On Losing Someone You Love So Much
I lost my father last December 26, 2016. He suffered from stroke in July of last year. It was a downward spiral from there. That was his third. The first and second affected his mobility but not his mind. He was still as sharp as he was before the stroke. However, the third one was different. All of a sudden, he couldn't remember my name. He only knew me as one of his daughters.
He couldn't understand what we were saying. He couldn't find the words to say. He couldn't get up from bed; much less walk, feed himself or do even the simplest things. I was not used to seeing him that weak and extremely dependent. I always saw him as someone strong and brave and someone who always knew what to do. He was a very independent man. He never wanted to be a burden to anyone so he fended for himself as much as possible (even after the first two stroke incidents).
He was glassy eyed when I last saw him; just a few hours before he died. I knew there was something wrong. My last words to him were “ I love you; you know that.”
He was an extraordinary man; always showing love even to people he hardly knew or people who couldn't care less. The pain of losing him is something that I have never felt before. He was my father, my mentor, my friend. Despite the fact that I miss him; my heart can still smile because I know he is more than OK. He is in a much better place.
He was one of my most important reasons why I wanted to succeed in WA. I wanted to help him in the best way I could. He's no longer here but I'm sure, he'd want me to press on and pursue the rest of my goals.
So, I'm back. I want to continue what he started. There are so many people to help; so many people to love.
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Your post is touching, I lost my father too, so I have a reasonable sense of your feeling - I wish you continued strength. It's a motivating post, and I enjoy the read.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I do think you should press on. As much as you wanted to succeed for him, he would want you to succeed for you even more. That's how parents are. Your success can be a tribute to him as well as to your own hard work.
Hi. Sorry for your lose. I too lost my father, I understand. Mine had Parkinson's.
I think your story gives encouragement to those facing similar reasons to want to not press on. Your right he would want you to continue. I shed a tear reading this, it was very moving.
Thank you
Millie
I underestand your pain. May your love for your father and your memories of him make you stronger- you need this now. And I thought you might want to read this Mother Vera
My dad died back in 2006....he was 92...my mom is alive and 96 yrs old....I am almost 70 yrs old...I can relate to your pain...somebody said no pain no gain...I do not know about that thought but I can say that this is school...
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Hi Tricia, I'm sorry for your loss. You are lucky your memories of your father make you stronger. Very best wish you success.
Thank you so much. All the best to you as well.