Sorry for your loss. I understand. My dad died 7 years ago in December. I think of my father often and all the great times we share. I also know he is home with the Lord which gives me comfort. Debbie

how tragic! At least you are honest with your feelings which is the first step to being a real human! Keep well. Jack

Sad to hear that. It's only natural to feel the way you do. You have every right to grieve for the people dear to you.

My condolences on the loss of your mom and you friend. We all only have one mom, and that (normally) hurts the most. And for us left behind it adds to the pain when someone so young goes away, also when he leaves a young son behind. I talk from experience, since I lost my mom on the last day of the year 2000, and my dad died when I was 11 years. But if there is lots of comfort in believing that there is a bigger plan, and that we are not supposed to understand it, and never will. And it's of course acceptable to grief the loss of people we love, but also try to "get up again" and keep the love in our hearts. Counting the blessings for all the good memories you have, it will surely help you on the way.

Hi, Myles. It's nothing selfish. It's just an emotional state that we all go through for the loss of someone special. I feel the same way, mom died on Sept 17. I haven't seen her for more than eleven years and was not able to go home for her burial. I totally understand how it feels.

Sometimes when we have cried out loud, we think that the pain goes away and that time heals. Love ones have special places in our hearts and when they're gone, they leave a void in our hearts that no one else can fill. Time does not heal. But in times such as this, when we are hit with our emotions in the lowest ebbs of our lives, know that God is our comfort. He will surely sustain us with His grace to make us go through the pain of separation.

I still cry, and I cry often. I know that in time, God heals. My antidote ~I fill my memory bank with all the good things that I shared with my mom. It makes me feel better. I know that it's hard especially during the Christmas season when family gathers to celebrate. But, our moms and your cousins are now in a better place celebrating with us in spirit. Cheers, Myles! I believe that they want us to be happy all the time.

I understand your loss, there is nothing selfish about it!

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Hi, holiday am sorry to hear your lost..how are you doing? I know the feeling..about 5 years ago unexpectedly my only son die, he was only 31 years old..3 weeks later my dear mom die.. she was 100 years..I went into the depression for almost 2 years. I missed my son very much.. now just me and my dogs...feel free to connect with me here anytime.. i will pray for you...we talk soon.

I'm sorry to hear about your losses :( It's understandable to be selfish in this regard.