Failure is an event, not who you are
For example: "It’s the difference between saying 'I did a bad thing' (guilt) and 'I’m a bad person' (shame)." she wrote.
I like the phrasing of failure is an event, (something we can feel guilt about) and not who you are (something we would say to shame ourselves).
We all make mistakes (fail) from time to time. Some of us fail at something every single day (I should know, I'm one of them.) As long as we do not shame ourselves by calling ourselves "failures" we can rise above whatever thing we failed at. But when we see ourselves as "failures" pretty soon we take on the attitude that we "can't do anything right!" Even if we know that is hogwash, we still tell ourselves that we are worthless, good for nothing whatevers!
Face a failure for what it is—a failure. That's all. It is NOT who you are or who you will become.
So, you didn't meet every single goal on your "to-do" list for the day or the week... that doesn't make you a failure. It just means that you failed at that thing. If you are like me, you probably set some unreasonably high expectations anyway.
Try again.
And again.
And again.
And at least one more time, if necessary.
Hoping everyone has a great "shame-free" weekend!
Karin :)
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Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You'll eventually get there. Have a wonderful weekend, Karin.
Randy
I kind of like to think that I missed accomplishing something not I failed accomplishing something. We probably should count our successes and learn from our failures. Someone else said "someone who has never failed at something never tried".
Ray
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Great. Life is very much greater than all the episodes of events happening.