A little set back - taking mother to the ER

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Mother did it again! I was waiting for my mother to come out of the house and get into the vehicle. She wanted to go and get some flowers before labor day before every flower she wanted was picked through. On her way to the car, she decided a plant needed watering. As she picked up the water bucket and threw the water on the plant, she went down and hit her head. I ran to her aid; she complained that her face and head hurt. I tried to get her off the porch and used the methods we always used to get her up. Nothing worked, and I had no one to help me. So, I called the EMT with her permission, and they came. They did their initial exam on her and suggested she go to the hospital 1. because of her age 2. Because she hit her head 3. she is a diabetic 4. has a pacemaker and is known for heart problems 5. when they got her up, she was dizzy 6. asked her age 86 7. They requested her first name and last. and mother replied, "Janet, Stupid." On our way to the hospital. My mother asked for her hearing aids, and before I could get them to her, the ambulances took off. I finally caught up with the ambulance 1 mile before reaching the hospital. She was watching for me from the ambulance and fussing with them the whole way. When she saw me behind the ambulance, she calmed herself down.

Hospital:

She waited for over an hour for the doctors to come and check her out; she kept complaining about the neck brace hurting her. The nurse came in and asked if the doctor had seen her yet? No. The nurse typed something into the computer and said he would be there shortly. Another hour went by, and Dr. Sinz came. He made some jokes, squeezed the chics on her face, told her how cute she was, checked her neck, and took the brace off. It took less than 10-15 minutes, and he told her he would have an x-ray on her knee and a CT scan on her head. He explained that when a person turns 65, the brain starts to shrink, and any impact will make the shrinking brain move. The space between the brain and skull has tiny veins that could break, causing internal bleeding. Based on this information mother agreed to stay and have this procedure done.

Procedure:

And 2.5 hours later, she was taken up to have the procedures, and it only took 20 minutes to be completed. I should say, "That the time she was taken out to the ER room to have the procedure done and back to the room was only 20 minutes." We were told it would take two to three hours before getting the results. They were sent downstate to another hospital for them to read the CT and X-rays. After 6.5 hours, mother had made up her mind, and she was leaving. When the nurse checked on her, she replied, "You are dressed!" Mother told her she was ready to go, and she had it; she wasn't waiting any longer! My mother took off all the leads, and I told her I was not taking out the IV line. She had to wait for the nurse. My mother sent me out to get a wheelchair, and I couldn't find one. I saw two nurses that were not doing anything and asked them to find a wheelchair; my mother wanted to go home.

When I returned to the room, my mother had pulled out the iv line, and blood was dripping on the floor. Fortunately, the nurse and wheelchair were right behind me, and the nurse immediately took care of the situation and stopped the bleeding. When the nurse left, mother got into the wheelchair, and out we went. They were yelling, waiting for the paperwork and report, and my mother cried, "Send them to me! I'll read them then, and the only way I'm coming back into hospital is when I'm completely unconscious or dead!"

Problem:

Hospital had a multi-million dollar addition and never hired enough staff to cover all departments when one department told the other department to speed things up! Resentment sets in, and everything takes even longer, and that is especially true at the southern hospital for CT scans and x_rays; they become resentful, and things take longer. Not only do patients get upset, but strain underworked staff.

Results:

I let my best friends in the medical field correct her for her behavior. They told her what she did was dangerous because of her age and her medical condition and to lay down her stubbornness. She promised she would behave, but I know my only temporary mother. She didn't outlive her mother, father, sister, and all her brothers for nothing. She will do as she darn well, pleases, and doesn't give a rat behind on what anyone else thinks. I keep a close eye on her, and she tells me she is grown and to back off! So, I remind her if you fall, I can't get her up, and if you don't want to go for an ambulance ride, you better listen! We are now at checkmate

Therefore, I apologize to everyone if I didn't get back to any of your helpful comments on internal linking. Those that I was able to get back with, I appreciate all your help. I have a lot to catch up with. I have to go and chase my mother down; she is outside again! I have a twin sister who is disabled and can not help. Even though I have MS, Diabetes, and liver disease. I will take care of my mother the best I can and continue with WA. My mother refused to get life insurance, and everything fell into my hands to take care of. That is another reason for joining WA to make extra money. So, I'm not giving up, and don't you, either. Things will work out eventually. Peace and Christian love to all!

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Hi Alma,

I love your sense of humor that came through in treating your mother. She is a fiercely independent lady and there is very little you can do about that. I sure empathize with you.

Please make sure you take the time to recharge your batteries.

All the best to you.

Cheers.

Edwin

So sorry you had to deal with this. I had to deal with many ER visits with my mother, so I understand what you're going through. In dealing with the ER's I also understand your mother's frustration.

Whatever you do, please take care of yourself as well. You can't care for your mother if you get down. I will keep you both in my prayers.

I am so sorry for you and your mother. I also hope they improve things at that hospital, that is really horrible too! I went through something similar with my mother. It is really hard when all of this suddenly becomes your responsibility and there is nobody else to help you. Nobody has training in this kind of stuff unless you happened to work in a nursing home.

I hope things get better for you both,

Barbara

I'm sorry to hear all that, Alma! I hope that everything works out in the end, my friend! Keep striving and thriving!

Jeff🙏

Yes, I can feel your anguish. I had a similar incident with my mother in May 2020. She wasn't eating much because she was frail and 86. Whatever she wanted, I would get for her. Just before Memorial day she said she had a hankering for potato skins. So because of the "pandemic", restaurants were closed. I told my mother I will make her the best tater skins you have ever had.

I made them and then went to her house to finish them up. I went back to her bedroom where she was in bed I told her to get up because you are getting ready to eat potato skins. :-) I walked back to the kitchen and started finishing up making the potato skins. While I was doing that my son called me and he said Nannie (that is what he calls his grandmother) called him and was screaming. I said what are you talking about? I just saw her in her bedroom. I walked back she was on the floor.

I tried to talk to her and asked what happened but she just stared out into space. I tried to get her up but she Gently pushing me away. I tried that a couple more times I called my sister who is a chiropractor she rushed over.

We surmised that she had had a stroke and recall EMS. They took her to the hospital and she was giving the blood clot medication. And it surprised me that it only works on 10% of the people it is given to.

My sister wanted to put our mother in assisted living which I did not want to do.

She was put in assisted-living after physical therapy and in the middle of July she was found unresponsive.

We went to the emergency room my sister and I had several treatments done to her, one for a collapsed long.

She was moved to the intensive care unit.

On July 17th 2020, family gathered around her and being the eldest, I made the decision to remove all life supporting measures. This is what she wished in her will .

So on July 17, 2020, my mother went to heaven at 11:20 AM.

About 10 min. later there was a supernatural event that occurred. And I can talk about that to anyone who wants to hear it.

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