We All have Struggles and Challenges and It Will Be OK
Life can be crappy at times.
It throws curve balls and stumbling blocks that make you wonder if the universe is against you.
So many things go wrong.
Money problems, relationship problems, health problems, work problems, car problems, housing problems, and no one seems to really care or understand either.
It can be lonely.
It is depressing and sad.
Life is Also a Beautiful Thing Too
It is so easy to get caught up in our modern lives and our challenges that we forget to look at and see the true beauty that is always all around us.
The simple warmth of the sun on our skin.
A gentle breeze on a hot day.
Cold water when you are thirsty.
A roof - of any kind - overhead.
Food to eat.
A single friend - as in at least one friend in this world.
The fact is, that there are true and UNLIMITED opportunities for you and me and everyone else willing to go after them.
Make No More Excuses - Seek to BECOME Better and Then to DO BETTER!
I watch a lot of youtube videos.
They give me both entertainment and insights into the mindsets of other people (which I find FASCINATING).
Anyway, I have been watching a new YouTuber who is getting quite a bit of traction and building a channel quickly. That is a good thing and he has some talent which I believe could help him go far and do it much faster than most people.
However, he also has a fatal flaw (in business and in working with other people - and especially in his field).
He always blames others for HIS own mistakes and his own failures...
For example - he CHOSE to knowingly and willingly violate the policies of the company he was working at previously - so they fired him for it.
Then they reported that he had a "company policy violation" - which is TRUE to prospective employers when they verify his former employment there. Yet in his mind - the former company (Not Him) is at fault.
He doesn't get it.
The source of his troubles is in his own mirror - HIMSELF!
And as long as he continues to go through this life trying to whine and cry and blame everyone but himself - he will continue to get what he is getting in - more failures.
All he needs to do to take off like a rocket ship in his work and his YouTube channel (which can also make him a lot of money!) is to STOP making excuses and blaming others for his own failures.
Then work harder and smarter to be BETTER and keep learning and improving.
If he were to do that... then he could and would Become Better and Do Better.
Other Problems We Can't Control
Life is complicated.
There are always things we can control - and other things we can NOT control.
So how can you deal with those we can't control?
Faith.
Choosing to focus on what we CAN control and doing all that we can in those areas to keep doing better.
Community.
Finding other people who are or have gone through similar crisis and getting their help and support.
In time and with effort - it will get better.
Have a great day today - or at the very least - a better day...
Best regards,
L.D. Sewell
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Good morning LD,
Thank you for another very wise post, it's appreciated. I trust that you are doing well.
Life can be difficult, however, we have a choice to rise above difficulties or wallow in them! Some people seem to choose the latter that only brings destruction, I've seen it!
I totally agree, we have to be thankful for the small things in life or maybe they are big things! I'm thankful that I don't need flashing lights and bright colours around me. Taking a quiet walk through the fields suits me down to the ground! Every day, I see something new and something good! I like to keep life simple!
When I walk down the stairs in the morning to make coffee, I'm very thankful for a roof over my head and a nice home and lots more!
As to regard your friend, it's great that he has talent and is growing his YouTube channel, that's fantastic! However, it's a shame that he plays the blame game, that's not good at all! It will also hold him back considerably.
When I was in Bible school the Principal used to say that many of the problems we have are actually caused by ourselves! I have never forgotten this, it's important that we look at ourselves before we start passing the blame. Having said that, I never feel like the blame game pays off. A few wise gentle words and encouragement can often turn a bad situation around.
As you mention, there are many things that we can't control. In this case, I believe is important to focus on our goals and are things that we can control.
I believe that many people get sidetracked online due to fear, and many other things that are happening in the world that are beyond our control. We can focus on a goal and keep moving forward, I believe that this is the best thing we can do.
Thank you for your insight and wise words LD, I believe that many of us appreciate it including myself!
A very happy Sunday to you.
Roy
Roy, thank you for your thoughts as well my friend.
I think you are right - many people do certain things out of fear. Others do them out of ignorance - simply having not learned any better yet.
Or worse, they were taught wrong things by peers or parents.
Kind words - as you mentioned, do go a long way towards making things better in most cases, so long as they are honest too.
Have a great day Roy!
Best regards,
L.D. Sewell
Good morning LD,
Thank you for your reply, it's appreciated.
We have a saying here that says, "some people never learn"! So I hear what you're saying, I believe many people are taught wrongly in the first place. It's probably worse now as we are living in a fatherless generation, unfortunately!
I hope you have a great day. Please take care as you drive and look after yourself.
Roy
This is a fantastic post and so true, it's always so much easier to blame someone else than to look in your own soul.
I always try to live by treating other people how I want to be treated, works most of the time 🤔
Take care
Sandy
Me too Sandy. I always try my best to treat all other people with courtesy, dignity and respect - and to be aware of and accept my own mistakes so I can do BETTER ; )
Best regards,
L.D. Sewell
Hi when we read some of the post written it mirrors ourselves or sometime the company .we keep, I choose where ever I'm to be always positive. People tries to push their ideas on you and if for some reason it does not go down well with you, they get irritated and sarcastic.
It just goes to show in this life you cannot please everyone..
That's a good point too. You can never please everyone - nor should your try. However, we can treat others with respect most of the time (unless they are threatening you, attacking you, etc.).
Beyond that, each person must decide their own course of action and their own choices as to what to believe and what not to believe - then reap their rewards or penalties in life accordingly.
Best regards,
L.D. Sewell
This reminds me of my daughters who complain about different people or friend groups that annoy them. They want to change that person so badly instead of accepting them for who they are. Their only control is how they respond and find some peace within so they aren't triggered. This is a tough lesson to teach, but I keep trying. We will always have those in our social circle that we must accept and move on, even if they will never be our "best" friends.
Thanks for a great post.
Erlene
My pleasure Erlene - and it is not always easy yet it is always necessary to do to be able t do better.
Best regards,
L.D. Sewell
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Yes L.D., most of the time, we get in our own way! That fact that the gentleman chooses to blame others is projecting. However, his wake up call will eventually come.
Having faith is essential to our growth. It gives us the confidence to attempt new endeavors and reach for our dreams.
And yes, we will occasionally encounter things that we cannot control. Nevertheless, the task is to overcome any obstacles.
Canty