I'ts Time To Toughen Up Mel
Hello everyone
It's been a tough few days for myself. On many of an occassion over the last 3 days, I have stood up and walked away from the computer, stormed out of the house and sat on the front steps of our rental.
You see I was hoping that the fresh air would start to help me deal with everything that going on inside my head.
Ugh! What Have I Done?
The move to the country has been a little bit of a struggle - the not being able to fit in part, the constant assault of bugs biting you, swan diving into your drinks and food or constantly trying to get up your nose. OMG they are everywhere!!!
And don't get me started on the topic of the snakes *cringe*
You just gotta love country living in Australia
But hey, I knew what I was getting myself into, before we moved here to better my husbands career.
Now, my husband is a wonderful and caring man.
Ken is overjoyed that I have found the WA platform. He says its awesome to see a fire lit in my belly and becoming so passionate about life once more. Honesly his support is amazing. I love him with all my heart and soul.
It's true, WA is now my life. I love the people. I love the support. I love reading everyone's blogs. I'm so addicted to it, it's crazy!!!
I start my mornings with a cup of tea and a bowl of cereal and sitting down in front of the computer, working my way through each and every blog posted, then on to answering any emails fellow members have sent. Once I've caught up, I hit my course work and onto updating my websites.
Oh Boy!!!
Then last week I sat down and looked over the household budget. My heart skipped a beat when I checked my bank account and noticed the monthly WA premium membership fees payment had gone out. It totally slipped my mind at how bad the Australian dollar exchange rate is compared to the US dollar. So over $73 was taken out. I really felt sick to my stomach.
My Not So Bright Idea
Our budget is tight already as it is.
My husband, bless his soul, didn't batter an eyelid.
It did however hit me pretty hard when I went to do the monthly grocery shop. We really didn't have a lot left to spend.
I felt so bad.
So I thought about it for a while and decided something had to be done. I decided to set up a drop shipping site.
My thought was if I could get some extra money coming in, I could pay for my membership and put extra money towards groceries and bills.
So I put my heart and soul in to setting up my shop, spending hours every day researching the products I wish to place in my store.
I worked hard setting up multiple social media accounts and posting away. Then the other day I thought I would spend around $5 a day for 3 days using some Facebook ads to try and get some paid traffic to my store. I got plenty of visitors but no sales :(
I know this will take a little time...but I was kind of disappointed. I have yet to start blogging on that site but will as of tomorrow. The hopefully traffic will flow soon.
Ladies Be Careful!
Unfortunate events occurred to me by using Face Book advertising and Social Media.
I was inundated with constant abusive messages on my ad comment sections and through social media. I am only trying to sell products in the BohoChic niche. So I can't understand why I was targeted.
I mean some of the comments were very offensive to the point I had to report it to Face Book.
I had to translate these messages - but I wish I hadn't. Nobody wants to see messages like "Die M***** F***** Die" and "I going to slice your head off and let your blood spill till the ground"
It really shook me to my very core. I know there are stupid mean people in this world, I just wasn't expecting to cross paths with them like this. I'm sorry I had to post those comments but I wanted to warn other Ladies on this platform.
Please be careful ok.
I wish we were warned about the dangers.
Lucky me also got multiple disgusting messages from men through Twitter and Instagram. What is wrong with people?
Why can't they just show some respect?
Why can't they just leave me alone!
I now block..block..block a lot of people.
This world of marketing can be tough. I know I have to develop a thicker skin...but it's not easy for a person like myself. It will take time.
Today I'm questioning if I have made the right decision joining up.
I have decided that I wont be paying my next membershipn next fortnight if my store has made no sales.
I refuse to take money out of our food budget. Much to my husbands constant protests.
One, being me, is getting sick of eating multiple meals of rice with beans, noodles or soup. I need steak!
I will however will stilll be researching and writing blogs. That part will not stop.
I will miss reading everyone's posts.
Hopefully I wont be away for too long.
Please say a prayer for me all.
Take care xx
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MsMela,
Our prayers go out to you. Prayer works!
You sound like a very strong woman. Most success stories follow the path of the business cycle which hits its peaks and occasional troughs. This too will pass.
Expect more than the ordinary and you just night get the extraordinary!
All the best!
Michael
I understand your $$ troubles. Can I give you a couple things I did to get my name out there without always having to pay for FB posting>
1.Go to your FB page. In the search bar type any/all things related to your niche. If you get a list. click on the logo listed. if it's an open group Boxes appear in the top picture like, share, following, ... Click on the dots and choose Like as your page. Select your website, okay and back arrow to choose another one. This puts your site on those pages also.
2. Go to your pinterest page. search terms related to your niche.Select pins to put on boards that you name in categories.(For example, mine is cooking. So you can imagine how many categories I have.) Then you can also go back to search bar , type in a related topic (can be the same one) click the arrow on all pins and go down to boards. This will take you to boards, Follow however many. You can do this for what ever your niche is related to.
It's basically free advertising. I haven't made any money either yet, but I have a complicated niche. Money is getting tight for us too! (My husband farms in Kansas) I think I have over 1K followers on Pinterest and haven't put a recipe on yet! I've been doing a lot of other things with my site.
Hope this helps?! Best wishes!
