Mother's Day Can Be Dreadful For Some But Its A Great Day

byRoseblogger

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Updated 5 years ago

I know that there is a woman out there who is afraid of this day, I know that Mother's day as great as it is, can trigger all kinds of emotions, for some it's a reminder of denied pleasure of holding your own baby in your arms and for some is a reminder of the loss of a mother.

For some its a painful memory of the chance lost, failed treatments, miscarriages and lots of tears, see, there is a group of women and men who are suffering in silence, I want you to know that you are heard even in your silence, and your pain is real and valid.

But life is a beautiful thing and love is a wonderful thing, the desperation you feel and even the sense of failure, it's a testament of your love and determination. There is beauty and love even in your brokenness.

I can not tell you how you should deal with this day or what you should do, but if you have lost a mother, just hold on to the sweet memories you shared together and cherish them because, even though she is not physically with you, her presences is felt when you remember the wonderful things you shared together.

Problems with parents

But there are those who do have mothers but have bad experiences and you can not find anything good to say about this day, because to you a mother does not represent the beauty and grace of a loving caring woman who would do anything for her children.

Maybe you feel like you would be better off not mentioning this particular day, well, it's really up to you to decide, whether you want to remain bitter, or if you want to surround yourself with positive energy and do better for yourself and for those who are surrounding you, and to maybe in the future do better for your own children.

Forgive those who have wronged you, not for them, but for your own peace of mind and for your own well-being, there is no need to be carrying a heavy load, if your parent has wronged you, you don't have to suddenly become best friends with them but, just forgive them and move on with your life.

I do believe that if a person only brings negativity into your life, then it is wise to distance yourself from that person and not let them drag you down, but it's also important to forgive and move on.

To love and then to lose

If you have lost a baby or have had failures in your attempts, don't blame your self, it's not something you did or could've done, just keep trying if you can, but if you have reached the end of that journey, then try to focus your energy in another direction and find a way to heal and find the positive side of life again.

Most of all, know that you are not alone, people often don't find words to express how painful it s to go through these things and sometimes it's fear that keeps people silence, fear of being judged, fear of getting offensive comments, fear of feeling like you are viewed as a failure.

Fear that you are not good enough, fear that the universe is paying you back for mistakes you might have made in the past.

So Mother's day to some is a day that brings lots of confusion, because if you have lost a baby, or a mother, people are not sure if they should wish happy mother's day, or just be quiet or just pretend like they don't remember, or just avoid you all together.

In conclusion

Happy mother's day to the lucky ones who have experienced the joy of having a child, whether by adoption, fostering or any other means that they have had the child, happy mother's day to you.

Happy mother's day to those who also have experienced the love and care of a mother

And to those who are not sure under which category they fall, I say, you might not be holding your child in your arms right now, but the love and the hope you have of one day having your own bundle of joy, may that give you the peace and joy for now.

And to those who loved and lost, to those who are surrounded by angel babies, I say may you have comfort and peace knowing that you did all you could and you are a wonderful person who should be celebrated too.

And for those who are still traveling in the journey, and holding their children in their hearts and dreams, I say, hope your destination is near and I hope it will deliver your heart's desires keep your head up and good luck to you.

Thank you for your time

Rose