I know many of us know this in our heads or have heard it before, but I see too few WA members who actually practice the feedback sandwich philosophy. Thus, the reason for my blog today.
I do hope everyone finds this blog to be helpful and useful as we work to pay it forward within Wealthy Affiliate. Perhaps this is a reminder or perhaps you are hearing it for the first time, either way, I hope it is something you incorporate into your feedback.
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uncleyeti
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You know, I've been thinking along the same lines as Lb830, but maybe that is wrong. We are so afraid of hurting people's feelings, but perhaps the majority of the people on WA want constructive criticism and aren't going to feel hurt at all. I don't know why we assume we're going to hurt their feelings. I've seen no evidence of that mentality. Maybe we aren't as objective as we think.
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Lb830
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maybe it has to do with they never talk to you again after giving them constructive feedback? At least that has been my experience so far.
Lorna43
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uncleyeti
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Well, I don't know that I have a lot of conversation with anyone here that doesn't have to do with what we're doing. Not much casual socializing. Most everyone says thanks. There are so many people on WA, sometimes our paths just don't cross that often. I don't think anyone has just ignored me.
stephhill
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I too have had one experience in which someone's feelings seem to be hurt, but I am super careful in making sure what my two slices of bread in the sandwich (the things I like about their website) are full of substance. It seems to lessen the blow when you need to give them advice which they may not want to hear.
Lb830
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I loathe giving feedback... I personally want to know where I need to improve. However, most people don't want that. They want to be told they are doing absolutely wonderful and you can't help them to do any better. I really have to sit and carefully think about each and every word and even when I do that it seems I hurt someones feelings. I just sum it up to I can't win. I tell them what I think and then tell them to ask the community because my opinion is just that.. my opinion.
I absolutely hate hurting other peoples feelings and tend to forget that they really don't want to know what I think.
I absolutely hate hurting other peoples feelings and tend to forget that they really don't want to know what I think.
boston10111
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I'm still new but just the other day I gave a huge list of constructive feedback and she actually private messaged me asking how to go about everything etc...she very grateful and I was really honest with her. In my opinion we are all here to start business right? So if you can't handle honest feedback that will improve your business. This is probaly the wrong community for you. I want to make money. Not be told how wonderful my website is when it's a lie. Entrepreneurs are open minded to suggestions. That's how they succeed. That's how they become the best
stephhill
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I do not like hurting people's feelings either. At the same time, are we doing them any favors when we just give them a false flowery feedback to their site? If we are to truly help them, we need to let them what needs improving. But I know, some people may take it wrong. It is a tough call.
Lb830
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All I can say is if you really want me to give you feedback, just know in advance that my intentions are to help you. I'm not one to say nice stuff just to make you happy, I'd rather give you my honest opinion in hopes that you succeed.
stephhill
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Oh I know you are. But I think one of the problems we have is that we are not able to gauge someone's personality when giving feedback, because we have all this technology in our way from getting to know each other. You are wonderful and you have helped me too. I remember you gave me really good feedback on my websites which was spectacular.
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Vikingo
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OH you are right! sometimes it is difficult to point some item to improve without hurting people, I mean, you do not try to hurt but the person may feel so, The one you try to help may feel attacked instead of helped. So it is an awesome way to help people, I'll take! thanks
boston10111
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Thanks for the training. You seem to have been busy today now that you can post training. The other ones are great(even though I didn't comment) but I do like this one the most. I do what you say with the sandwich feedback but yes alot of people don't do it which is a ashame. When I use the site feedback most of the time people will just say great website. Keep it up. But that's not what I'm requesting. I can just tell myself that. It's great for motivation but bottom line is you need feedback. Good feedback that points out your mistakes. If you don't get that kind of feedback, how are you going to improve your business? That's why most of us is here. To create a business not get a compliments on a website that won't flourish in its current state.
stephhill
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Absolutely! Well said and yes you are right - been busy today, but I am about to hit the sack. It is almost 4am my time in USA. Thank you for reading my training (all of them) and keep in touch okay?
