No more Regrets
We go through seasons, sometimes you find yourself at a cross road and it takes time to decide which direction to go. Moving along in life, you get to a point where you look back and you know you have to take stock of what has happened. You complete a circle or two and you have the luxury of "hindsight".
The luxury of hindsight
Hindsight helps you to asses what happened both good and not so good. You look at situations, circumstances, friendships and family relationships. We live in a broken world. We make choices as good as we know how, in that context and frame of reference you have at that point in time. With the luxury of hindsight you can always make better choices, but it is in the past.
Trial and error business
This is especially true of being a parent. Raising children have a way of keeping you humble, grounded and forever learning. I have yet to meet a parent who can honestly say I have raised my children with absolutely no regrets. Parenting is a trial and error business. I have done it perfectly, my children are angels! LOL Children are just as human as you are, you invest and do your utmost to create a future for them. You humbly attempt to bring them to a place where they will cope in the world and make their own contribution.
Don't forget, they come with their own " packaging" and personality. If you have two or more children from the same parents you realize how unique they are and what control do you have if that is the case?
Regrets and regrets
Then there are regrets and regrets! Some regrets you can just brush off! I firmly believe you must deal with it as good as you can, don't live in denial. If it has been dealt with, it is out the way and you can release the stress of carrying it! Sometimes these are subtle stresses we carry.
The other regret is when you are in a "state" of regret. You don't just have a few thoughts of regret, it kind of consumes you.
Living in the past
Here is the thing, it hit me! The challenge with this kind of regret is, it makes you live in the past! What can you do about the past? ZERO! Regret hi-jacks your life and prevent you from living for today and moving forward into the future. You lose focus of enjoying life and it becomes consuming. Is it worthwhile hanging on to regret, definitely not! How much can you change about it? NOTHING! Choose life and move forward!
Making choices
You are responsible TO people not FOR them, you cannot always take responsibility for their choices. Release the burden of regret (negative thoughts have a toxic reaction in your body and in the end it makes you sick). Travel light!
Love laugh live
What does this have to do with WA? We are involved in relationships all the time. Releasing our negative thoughts and regrets create a positive energy around us and our WAmily and potential customers will sense it.
No more regrets for me, love laugh live! Enjoy you day and travel light.
Has this meant anything to you, please leave a comment.
Kind regards
Marelise
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Hey Marelise,
Great post, living in the past and regrets are simply no good as they are just that in the past and yes hindsight is a wonderful thing too, however, the past is the past and nothing can be done about it other than to take some lessons from it for he/she who doesn't learn from the mistakes of the past is bound to repeat them.
However, the future is where it's at and ours to do as we wish, as we most certainly can do something about that!! ;
Trust you are having a great weekend!
R.
Thank you Rami, life is too short to repeat mistakes but I agree, we must learn from them. We create our realities and our futures.
Thank you for reading and enjoy your weekend as well.
Marelise
Absolutely Yvonne, otherwise the baggage becomes so heavy and it is actually unnecessary, too much else to live for in the moment.
Thank you for reading and enjoy your weekend. I am following you now.
Marelise
That's a great life lesson to learn Marelise.
It took me many years to learn this one. I used to think I was responsible for the behaviour of those close to me, when I understood that everyone is responsible for themselves, their choices and the way they behave, it was very freeing.
I also learnt many years ago that we shouldn't have regrets about the past because the past has created the person we are today.
Thank you Linda, we live and learn all the time. I finally figured out this week that what I am struggling with is regret and when I was able to address it and let it go something "rolled of me" Very freeing like you say!
The lesson was powerful for me and worth sharing. Thank you for reading.
Enjoy your weekend
Marelise
Absolutely, a few words at the right moment can literally change somebody's life.
Thank you Linda!
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Great post Marelise! Yes it doesn't help to live in the regrets of the past, and sure it will make you sick. We need all the energy to face our present challenges. The past is good as a school. What one person said to me helped me a lot... you did what you did because at the moment you thought it was the best thing to do, so release yourself! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Marica for reading the post. Yes it is true, at that moment that is what you knew, we feel guilty about too many things and then we end up carry too much!
Enjoy your weekend.
Marelise