Did You Ever Get Your Hand Caught in the Cookie Jar?

So you already know where this story is going yes? But well, I am going to tell it anyway.

I was talkng to a friend and somehow whatever I said made him start to laugh. I of course immediately said why are you laughing? And he said because I just got a picture of you as a little girl getting caught with your hand in the cookie jar.

I just giggled. He was so right I was trying to excuse something rather than owning up to it. Oh gee, How did he see that?

UH OH!

And it took me on to several different directions, I know that surprises you.

So first another story, truly about owning up and accountability.

My mother was a fabulous baker. Her cookies we beyond scrumptious. (This was before gluten free and vegan times). And she would bake for hours. And me and my brothers would just wait for her to say come have one.

But here is the thing, many times she said OK just one because these are for the freezer for company.

(How many times have we heard that? Don't touch it, its for company.)

So of course us kids had to come up with another way to really get to those cookies. So unbeknownst to each other, we would reach into that cookie haven of a freezer and take a few.

I mean what is better than frozen chocolate chip cookies? But it became a sort of unexpected ritual that when Mom went to get the cookies out for company the three of us would privately shrink a bit...do you know that feeling? Awaiting that sense of uh oh. We got found out.

The funny part of accountability is that we have to live with it..whether we like it or not..yes? It still haunts us so to speak...

For years my brothers were very vocal that it was my fault. When cookies were missing fingers always pointed at me.

Now I was the only girl in the family, that does come with a few privileges of how to skate by especially with my Dad. But for some reason he even bought into my brothers' scheming.

So for decades even when we no longer lived in the family house it was assumed that i was the cookie thief. ( And honestly I only took 1 cookie at a time because well, I did not want it to be that obvious..lol!)

It was my greatest surprise at my Mother's 80th birthday party, when my oldest brother stood up to make a toast to her, that he said, it is finally time to deal with the cookie thief. I just wanted to crawl under the chair.

And he said after all these decades I have to apologize to my sister. I was the one who ate them!

I was speechless. It was just hysterically funny.

And somewhat pathetic too..know what I mean?

But as a non violent person i was a bit jarred,there was a second when I thought perhaps I should consider strangling him? He let me take the blame for all these years and did not even think it would matter. Arggh big brothers!

Funny our family stories yes?

But here is the thing. That was a life lesson for me. That when we choose to get stuck with our hands in the cookie jar life does not go as planned. Because we hold on to that story whether it is true or not. And we also hold on the guilt. Right?

And so two things this week had me re think this cookie jar thing.Well I guess three if I have to also take into account being told my hand was already in in the cookie jar.Slapped.

One was learning about semrush.Which is the total hand in the cookie jar better do something fast app..Right ? And having to be face to face to with all the reasons why my site was not functioning well.

With semrush we can find out everything we ever wanted to know about how to better our site.

But here is the rub. Are we going to take the time and commitment to not overlook any detail and really make all the errors right? Or do we just say, well I can skate through this.

So its the cookie jar time. Hand in taking responsibility or take the cookies and pretend we never saw the semrush report? It is the difference between being committed to our business or deciding to just not take it seriously..isn't it?

OK here is my other cookie jar moment. And this is after I have written all these blogs about self care as a business owner. I did not truly listen to my own advice. And because of that i have had to be on complete computer and device device blackout for several days..

Ouch seriously not fun.

So I am having to negotiate now what that means .Because I am having way too much fun being part of Wealthy Affiliate.

And the reason I am being so painfully honest is that I don't want anyone else do this to yourself please. We are in this for the very long haul.

Pace yourself. Be well, Everything will get done. Just not all in one day. And that is just fine. We are building strong infrastructure not a house of straw.

So please do me a favor?

Don't get caught red handed in the cookie jar. Ok? On any topic. Stand up for yourself in all ways. And choose accountability. No matter what.

It makes life so much finer, don't you think so?

So do fix your site with semrush. And do puleezze , take care of you!

Did you miss me?

In peace and gratitude,