Could you help me overcome my fear of asking for help, please?

Last Update: July 23, 2018

One of my biggest weaknesses has always been asking for help when I need it. I have always felt like the only person I can really count on is me and I expect myself to be able to figure it all out. Whether it's posting questions in Live Chat or sharing my site on social media, I am always worried I am somehow putting people out simply by asking for their support or guidance. Writing that out makes me see how ridiculous those thoughts are - in reality no one has to help, and so what if they don't, what's the worst case scenario really and someone might respond?

I am getting to the point in the training where social media presence is starting to become an important part of the website building process. I've always known that it is, but I went into this full steam ahead figuring I would have the ability to do what I had to when I got to this point. As a self-proclaimed introvert, I'm doing my best to get over this irrational fear.

My first step tonight was to post my sight on Facebook for all my friends to see and ask for their support in helping me to grow my site. I think that's a pretty good first step. It may seem like a small one to many of you, but trust me when I say this is a hard thing for me to do. In the back of my mind I am afraid they are all just laughing at me.

Do any of you have these sorts of irrational fears and what do you do to push yourself through them?

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CarolMeador Premium
Hi, Su. Thanks for posting this topic. I'll bet you'll find that a lot of us are mediaphobes! Like Stuart, I have been on FB a long time, and have joined Google+, but don't know how to use it. Need to make myself just get in there and do it!
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suwatts Premium
Thanks Carol. I am slowly trying to figure out Google + and I am just starting to venture into more instant stuff like Pinterest and Twitter. I am just going to try to remind myself to take it one step at a time and learn a little more as I go. I am a little envious of all the young students on here that grew up with all of this stuff, but all we can do is try I guess. Thanks for the support
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CarolMeador Premium
You're sure welcome, Su. I know what you mean about envying the kids who grew up with this stuff. I have a Google+ account, but don't check it very often because I don't know how to use it.
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DaniMontana Premium
Thanks for being honest and vulnerable:) I can completely relate! What I'm practicing is focusing on the task and just doing it regardless of how I'm feeling...it's not easy!
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suwatts Premium
That is some good advice and breaking it down into one step at a time is a great way not to feel overwhelmed. I try to only focus on the most current hurdle and will worry about other stuff later. Thanks for sharing. I was pleasantly surprised this morning to see a bunch of friends on FB who had shared and liked my page
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RAFStuart Premium
So pleased for this post, I have the same fear when it comes to social media, probably as I have been on both face book and twitter a long time, and done little or nothing with either site. Am trying to bite the bullet.
See that you are like me still on level two, but have gone onto face book, think that I may take a leaf out of your book and just bite the bullet.
Wishing you every success.
Stuart
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suwatts Premium
It's nice to know someone can relate. Currently my only online presence is on Facebook. I have never really been interested in all the other stuff, but I guess I'll need to learn. I posted my site on Facebook with a heartfelt message asking for support yesterday night, very late, and started to second guess myself. This morning I woke up to a bunch of people who had shared and commented positively about it! What a nice surprise! Here's to overcoming your fears!
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