You Are In Control
Self-confidence, as with all self-development areas, lies totally within your control. This may often be easier said than done. You tend usually to allow your experiences and the people around you to influence the relationship you have with yourself.
There is always the tendency for you to seek validation and the proverbial stamp of approval.
While that has it's place, the number one go-to place for validation should always be you.
There is a simple exercise that I have used over the years to help me build my own self-confidence. The most important tool required is a video recorder or a mirror.
Getting To Know You
Sit or stand (I like to stand) in front of your mirror or video recorder (my favourite) and engage yourself in conversation.
Yes, you heard me. Talk with yourself.
Here are some questions to get you going:
- Are you proud of yourself and what you have accomplished?
- Do you feel that you are a person of strong self-worth?
- Are you happy with the direction your life is taking?
- Do you enjoy pursuing your goals and objectives?
- Do you enjoy your own company?
As you look at yourself, ponder on each question for a minute or two and then answer. No prolonged thinking. Look yourself straight in the eye and . . . answer.
Listen carefully to how you repsonded, paying attention to your body language, tone, facial expressions, etc.
As you look at yourself in the mirror or view your playback, you will see and hear your own level of confidence and determine whether or not it is where you want it to be.
If it is not, it may be time to change the way you are engaging with you.
My question to "Mr. Bill Gates" Is that I only have $1,000 on me, but I really need $50K by the end of this month! What can I do to make $50K?
Reply
I never liked doing those exercises in from of the mirror, I never liked the way I felt when having to see myself. Interesting, even now, after reading those prompts, I realized how much I was hiding from myself. There's a lot more to the reasons behind that, but suffice it to say, now I understand what I needed to do to make it this far in life.
Six years ago, I emerged my true self and have traveled quite the journey. Now its time to face the mirror and, quote, 'Make that change ("Man in the Mirror" by Michael Jackson.).
Rudy
Your sharing is so touching and hits home.
With such honesty, you are well on your way to strengthening your self-confidence and influence others.
It is only ourselves that we have to live with to the end - like it or not.
I prefer to like it. 🙂
Thank you so very much for sharing.
Cassi
When we take risks and are resilient enough to manage the consequences - good or bad - that further strengthen our confidence.
Thank you so much for taking the time.
Cassi
Have a great day!
Trevor
Whether I am having video meetings or not.
Once I am working, I am dressed for work, thankfully without the offline suit and tie. 🤦♀️
Business casual is the dress code now.
Cassi
