Being Patient With Yourself
It's been a while since I last posted. Life has been busy lately and I have had so many projects that I signed myself in, which is good and bad..good because I don't like being bored and stagnant. Bad because I tend to overstretch myself which left some areas of other projects being mediocre which I am working on.
Of late, I have been noticing some negativity and a few people around me also has had pessimistic thoughts that led and pushed me to write this short piece of post.
I guess I am back again with venting out here in WA which I love because there are a lot of positive people around here and more experienced thus more wisdom emanates from them!
Just recently, I had this one individual that I thought of as a role model but every time I would send messages to this person, the tone and response was condescending and there's always a presumption on her part, of me not doing my best. What is quite hurtful is when we exchange messages, there are some inserts of my personal activities and what have you which she neglects to acknowledge.
Which led me to feel that I am just a bother to her ( a normal feeling at first).
I guess in this fast pace life that we are in, some pleasantries, a little inquiry and a listening ear is so hard to give to others. A listening ear and asking questions which if patiently given would have avoided jumping into those preconceive assumptions that leads to being condescending and judgmental.
So, as I was reflecting.. I realized that this person on the other end is not personally impatient with me but herself because "in her messages, she always has added phrases of how busy she has been and that she tends to respond haphazardly as she's rushing". Which leads me to these passages below in this post.
Being Patient With Yourself
Being patient with other people can be difficult especially if we are stressed and has so many tasks at hand. But sometimes we find it even more difficult to be patient with ourselves. We have high expectations of ourselves, and we have lofty goals.
We want to accomplish things now, not later. We want to be as "perfect" as possible, and we want our lives to unfold according to our own timetables which can happen if we persevere and has discipline.
But things don't always turn out as planned. Our lives are not perfect, and neither are we. So a helpful hint for dealing happily with your world and yourself: be patient with all people, beginning with that particular man/woman who stares back at you each time you gaze into the mirror.
Here in WA..we all work hard and has bigger goals but that should not make us feel pressed for time to listen and to help! That should not let us neglect ourselves and be impatient!
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of someone else.----Judy Garland
Thank you for reading..Please like and share your thoughts if you may!!
Nida
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Awesome post Nida!... You are absolutely right! I have had to learn this lesson durinf rhis process. To take time out of my busy schedule to listen to myself too. I have had friends that have been too busy to listen to me but I could always set aside time to listen to them. I remember to keep an open mind and positive attitude.
I can't agree with you more Nida. Patience does give us time to think things through and see them for what they really are before we pass judgement.
I have never thought about being patient with myself but I suppose it is true when they say we are our own worst critics. Maybe if we exercised that patience with our own selves we would be able see a lot of good in ourselves. Thanks for sharing.
Nida, really sorry you went through that. I went through a similar ordeal as well however that didn't stop me from doing my best.
You and I must have PMed the same person. Lol just kidding.
That's great. I am glad you kept your positivity.
You maybe right (haha). Thank you for stopping by.
Take care.
Nida
Well, my message just disappeared, so will start over. You are so right...we need to learn to be patient with others and with ourselves as well. It isn't possible for us to put ourselves in the other's place if we don't know what is going on with them. Sometimes there just isn't much time to spare, so we hurry through tasks. To develop some patience, perhaps we should slow down and smell the roses more.
You are right. Thank you for that wonderful thoughts. "We have to slow down and smell the roses more".
Take care.
Nida
You're right! Patience and kindness are important when responding to others in our community. We have no idea what situations people have been in or are currently facing in this community. In fact, we know that some are facing major health battles. So our patience and kindness can go a long ways as we interact. Like you said, we can listen and help. Both are part of extending patience and kindness to others.
Thanks for the post! :)
Colleen
Exactly Colleen. Our patience and kindness can go a long way!
Thank you for your wonderful thoughts.
Take care.
Nida
Thanks for sharing. Life has so many ups and downs that require us to be patient with each other. Sometimes our friends are going through things themselves and their attitude is not the same. Let them know how you feel and ask if they’re okay. Unknowingly, the pressures of life changes all of us temporarily at some point in life.
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What comes to mind is: Patience is a virtue. Thanks. Cheers AJ
Yes AJ, it is indeed! Thank you for stopping by.
Take care.
Nida