good to move forward despite the fear.
On a different note, fear sells! Maybe you can use that in promoting your niche. Good luck!
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musicman99 Premium
I can relate to this. When you want something more than anything, fear stops you from pursuing it. Even if you have all of the resources available to you, your mind is your worst enemy and prevents your dreams from becoming a reality. I honestly believe this is because we are afraid of failing, or afraid of succeeding. Fear of failure is the more common one, but fear of success also has to do with failure. We hate failure because of our ego. We always want to succeed, and when we fail we get really down on ourselves hard. We hate ourselves for it. We fear success because we don't know if we'll be able to handle it, or be worthy of it (because of bad past experiences and unfortunate events being out of your control.) But once you kill off your ego it makes life much easier and more bearable. Way easier said than done though.

By the way, what is your niche?
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Thank you Mister Music. You are spot on. The spark that helped me to get across the line was to own the fear. I made it up to begin with and I have the rights to dis-empower it. Recognizing the precise fear took me some time though. I had been struggling through trying to resolve my procrastination, but as it turns out procrastination was just my strategy to avoid facing the fear.
My new niche? It's not focused just yet however it will most certainly involve me helping others to reach their "Aha" moments and improve their lives.
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musicman99 Premium
Nice! Yeah, it's hard to get over fears. Procrastination is the biggest thing that holds us back because of either the fear of failure or success. We don't know what's coming next and that's scary! That's a really cool niche, by the way. It's great you even recognized it all and overcame it, most people don't. Whenever we face the unknown, we procrastinate. But just taking action and DOING IT will get you over it. You will probably feel incredibly uncomfortable at first. But when your mind gets used to it, new things get easier.
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Hahaha. I do feel uncomfortable actually. Thanks for your support
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