Susan
Hi Ms Mela,
Oh I hope you don't leave Mela! This is such a wonderful community that we have here!!
If it will make you feel any better, I have not made any sales as of today! But I feel in my heart that it's gonna happen one day!!
Now I would love to start seeing results today, but if I don't I'm going to hang in there. I know you have probably heard the saying "Rome wasn't built in a day."
The same can be said for our businesses. It can take up to 1 year before we can start to see results, so PLEASE try and hang in there a little bit longer!!!
Blessings to you and your family,
Donna:)
Oh my gosh Carmela, I am so sorry this is happening to you! Bullying or harassment is absolutely uncalled for and not acceptable! These thugs have pea-sized brains and only go after "what they perceive" to be a vulnerable person and tear them down only to make them feel powerful. They are jealous of you and your gifts and wish they had 1/10 of the power you have. It sounds like you are blocking and reporting as you should. It may make an impact to call these people out and paste their nasty comments right on their pages so their friends (which I'm sure are few and far between) could see what a horrible and fake person they truly are! But then again, that may appear to be bullying on your part, so maybe not. 😡
I understand the budget and how it plays havoc with lives. I went from a substantial salary as Chief Nurse to a monthly disability check that is 1/4 of what we were living on. We have had to cut back substantially, but I'm thankful the Lord has not allowed us to go homeless or God forbid, without insurance as I have a chronic health need that requires monthly visits and medications. I wish there was something I could do to keep you in WA, but I respect your decision and pray the time away will be short and relatively painless. You are a strong woman looking out for her family and that is never a bad thing. You will be in my thoughts and prayers effective immediately! 🙏💕🙏
Liz*
That's a shame. I advertise on fb with 10 sites and get no leads. It's a waste of money and plenty of trolls. Fb has given loozers a voice. Target marketing is the best way or i found email marketing is ok but not as good. $75 for 100 leads seemed to work the best. Or 1000 email adress for $20. Good luck for the future. Pm me for the details if you nedd to anyone. Mike
Just persevere and do not give up. I trust that all will be fine and things will be sorted out. Each and everyone of us have our obstacles and hurdles in life. No matter what, just be grateful and with love, we will overcome this with positive thinking.
Cheers,
Agnes
I wish you all the success. It is important to keep writing your blogs, because that is how you will build traffic. Even with dropshipping, content is key to attracting customers. WA teaching emphasises that.
I have done dropshipping in the past. Can be very lucrative. I dropshipped on Ebay.
Ms Mela, don’t give up. Things may start off slow, but persevere.
Sorry to hear about online abuse. Poor reflection of society today!
Stay positive and don’t let these people deter you from pursuing your goals!!
We will keep encouraging you!!!!!👍👍
Carmela, what a blow. I would not like to experience that. Praying for you now. I found that as I got put of th negative parts of my present reality and started nesting in the way I vision it to be, ie money flows to me daily, it began to happen.
It takes some daily visioning, say a 15 minute meditation in a quiet place where you can be alone with yourself and your powerful inner well being, the non physical part of each one of us.
Do this daily, and "allow" the universe to provide.
Maybe listen on Youtube to Abraham (Ester) Hicks each day too for more insight in these areas. There are thousands of short 10 minute clips there.
This is the team who built the teaching of Law of Attraction in a training schools that the creator of "The Secret" DVD series, Rhonda Byrne attended.
Praying too, Carmela.
Ken
Melbourne Aussie
Glad to find a member who is a advocate of metaphysics and making a success of it.
Yes I believe in repeating positive affirmations which I have been doing for years. Trust me. It works.
All the Very Best.
Blessings 🙏🏼
Thank you Ken, I used to watch those Abraham Hicks youtube videos but stopped once I moved to the country. Looks like I should start once more.
Thank you for your kind words xx
Hi - I am very new to this - I joined WA as a freebie in 2017 but did not start any work until the first of January this year. It is Tough and Challenging but I do get a buzz out of being on here as WA work has made me think about things in a way that is new to me, I really do feel challenged and I can identify with your post.
As far as the nasty messages go - I am not on social media sites yet so haven't experienced anything like this.
In every walk of life there are arseholes, nasty people who just want to big themselves up by causing distress. I have met many over the years, young, old, female, male BUT they are all the same person inside. The one thing that is always common is that they love the sound of their own, often very loud, voice. These knobs who have posted abuse are probably sitting behind a keyboard in a pair of soiled underpants and drinking a warm soft drink. Losers.
Don't let people like this get to you as the vast majority of people are cool.
Sending positive vibes.
Mike
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Hi Carmela, I came across WA when I was researching drop shipping intensively.
It seemed to me drop shipping has bigger profit margin but the overhead can add up quickly, ranging from the monthly subscription for using the platform, to some core plugin(s) to automate the process, fees to access supplier database, and some ad campaigns. Leveraging all the pros and cons I decided to set it aside, at least not until I create other income stream(s).
I think the cost of running an affiliate marketing is lower, compared to drop shipping. But it might take longer to see the results in affiliate marketing.
Anyway, regardless what you choose, I wish you all the best. Hope you get over the struggles soon and come back to WA should you choose to leave temporarily.
Best regards,
Hugh
Thank you Hugh